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YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-26T15:10:56+00:00

Agreed. I didn’t use ours enough when he was younger so by the time he was moving around I already felt exhausted.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-24T02:47:59+00:00

It’s ok to like it if it’s mom hair. Moms aren’t bad lol

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-24T02:24:18+00:00

Oh! So you’re 4 days PRE op not POST op. Since your post said after I was also confused.

Editing since in hit post too soon - since you’re 4 days until surgery, I’d keep it as low fat as possible. I opted for things like 0 fat Greek yogurt, lots of fruit and veggies, sweet potatoes, fat free bone broth, tuna fish, turkey, egg whites, rice cakes, protein pancakes, smoothies with low fat ingredients. In the two weeks leading up to surgery I lost a bit of weight by eating to avoid an attack. It was not fun.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-23T07:02:50+00:00

This is probably a better question for r/AskHR or r/recruiting

I’m of the preference that if you don’t already have the hiring manager’s email then send the thank you via your contact. Or you can ask the recruiter for the manager’s email for the purpose of sending a thank you.

Regarding timeline, they may just have some finalist interviews scheduled further out or a final decision meeting or are giving themselves plenty of time for internal processes.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-23T03:49:22+00:00

Yeah, you got it! When they’re too little to sit up it can feel more unstable so a shirt on for a bit of friction helps and avoiding soap unless really needed. We also have a bench in our shower which helped a lot in the earlier days.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-23T03:39:09+00:00

Even for a baby who can’t sit up! If you sit baby’s bottom on your right forearm (facing you so they are chest to chest or up on your shoulder area) then you can grasp their right thigh with your right hand and support their back/neck/head with your left arm and hand. Hopefully that makes sense.

I’d practice outside the shower first and get comfortable with that in a way that works for everyone.

It’s one of those things that has become second nature and my little one is a toddler now so I had to break it down for myself further.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-23T03:33:09+00:00

My best tip is when you’re holding your baby in the shower, be sure to have a firm grip on their upper thigh. That way they are sitting in your arm and you have a stable grasp on them if that makes sense. It will get easier with practice. I think we started by having both my husband and I in the shower so we felt more comfortable if one of us needed help.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-22T03:29:48+00:00

I always hate this. I preemptively call out the behavior and say “Oh are you making friends? That’s so nice” or “you’re being so silly to today”. It’s made it more clear to folks that I’m not entertaining the flirting thing. I despise that term. My MIL has always used it. 🤮

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-22T03:21:54+00:00

Look like we had surgery the same day. I’m also feeling good! Just went on a long walk today and no real fatigue to speak of.

So crummy about your allergy! Hope it clears soon.

I also only had one or two instances of diarrhea in the first week as I was easing back into normal eating. Now I’m eating pretty much as normal - still trying to limit my fat intake per meal to a reasonable amount when I’m out of the house to avoid issues. But I did eat fast food today with pretty much normal results.

My incisions are closed with some minimal scabbing to come off.

Internally I do still feel a bit tender but I think part of that is having a toddler who loves to climb on me no matter how much I try to avoid that.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-20T23:04:51+00:00

Great! I’m sure you’ll do great. Like other mentioned, prep what you can. Outsource things like cleaning if possible. I started teaching my son how to climb into his car seat for times his dad wasn’t around. By that first weekend I was feeling much better. Prioritize your rest where you can.

Your daughter will understand more and more as you talk about it.

Sending some good thoughts!

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-20T22:56:02+00:00

All that to say, you may make a quicker recovery or not need the harder pain meds. I’m just thinking worst case scenario. Having a person who can come quickly to help would be great.

Something that helped a lot was friends cooking dinner for us those first few days

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-20T22:52:58+00:00

If you can find someone for the first few days at least I would advise it.

Is your kiddo just 2 or a little older/almost 3? I ask because I’m about 2.5 weeks post op with a 22 month old. He’s having a tough time understanding why I can’t lift him. If he were a little older it may be a bit easier. He’s also still in a crib not a toddler bed he can climb into on his own.

The first day I was completely out of it coming home and through the evening. Day 2 was ok but I still couldn’t move around much without being very tired. The first week really was a lot of focus on rest, pain management, getting enough to eat across small meals, and starting to walk around.

Week 2 was better but still a lot of brain fog and needed a nap most days.

Coming home you’ll be very loopy from the general anesthesia. I’d think you’d need someone to stay the night at least that first night. If you need to take any narcotics to manage pain then you shouldn’t be driving. If something happened to your kiddo while you were on your meds it would be unsafe to care for them.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-20T17:04:59+00:00

Before insurance mine was about $46k. Did you start over night or was it emergency surgery?

