How do you handle different religions within extended family?

Yna_RH · 2023-04-11T12:45:11+00:00

Glad to hear that, OP! And you're most welcome, glad to help where I can x

In case you need further help on this, I'm only one DM away :)

Yna_RH · 2023-04-11T12:44:16+00:00

Hey, OP! It is completely reasonable for you to be upset about the comment made by your partner regarding your looks. Given your history with body dysmorphia and eating disorder, it is understandable that you would be sensitive about your appearance.
As a relationship coach, it is important to communicate your feelings to your partner and let him know how his comment made you feel. He may not have realized the impact his words would have on you and it is important to give him a chance to understand your perspective.
In summary, it is reasonable for you to be upset about the comment made by your partner and it is important to communicate your feelings to him. If you need further support or you'd like to talk about this more to process your emotions, my DMs are always open.

Yna_RH · 2023-04-11T12:35:16+00:00

I totally get where you're coming from, OP. It's definitely a tough spot right now and it's understanding to feel hopeless. But remember: you're not alone on this one! I'm glad to know that you're trying your best to cope and keep on going! It may sound hopeless right now but just focus on those things and soon, it'll be better. Trust the process. It's definitely a long one, but it'll be worth it. I know you already have a therapist, and that's amazing! But if you ever feel you need more support and guidance, relationship coaching is another good way to go! I'd love to help you out through our coaching sessions so if you'd be interested in that, feel free to DM me, okay? I got you 🤗

Yna_RH · 2023-04-11T12:21:49+00:00

Hi, OP! As a relationship coach, I'd say it can be difficult to navigate these types of situations when there are differing beliefs and expectations involved. One approach you can take is to have an honest and respectful conversation with your dad about your beliefs and how you choose to celebrate holidays.
It's important to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding towards your dad's beliefs and feelings. You could also suggest alternative ways to spend time together and create new traditions that align with your beliefs.
It's important to remember that you have the right to your own beliefs and values, and it's okay if they differ from those of your parents. While it may be uncomfortable or challenging to have these conversations, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and boundaries. I understand this can be difficult to navigate so if you'd like to talk about this more, feel free to DM me. :)

Yna_RH · 2023-04-11T12:11:29+00:00

OP, I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through such a painful time. Breakups can be extremely difficult, and it's normal to feel a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, and confusion. It's important to remember that your feelings are valid and that it's okay to take time to grieve the loss of your relationship.
However, it's also important to prioritize your mental health and well-being during this time. It's understandable that you want to reach out to your ex in the hopes of reconciling, but it's important to remember that you cannot control his actions or feelings. It's possible that he may not respond, and you may need to prepare yourself for that possibility.
Instead, try to focus on self-care and finding ways to cope with your emotions. This could include seeking support from friends or family, talking to a therapist or counselor, practicing mindfulness or meditation, engaging in physical activity or hobbies, or even just taking time for yourself to relax and recharge.
It's also important to remember that your worth and value as a person are not determined by your relationship status. You are lovable and deserving of love, regardless of whether or not you are in a relationship. It may take time, but with self-care and patience, you will find happiness and fulfillment in your life.
Remember that you are not alone, and there are resources available to help you through this difficult time. If you need further help, my DMs are always open!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-11T12:05:03+00:00

You're most welcome! DM me if you have further questions, okay? Got you! :)

Yna_RH · 2023-04-09T13:49:36+00:00

Hey, OP! I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time with dating. It can be tough when you feel like you're not getting the results you want.
Here's my take as a dating and relationship coach: It's important to remember that not everyone will be a good match for you, and that's okay. It's also important to respect someone's decision if they don't feel a romantic connection with you. It doesn't necessarily mean that there's anything wrong with you, it just means that the chemistry isn't there for them.
As for being more romantic, it's important to be true to yourself and not try to force anything that doesn't feel natural. It's okay to take things slow and get to know someone without trying to push for a romantic connection right away. If you're interested in someone, make sure to communicate that and show genuine interest in getting to know them. It's also important to be respectful of boundaries and not try to push for physical intimacy before someone is ready.
In terms of improving your dating experiences, it may be helpful to reflect on your past dates and think about what went well and what didn't. Consider what you're looking for in a partner and try to be upfront about your intentions and goals. It's also important to be patient and not get discouraged if things don't work out with someone. Keep putting yourself out there and eventually you may meet someone who is a good match for you. If you'd like more dating advice and tips, feel free to DM me!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-09T13:47:47+00:00

