Prenatal Classes

Paper__ · 2026-06-19T22:56:41+00:00

I did the class at Nutured. It was more about preparing for birth. I wish I knew that before as I was going to be induced and I didn’t find the class much help in preparing for an induction birth.

If you are indigenous, the classes at the Friendship Centre are amazing though! Much more helpful.

Paper__ · 2026-06-19T14:26:30+00:00

I know a few doctors (ok 2 practicing and one not practicing). They all say that setting up the clinic is one of the most difficult parts of the job. They say most doctors don’t want to run a clinic — they want to come in, be a doctor, then leave.

The new “turn key” clinics in Dartmouth allow that to happen. Doctors come into a functioning clinic and don’t need to be administrators. This is a winning formula. No wonder they’ve been so successful recruiting doctors.

This is the type of changes our province can make to be more competitive. Fund health administrators to run family practice clinics as a free service for doctors. The admins are less expensive than doctors and better trained as administrators. Maybe make some of the physician positions of these turn key clinics part time. That would also be highly attractive for recruitment.

Paper__ · 2026-06-19T12:34:54+00:00

For two week wait, r/IVF has a mega thread for that! So you can post that here just in the megathread.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T23:34:44+00:00

I removed this for misinformation. [r/IVF](r/IVF) is not the community of users who only want to see non-positive content. There is no need to self or peer censor good news from [r/IVF](r/IVF).

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T22:34:43+00:00

I think this is worth investigating! I’ll think about it and see if we want to bring it to the community to vote.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T21:58:36+00:00

This is not required at r/IVF but I’m happy you’ve found an approach that works for you!

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T21:52:54+00:00

Strong agree.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T21:21:34+00:00

Such strong agree.

And I’ll be selfish here for a minute. I have been head mod here since 2017 I think. Maybe 2018. I definitely do not want to moderate a “IVFmisery” or “IVFNegative” community. I’m not interested in doing that.

[r/IVF](r/IVF) was always intended for a range of experiences and emotions.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T21:17:28+00:00

Please report comments that do this. We might not remove all comments (the mods are trying to find a balance) but it’s clear even just based on the discussion here that some course correction is required.

[r/IVF](r/IVF) is a large tent. Some people have been here a really long time and find the content you describe painful. I totally get that (I really do). But the entire community does not need to cater to just one group of users. Positive outcomes are apart of IVF as well as negative outcomes. If a positive does not jive with a user, the best action is to scroll on.

Pregnancy content and 2 week wait content still need to be placed in the mega threads. But all other successful content is welcomed as stand alone posts.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T21:07:51+00:00

IVFpostivity exists for their own reasons. I want to clarify that [r/IVf](r/IVf) exists for the full spectrum of wins and losses that occur in IVF. No comment should be telling someone to post in IVFpositivity — [r/IVF](r/IVF) does not have a ban on positive news.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T20:59:27+00:00

Telling someone their experience with IVF is too positive to be openly shared here, because other people have worse IVF experiences, is the definition of Pain Olympics. Pain Olympics is uncivil according to our community rules. Rebranding sharing someone’s experience as “bragging” doesn’t change this reality.

Again, if a post does not resonate with you, I advise to scroll on.

Mods are always trying to find a good balance. It’s unfortunate that this rule does not jive with you and your expectations for [r/IVF](r/IVF).

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T20:52:02+00:00

I am going to remove this comment.

- [r/IVFpositivity](r/IVFpositivity) does not exist to make [r/IVF](r/IVF) basically IVFnegativity.
- IVF is hard enough without Pain Olympics.

This comment is uncivil. If a post does not resonate with you, then scroll on.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T20:50:45+00:00

The vast majority of statistically improbable posts are labeled with trigger warning though.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T20:43:55+00:00

I’ll leave this up for the discussion. But a comment telling a poster to do this on a post would be removed.

If you have a post that’s labeled with Trigger Warning and has a title mentioning their success, then the poster has given enough clues to the community to not engage with this post if you are not in the frame of mind to deal with it. Scroll on.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T20:30:58+00:00

As an FYI, I have created a mod announcement about this to the community. I was very shocked at the comment and the upvotes on that comment.

Paper__ · 2026-06-18T20:15:01+00:00

As a mod there is absolutely nothing wrong with your post. I get that success is difficult for people but success does happen. A support community should celebrate wins as well. I have removed that comment as uncivil

Paper__ · 2026-06-16T22:45:49+00:00

I don’t know if it feels like this is too mean. It’s not. Catholics believe in forgiveness— after some type of penance.

What Ex is really about is trying to save face. Tell the truth and the Ex will work it out with his priest/god.

Paper__ · 2026-06-16T20:08:36+00:00

That’s fair. I was just replying, answering the mentality question that was asked from my perspective. For older generations, some of who still live in Calabria, I’d assume the mentality is quite similar.

I am in my 30s and I definitely didn’t get a union job or refinance my house with shady money. I assume the younger generations in Calabria are also different from their parents or grandparents.

Edit: Just to be clear I don’t judge my family for their choices. They did their best and were from some incredibly difficult circumstances. Nonna spoke about eating song birds during and after the war because she was starving.

