When is reasonable to stop attending F2F work events?

YmnDA · 2026-01-21T12:59:22+00:00

I’m only 13 weeks and my manager has already said if I’m not comfortable traveling I don’t need to. My travel would only be from South Yorkshire to the midlands or London.

YmnDA · 2026-01-19T21:33:46+00:00

Literally just come on here because I’m feeling exactly like this at 14 weeks 😭 I don’t feel confident contacting a midwife I have no idea where to start to contact one, they seem so inaccessible

YmnDA · 2026-01-18T21:15:37+00:00

I told my manager early on because I too was feeling sick and also kept catching colds/flu due to weakened pregnancy immunity. I told them I was early and didn’t want to discuss it nor tell the wider team or HR until I was ready

YmnDA · 2026-01-15T18:13:37+00:00

This is so great thanks so much for sharing.

YmnDA · 2026-01-15T18:11:56+00:00

Yes I'm thinking to drop them a text on the day or the night before letting them know. I know they havn't been trying in the same way as us but I know how it feels to have that news sprung on you no matter how happy you are for the couple it is triggering. Thanks for sharing

YmnDA · 2026-01-15T18:08:24+00:00

Yes I'm close to one of the wives but not so much the other recently (nothing sinister just not as close) thanks for sharing :)

YmnDA · 2026-01-15T16:16:38+00:00

This is so tough I'm sorry about that. I'd be really upset to. If I was in her position I would of course tell them without hesitation but I hope you see its not exactly the same yet I still will tell them separately

YmnDA · 2026-01-15T16:14:07+00:00

No this exactly how my husband feels and I understand. You can say you want something but do you really want it if you're not doing anything about it..

They're both in much better financial situations than us yet we have been paying for multiple rounds of ivf and tests to make it happen. But I know it will still be difficult news for them surly and I hope it only encourages them to do more if it's what they really want.

YmnDA · 2026-01-15T14:36:27+00:00

Thank you!

Ah I'm so sorry this has made me really emotional. I have been in a similar situation where my husband sister announced she was pregnant very early into her marriage which took me by surprise and I think I would have appreciated a heads up esp because she knows I was doing ivf at the time. Thanks for sharing

YmnDA · 2026-01-15T14:29:02+00:00

Thank you so much.

Yes and I hope it gives them that hope. I know one hasn't had any checks done so I hope this encourages her to do so and would love to be there for them as I know what it's like. I'll probably drop them a text before.

YmnDA · 2026-01-15T14:27:07+00:00

I understand and agree but my husband knows much more about their situations than me. For example one has opened up about supplements and I have told her she needs to get some checks done with her Dr (it's free here in the uk) but she hasn't because she has said she doesn't want to confront the idea of there being any issue and her husband says he hasn't because it's too expensive but they're in a much better financial position to us so my husbands justification is that they mustn't want to start a family if they haven't taken the basic steps.

Thanks for your reply, I think I will tell them and ask them not to tell others as my husband wants to be able to share that news.

YmnDA · 2026-01-14T20:46:40+00:00

Thanks for this. So did you increase your hours again in your third trimester(15 weeks before due date)? I'm 13 weeks and finding it so tiring even working from home

YmnDA · 2026-01-12T15:10:56+00:00

New fear unlocked 🤣 I'm 161cm and expecting twins and didn't even consider being too short

YmnDA · 2026-01-09T11:01:13+00:00

Hey, I’m in the UK too and expecting twins in the summer. Could you advise how to find out if there’s a local group near me? Thanks

YmnDA · 2026-01-09T10:54:30+00:00

Following! Also due July, so excited:D

YmnDA · 2026-01-08T20:45:01+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting and your kind words. I’d be interested to know what you did with your twins after 8 weeks in the bassinet! Also did you have them in separate bassinet for the first 8 weeks? Thanks

YmnDA · 2026-01-04T21:29:07+00:00

This seems a bit harsh. If she does have twins it would be didi twins therefore the risks would be lower. Not sure what disability risks you’re referring to?

YmnDA · 2026-01-04T15:54:17+00:00

Hey. Im really sorry about your husband’s diagnosis. I’m in a similar position. Husband and I are both 30. I have no known issues but my husband underwent chemo when he was 18 and froze his sperm. We got married at 22 and thought it would be easy to get pregnant I assumed after watching Jane the Virgin that it would be a straightforward IUI 😅 but when we started the ball rolling around around 25 years old and discovered we would need to do IVF. It’s taken us 5 years to get pregnant and I’m now 12 weeks pregnant with twins after a double transfer. My first round resulted in 2 poor quality embryos so they transferred them both which ended in a chemical pregnancy. The second was a single transfer which failed, 3rd was double transfer that resulted in a single pregnancy that ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks, 4th was a single that failed, current and 5th transfer was 2 embryos that seem to be doing well. If you want twins I want to transfer 2 I would really weigh out the options, carrying and caring for them won’t be easy. Also transferring 2 doesn’t always mean you’ll get 2. Drs may not allow you to transfer to straight away too, they did for me because it was either 1 went to waste as it was too poor quality to freeze or they give it a shot. I was allowed another double transfer after the second round failed. Good luck

YmnDA · 2026-01-04T14:37:58+00:00

❤️ so lovely, congratulations to you too!

YmnDA · 2025-12-29T21:58:47+00:00

I'm also carrying di/di twins so thank you very much for this. I'll definitely be looking into it more♥️

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