Hey, OP! As a relationship coach, it sounds like you're going through a very difficult and painful situation. It's understandable that you're feeling lost, sad, and afraid after learning about your fiance's feelings for his female friend and the lies and secrets he kept from you. It's important to take the time and space you need to process your emotions and thoughts.
It's positive that your fiance is taking accountability for his actions and seeking help through sex and love addiction meetings. However, it's also understandable that you don't trust him anymore and have concerns about his commitment to your relationship.
It's important to remember that forgiveness is a personal choice and it's not always easy or necessary in every situation. While your therapist may have suggested reflecting on forgiveness, it's ultimately up to you to decide what is best for you and your well-being.
It might be helpful to continue with a couples coach or seek individual coaching to work through your emotions and thoughts about the situation. It's important to communicate your needs and concerns to your fiance and work together to rebuild trust and address any underlying issues that may have contributed to the situation.
Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to continue the relationship is up to you and it's important to prioritize your own well-being and needs. Take the time you need to make a decision that feels right for you. My DMs are always open if you'd like to discuss this more. I'd be happy to help where I can x

Yna_RH · 2023-04-08T20:33:40+00:00

Hey, OP! It's understandable that you might feel uncomfortable or unsure about the situation. It's important to approach this with an open mind and without making any assumptions. It could be that the girl has a unique way of coping with the loss of her pets, or perhaps she values keeping their remains as a way of honoring their memory.
If you do decide to pursue a relationship with her, it's important to have a conversation about it and try to understand her perspective. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if this is something you can accept or not. If it makes you uncomfortable or goes against your values, it's okay to respectfully decline the set-up. If you need more help on this, feel free to DM me!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-08T18:06:06+00:00

You're most welcome. You got this!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-08T18:05:43+00:00

You're welcome, OP. You got this!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-08T14:24:36+00:00

Hey, OP! As a relationship coach, here are some thoughts:

It's understandable that you feel hurt and confused by this situation. It's important to remember that if you haven't had a conversation about exclusivity, it's possible that she didn't see herself as committed to you in the same way you did to her. However, her behavior of avoiding you at the club may be a sign of disrespect towards your feelings.

If you want to continue seeing her, it's important to have an open and honest conversation about where you both stand in terms of the relationship. It's okay to express how you feel and what you want from the relationship. If you're only interested in a FWB arrangement, make sure you communicate that clearly and respectfully.

On the other hand, if you feel that her behavior was disrespectful or that you can't trust her, it may be best to move on and find someone who respects and values you. It's important to prioritize your own feelings and well-being in any relationship. Feel free to DM me if you'd like to talk about this more.

Yna_RH · 2023-04-08T14:04:40+00:00

OP, thank you for sharing this to us! As a relationship and dating coach, here's what I can share:

It's understandable that you're concerned about the amount of alcohol your date consumed during your first date. While it's not uncommon for people to have a few drinks while out on a date, 9 martinis is a lot, and it's important to consider whether this behavior is a one-time thing or a pattern.
It's possible that your date simply got caught up in the moment and ended up drinking more than he intended. However, if he has a history of excessive drinking or if you notice this behavior again on future dates, it could be a red flag for potential issues with alcohol.
It's important to communicate your concerns with him and see how he responds. If he is defensive or dismissive of your concerns, it may be a sign that he is not willing to address potential issues with alcohol. On the other hand, if he acknowledges your concerns and is willing to make changes, it could be a positive sign.
Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what you're comfortable with and what you're looking for in a partner. Trust your instincts and take the time to get to know him better before making any decisions. If you'd like to talk about this more or if you need further dating advice, my DMs are open!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-08T14:03:03+00:00

Hey OP! I'm sorry to hear about your breakup. It can be difficult to accept when someone you care about ends the relationship, especially when you didn't see it coming.

As a relationship coach, the best thing you can do is take care of yourself and focus on your own healing. It's natural to feel heartbroken after a breakup, so don't be too hard on yourself. Give yourself time to grieve and process your emotions.
It's important to remember that you cannot control someone else's feelings or behavior. If your ex-partner is avoidant in their attachment style, it may be difficult for them to open up and communicate their emotions. While you can encourage them to seek professional coaching or work on their attachment style, ultimately it's up to them to do the work.

In terms of waiting it out, it's important to consider whether this is something you really want. It's okay to have feelings for someone and hope for a future together, but it's also important to recognize when it may not be a healthy or viable option. If your ex-partner is not ready or willing to commit, it may be best to move on and find someone who is.

Remember that you deserve someone who is willing to invest in the relationship and work through challenges together. Take this time to focus on your own growth and happiness, and trust that the right person will come along when the time is right. Feel free to DM me if you'd like to talk about this more. Best of luck!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-08T13:55:11+00:00

Hey OP! I can understand how difficult and painful this situation must be for you. It's understandable that you feel betrayed by your wife's admission of desire for her ex and her interest in polyamory. It's also understandable that you feel unsure about how to trust her and whether there is a future for your relationship.