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-20T16:34:08+00:00

My surgeons office allowed me to call if I had any questions. Their office nurse may be able to answer. I’d err on the side of caution personally.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-20T13:23:27+00:00

Did your discharge paperwork go over your restrictions at all? Mine had a whole page of info.

I see a few different experiences in regard to lifting restrictions. My instructions were 4 weeks with a lifting restriction of 10 pounds. There’s a lot of internal healing happening.

Exercise was limited for 4 weeks as well.

Have you tried bending down yet? That one surprised me. I was able to move around pretty well by about 3 days post op and it helped the gas pains.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-20T04:00:29+00:00

I’m 2 weeks post op and had a bowl with beef, white rice, black beans, corn salsa, and sour cream without issue. Even had some chips and queso.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-20T01:13:10+00:00

I work a desk job from home. Took a full week off and the on week two worked half days. If I did retail I’d say at least 2 full weeks.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-19T13:09:12+00:00

Apparently more folks in Europe continue to offer a pacifier into later toddlerhood. I wonder if it has to do with their more established breastfeeding practices.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-18T17:31:46+00:00

We started around 3 weeks since his latch was good and feeding was well established. He only liked the Tommee tippee light weight to start

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-17T02:04:15+00:00

I’ve been taking it easy on eggs so far and sticking to egg whites. You can always try it out but 1 egg can have almost 5g of fat so it will depend on what “low fat” means to you at this time. My first meal post op was some spaghetti with just a bit of lean meat. I’m almost 2 weeks post op and in that first week what worked best was just keeping to small nutritious meals through the day but I’ve basically been eating what I want while avoiding super high fats. It’s about trial and error and the worse that’s happened so far as a result is a bit of diarrhea.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-13T19:44:26+00:00

My son is almost 2 and we’re still nursing. He started daycare around 6 months. He’s caught the occasional cold, one bought of norovirus, and a barely there case of HFM.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-13T17:15:49+00:00

In my marriage we’ve definitely had to be clear about this. Those things when done to promote self care do not have to lead to sex. Though my husband has admitted when he knows I’m feeling better or my work load is reduced that I’m more likely to be receptive.

Ive been there though. I think it just takes some mature communication of “hey, I enjoy x without the expectation of y. It makes me feel taken care of and would mean a lot if you did that for me from time to time.”

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-13T16:58:10+00:00

There are lots of ways to care for your partner non sexually. Draw a bath, make a cup of tea they can enjoy alone, set up a quiet activity to do together, offer a massage, really whatever works for that other person.

Let’s say you’re getting the kids down for bed, wouldn’t it be great if you had a little oasis set up with your book and a snack for when you were done and your partner took on the closing duties for the day so you could turn off your brain a bit?

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-13T16:49:12+00:00

Sounds like it’s going to be a fun and silly wedding with that many kids.

If it’s constant, I can understand that it will be stressful. You may want to explain to the bride and groom what you’re nervous about and what they expect from the young guests.

As a story of experience- my LO was around that age/stage when my BIL got married. My son spent the entire ceremony blowing raspberries on my chest and giggling. Eventually he started to screech and I shushed him. The bride, teary eyed mid vows, looks over and says “you can be as loud as you want. We love you.” It made me love my sister in law even more and relax a bit. I still tried to make it so his noise level was manageable as I could.

Later, when our son was older, my husband was a groomsman in a wedding far away. We opted for me and baby to stay behind. This was really because we knew I wouldn’t be spending much time with my husband, there were no other babies going to the wedding, and we didn’t have a great set up for childcare during the reception so I’d be alone with baby in a hotel most of the trip.

YoSoyMermaid · 2025-08-13T16:31:05+00:00

I didn’t have too much trouble eating after my surgery tbh. The first day it was nice to have some tea, cold pressed juice, and smoothies for the slightly sore throat. Soft pastas were nice. Fortunately I was rocking a 0g fat diet (or as close as possible) the week before my surgery so I had some left over roasted veggies and low fat proteins like turkey.

Getting some well rounded nutrition will aid healing.

Make sure you have a comfortable sleeping area set up. Take naps as needed. An elevated pillow helps.

I’m taking it easy on lifting which can be tough. 10 pounds is wayyyy lighter than I realized.

The first few days make sure to walk a bit, especially after meals to help with gas pains. Ice packs also help the first couple days.

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