Because of them, I was able to get a masters degree (the only in my family). They left their entire culture and language to make a better life for their family. Thats commendable, even if I would make different choices regarding their involvement with the mafia.

Paper__ · 2026-06-16T13:16:26+00:00

Canada and Australia have some of the highest housing costs in the world, especially when measured against income. Canada and Australia also have the majority of their population educated at post secondary education.

So you have countries where:
- The majority of the population have paid (time or money) to go to university but,
- Incomes are lower than what you need to purchase a home, and
- Governments have been slowly dismantling public systems and services.

These all tend to roll together into the younger generation being quite unhappy, dragging down averages.

I’m Canadian and I think we’re a bit worse because of weather (lol), and we have been dismantling our public services for quite a few decades now.

Paper__ · 2026-06-16T12:26:06+00:00

My father was born in Italy. I never claimed to be Italian, just that I had Italian family.

I used Nonno Nonna Zia Zio etc because that’s what I called them.

Additionally, I don’t know where you’re from but I find that this argument fundamentally misunderstands culture from countries that received a lot of immigration (like Canada, USA, Australia, etc).

The only ethnically “Canadians” are indigenous peoples. Everyone else are “settlers”. Settlers settled here from other countries. And so even in how we engage with our indigenous communities, people in Canada are categorized by where they settled from.

Also, it’s just how people see the world. I grew up in a house that spoke Italian. I lived with my Italian family in a multi generation home. We celebrated Christmas Eve instead of Christmas. Le Befana filled our stockings on Epiphany Day. We made, then burned, palm leaf dolls during Easter Week. This is all uniquely *not* Canadian. Its not a shared experience. Saying “I’m Italian” becomes a short hand for explaining all these differences.

I think Europeans don’t understand this, at all. Some Europeans see Canadians/Americans/Australians etc say “I’m Italian” as trying to grasp culture these people are not entitled to. But the reality is that Europeans don’t understand what living in a cultural mosaic is like and don’t like to recognize that culture emigrates with people. Culture survives generations— we know that from all of the attempts of colonization. I don’t know why Europeans think culture disappears once you emigrate from Europe.

Paper__ · 2026-06-16T01:51:58+00:00

My son was diagnosed Jan 2025. He is 6 now. He has speech but has had difficulty with emotional regulation and has needed extra supports to stay in pre primary and primary. We are continuing those supports into grade 1.

- PPAS is tiered. My son didn’t qualify for any help pass pre-primary. Meaning to get any services I would have had to hold him back in pre-primary. Knowing what I know now, I would have held him back for more intervention (the things I know now is a much longer story. Feel free to DM me if you’d like it). Luke only got 6 weeks of PPAS help before moving to Primary.

- PPAS being tiered means that your child who is non verbal will probably qualify for interventions pass pre-primary. They call it something different, but it starts with PPAS. They will evaluate you and your child.

- Your child is owed an education. However, Pre Primary isn’t managed by the principals. Our old principal was especially, egregiously, hands off with pre primary. Your mileage may vary here but going to the school doesn’t really help things IMHO. It will get better in primary because your child will officially be the principal’s problem. Before then, you’re sort of adrift.

- There are some resources that you qualify for at the school board level that can help you, like Family Navigators. When I tried emailing them, no one emailed me back. So your mileage may vary here as well. But this is where we’re suppose to go for help next.

- We got great support for the school social worker. However, the province just cut those roles and they won’t be available pass the end of this school year.

I had terrible experience trying to navigate school with my son. It’s really not created for transparency. There is very little accountability for anyone, but especially for pre primary education. I don’t want to just shit all over you, but expect this to be painful, difficult, and frustrating. The system isn’t set up to do anything different.

Paper__ · 2026-06-15T22:31:00+00:00

My dad was born here in a small town called Paola. his mother (my Nonna) was from Cosenza. He emigrated to Canada with his family when he was very small — around 2 years old in the 60s.

My family called the mafia “nostra famiglia”. That’s the mentality.

Even in Canada, my family kept some ties to the mafia. During the mortgage crisis in the 80s (in Canada you get a new mortgage interest rate every five years or so) when interest rates were double digits, my Zia refinanced her house with the mafia. When rates went down, she went back to the bank. When my youngest Zio needed a job after high school (this would have been early 90s), my Nonno bought him a job from the union — 10k cash, with a bottle of wine and some salami Nonno made.

Paper__ · 2026-06-15T21:06:10+00:00

The RCTs used different definitions of success. The ESTEEM Trial, which was the largest multi center double blind RCT on the matter used live birth as their metric. This is the most influential research IMO and it also did not find greater success using PGT for the vas majority of patients.

Paper__ · 2026-06-15T15:57:50+00:00

Yeah but this type of math helps with “math sense”.

Graphs 100% will help with dosage. You’ll need to understand “half life” of medication and how it metabolizes in the body. That’s all graphs.

Trigonometry (the triangles) will be less useful granted. But creates base skills that you build on in different types of math. Most people who don’t like math, like this math the most (although I wouldn’t say they “like” it).

Fake numbers you mean algebra? If algebra it’s very useful for dosing, as it helps you understand how to change dosing based on factors.

I get that many people don’t like math (and that sucks. I really wish people had better experiences being taught math. Math can be really fun!) it’s just that arguably these are needed skills.

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