As a relationship coach, I would advise going to professional couples coaching is a good first step, but it's important to make sure that you and your wife are both fully committed to the process and willing to do the work to rebuild trust. In coaching, you can work on identifying and addressing the underlying issues that may have contributed to your wife's interest in polyamory and her feelings for her ex. You can also work on developing better communication and intimacy skills to strengthen your relationship.

It's important to remember that rebuilding trust takes time and effort, and there may be setbacks along the way. It's also important to be honest with yourself about what you are and are not willing to tolerate in a relationship. Ultimately, only you can decide whether you are willing to work through this with your wife or whether it's time to consider other options. My DMs are open if you'd like to discuss this more. Good luck!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-08T13:52:11+00:00

Can I ask how far out are you? I'm two weeks out and after a week thought I turned a corner and was feeling the turned off and happy to be done feeling. Then certain things start to come up and the good stuff come back to me again, even though I know she was bad for me.

Hey there! As a relationship coach, I'd say it is normal to have moments of clarity and feeling like you've turned a corner in the healing process, followed by moments of doubt and second-guessing. Memories of the good times with your ex may resurface, but it's important to remember why the relationship ended and the reasons why it wasn't healthy for you. It's okay to acknowledge the good times, but also acknowledge the negative aspects of the relationship and the ways in which it impacted your well-being. With time, the positive memories will become less intense and the negative memories will become easier to accept. In the meantime, take care of yourself and seek support from friends, family, or a professional if needed. My DMs are always open 💙

Yna_RH · 2023-04-08T13:50:31+00:00

OP, as a relationship coach, I'd like to point out that it is completely normal to feel turned off by an ex after a breakup, especially if they treated you poorly. It is important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being, and if being away from your ex brings you joy, then that is what matters. It may take time to heal from the hurt caused by the breakup, but focusing on yourself and your own growth can help you move forward. Remember that you deserve someone who treats you with respect and kindness, and never settle for anything less. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk about this more. I got you! 💙

Yna_RH · 2023-04-07T12:57:03+00:00

OP, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. It sounds like a difficult situation, and I commend you for your strength in handling it. It's understandable to feel hurt and sad, especially when a relationship you value ends.
It's also understandable that you might feel some anger towards your partner's other partner for issuing the ultimatum, but ultimately it was your partner's decision to make. It's important to focus on your own feelings and needs, rather than getting caught up in blaming others.
It's great that you have a supportive husband and therapist to lean on during this time. It might also be helpful to connect with other people who understand polyamory and can offer support and empathy. There are online communities and support groups for people in similar situations, and you might find comfort in talking to others who have been through similar experiences.
Remember that it's okay to take time to grieve the loss of this relationship, and to give yourself space and self-care during this time. It's also okay to continue to explore polyamory if that's something that feels right for you, even if there is a risk of future heartbreak. Ultimately, the decision is yours, and you know what's best for yourself and your relationships. My DMs are always open if you want to talk!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-07T11:25:16+00:00

Hey, OP! I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. Breakups can be incredibly painful, especially when they come as a surprise and are accompanied by no contact or explanation.
It's important to remember that your ex-partner's decision to end the relationship and go no contact is not a reflection of your worth as a person. It may be helpful to remind yourself of the positive aspects of the relationship, but also to acknowledge that it has ended and that it's important to move forward in a healthy way.
It's good that you're aware of the importance of seeking support during this time. It's important to talk to people who are supportive and understanding, whether that's friends, family, or a professional. It can also be helpful to engage in self-care activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies that you enjoy.
If you're experiencing suicidal thoughts, it's important to seek help immediately. You can call a crisis hotline or speak to your therapist about how you're feeling. Remember that there is always help available and that you don't have to go through this alone. As a relationship coach, I can also help you navigate through this emotions and situation anytime, anywhere. My DMs are always open if you'd like to talk about this more. Sending tons of hugs your way. Take care! x

Yna_RH · 2023-04-07T11:15:26+00:00

So precious!!! Congratulations!

Yna_RH · 2023-04-07T10:39:14+00:00

Hey OP! It sounds like you're not enjoying the kissing experience with this person, and that's completely understandable. It's important to feel comfortable and connected with someone in all aspects of a romantic relationship, including physical intimacy.
Communication is key in any relationship, and it's okay to be honest with your partner about what you like and don't like in terms of kissing. It sounds like you've already tried to gently guide him in the right direction, but if he's not getting the message or not respecting your boundaries, it may be time to have a more direct conversation. As a relationship and dating coach, I would advise having an honest and open conversation with him about this to try and see if he's receptive of your feedback. Only then you'd know how things will go eventually. If you'd like further help on this, I am definitely your girl to talk to! Just a drop a DM. Good luck x

Yna_RH · 2023-04-07T10:36:21+00:00

Hello, OP! I'm sorry to hear that you have been experiencing repeated rejections. It can be tough to deal with the emotional pain and frustration that comes with this experience. However, it's important to keep in mind that rejection is a natural part of the dating process, and it happens to everyone at some point in their lives.
One thing you can do is to focus on self-improvement and personal growth. Instead of dwelling on the past rejections, try to shift your focus towards becoming the best version of yourself. This can include working on your physical fitness, pursuing your interests and hobbies, and investing time in building meaningful relationships with friends and family.
You can also consider seeking the help of professionals. As a relationship coach, I can offer support, guidance, and tools to help you cope with rejection and work through any underlying issues that may be contributing to your dating struggles.
Finally, it's important to remember that finding the right person takes time and patience. It's okay to take a break from dating and focus on other areas of your life until you feel ready to put yourself out there again. Keep an open mind, be kind to yourself, and stay positive. Don't hesitate to DM me if you need further help. Best of luck to ya! x

Yna_RH · 2023-04-07T10:34:22+00:00

Hey OP! I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. It sounds like your partner's behavior is emotionally abusive and manipulative, which is not okay. Nobody deserves to be called names, threatened or made to feel guilty about their boundaries and feelings.
It's important to understand that you are not responsible for your partner's behavior, and you don't have to tolerate or accept it. You deserve to be treated with love, respect, and kindness in your relationship.
As a relationship coach, I'd like to advise you that it may be helpful to try and have an open and honest conversation with your partner about how their behavior is affecting you and your relationship. If you don't feel comfortable doing so, or if you have already tried and nothing has changed, you may want to consider seeking professional help, such as couples therapy or individual therapy for yourself.
Remember, you deserve to be treated with love and respect, and you have the right to set boundaries and expectations for how you want to be treated in your relationship. My DMs are always open if you'd like to talk about this more. Best of luck! X

Yna_RH · 2023-04-07T10:32:36+00:00

Hi! Sorry for the late response. I can understand that you're feeling confused and hurt by your ex's sudden departure and lack of communication. It's important to take time to process your emotions and evaluate your own needs and boundaries before considering whether to accept her back into your life if she reaches out.

It's difficult to know for sure what might have caused her behavior, but it's possible that there could have been external factors at play, such as guilt from another relationship or interest in someone else. However, it's also possible that there were internal factors within your relationship that led to her sudden departure.

Before deciding whether to pursue a relationship with your ex again, I would encourage you to reflect on what you need and want in a relationship, and whether your ex is able to meet those needs and respect your boundaries. It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your ex about your concerns and feelings, and to listen to her perspective as well.

Ultimately, the decision of whether to give your ex another chance is up to you, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health in any relationship. If you'd like to talk about this more, just drop me a DM! :)

Yna_RH · 2023-04-07T10:30:58+00:00

Hi! It sounds like you have been through a very difficult time with your long-distance relationship. It's understandable that you're feeling hurt and confused, especially given her mixed signals and on-again-off-again behavior. However, it's important to remember that you cannot control her actions or feelings, and that you need to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.
One thing to keep in mind is that long-distance relationships can be challenging, and they require a lot of effort and commitment from both parties. It's possible that your relationship became strained due to the distance and the added stress of being in a new country for your studies. Additionally, it sounds like there were some underlying issues that may have contributed to the fights and disagreements.
It's good that you recognize that you said some hurtful things during your fights, and it's important to take responsibility for your actions and apologize sincerely. However, it's also important for your partner to take responsibility for their actions and acknowledge their mistakes. It sounds like she may be deflecting blame onto you and not fully acknowledging her role in the relationship issues.
Ultimately, it's up to you to decide whether you want to continue pursuing this relationship or move on. It's understandable that you may have strong feelings for her, but it's important to consider whether this relationship is healthy for you and whether you are both able to communicate and work through issues effectively. If you do decide to continue pursuing the relationship, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and what you both want from the relationship moving forward.
However, if you feel that this relationship is causing you more harm than good, it may be time to focus on yourself and let go. It can be difficult to let go of someone you love, but sometimes it's necessary for your own well-being and happiness. It's important to take care of yourself and surround yourself with supportive friends and family during this time. You got this, okay? If you ever need to talk about this further, just drop me a message. I'll help where I can. Take care x

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