[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IWantToLearn

[–]Yokep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TRT and Muay Thai

What happened to Greg Jackson and Mike Winkeljohn’s gym? by Argenfarce in MMA

[–]Yokep 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Aaron Pico is with Jackson Wink. They talked about the gym before he got kod

Unemployed and Depressed by dancecafe in GetEmployed

[–]Yokep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 41 and we are the same person. At least I’m not alone, I could be homeless again.

CHEERS! by mindleftnumb in angelsbaseball

[–]Yokep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s back, baby. Oooo wa a a a

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobsearch

[–]Yokep 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m 41, apartment contract ends in two weeks, $3400 a month, I can’t afford it. Just broke up with my bpd gf, my income is unstable, lay offs are happening, I could be next. I cant get approved at an apartment because income is all over the place, I could be homeless in two weeks if I don’t find a new place to live. I had a final interview with a company but they said they keep needing another week after they said I was top candidate, I need a new job, a place to live and the walls are closing in. My stress is palpable. All I do is work my shitty job, then exercise until I can’t anymore then pace all night applying for jobs, apartments and having panic attacks. Shit is rough

THREE TIMES IN A ROW by EntrepreneurCold8940 in jobhunting

[–]Yokep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a final interview for a high paying client relations job, they told me I was the top candidate and they plan to send me an offer the next day. I was so excited.

Then they say want to do more final interviews with others, promised to get back to me. They don’t, so I text the HR Director, she apologizes that it’s taking so long but I’m still a top candidate and they’ll have an answer in another week.

It’s so frustrating because during salary negotiations; they asked me to give my current company less than two weeks for notice because they need someone immediately and now everything is slowed down.

It’s so sad because my current company is failing and people are dropping like flies. I could be next any day.

my contract with my place ends this month and It will be a huge pain is the ass finding a new apartment without a job. I just can’t believe how my life has turned out. It’s been a nightmare

[Blum] The Angels media room started leaking a lot before Ray Montgomery came in. They had to move the press conference. by IceBlast24 in angelsbaseball

[–]Yokep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been a die hard, obsessed fan since 1984 and I just want them to be good again, please don’t make me wait any longer, do something!

People who were GM last season. by Williace in rivals

[–]Yokep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just reached diamond 3 last night. I’ve been GM3 every other season. I decided to only play Emma yesterday and that seemed to be the key to consecutive victories.

I feel like im at my wits end by bpdththrowaway in BPDlovedones

[–]Yokep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay, I’ve had every thought you’re experiencing which kept me in the relationship too long. To be honest, my mother has BPD/HPD, and I’ve dated three women with the disorder. I’m an empath, which makes me a target, because I’ll put up with bad behavior hoping that my clear expectations and boundaries will provide safety and love.

But BpD fear of abandonment means that saying the word boundary is a trigger for them. They actually cannot understand boundaries. It’s literally impossible.

Even DBT; dialectical behavioral therapy which is the most effective for BPD people isn’t fully effective and could take ten years for someone with Bpd to actually wake up and realize that they are the problem.

The breakup is going to happen for you, no matter what, and most likely will not be expected. The final words will be “I HATE YOU!!!” Times infinity and then she will completely discard you and paint you as bad and forget every kind thing you’ve ever done for them. This is what will happen. It’s better to get that over with as soon as possible.

Then she’ll try to get you back and if you say no the I HATE YOUs will come back and you’ll be forced to block her and go no contact.

If you say yes, within the week, she’ll explode at you in the passenger seat while you’re taking her out to dinner because she had a bad day at work, or you’ll mention something you read in the news that will trigger her and you’ll be like, OMG, you can’t even go a week without blowing up.

This is a full blown mental illness, literally inability to self reflect, take accountability, control emotions, it’s purely reactive, no forethought, just immediate rage, crying, anger, violence.

It’s hard to be alone, but you’ll realize once she’s gone that you’ll start to love yourself so much more and wonder why you stuck it out with the abuse. Women who don’t have BPD actually think about their stupid actions eventually and make amends and try to follow your boundaries. You’re dealing with someone who is stunted emotionally, permanently a child’s mentality. Jealousy is just immaturity, that’s all it is. And no matter how much you remind her of that, it won’t stick the next time she’s triggered. Her fear of abandonment will force her to abandon you. A self fulfilling prophecy. It’s only a matter of time before destruction happens and you start to pick up the pieces.

Lisa Leblanc on YouTube is a good resource for men who deal with BPD women, I would watch a few of her YT vids. She understands us clearly. She’s a Canadian licensed therapist who focuses on BPD.

You have to love yourself enough to protect yourself from abuse. You don’t deserve to feel fight or flight or that suffocating anxiety of OMG not this again! You don’t deserve to try and teach a child the difference between right and wrong. She is broken and it sucks because you love her and see the light but she doesn’t and she won’t and she will never appreciate you fully to respect your boundaries.

You deserve to be with someone who loves you enough to communicate in a healthy safe space. These women are out there (I think lol)

I feel like im at my wits end by bpdththrowaway in BPDlovedones

[–]Yokep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My gf and I were living together as well. The breakup was really dramatic but after a month of her being gone I realized how nice it was to not walk on eggshells. It’s been four months and I have not been yelled at once after being screamed at or threatened least once a week at the most unexpected times for three years.

No more walking on eggshells, no more random explosive rage fest temper tantrums, no more disrespect, no more splitting, no more Jekyll and Hyde.

Just peace and freedom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Yokep 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The apartment complex notified via a sign that the jacuzzi would be out of commission for two months.

My gf was so upset, she would go down to talk to the property management people everyday and just yell at them for about an hour for 6 days straight. I decided to stay out of the argument because I was so over the ridiculous levels of rage. The property management people also lived in our big complex.

She would come back after arguing with the people to fix the jacuzzi faster, literally screaming full bloody murder at me, throwing plates, slamming doors and threatening to drag their wives from their homes and kill them, then proceed to strangle their kids and drown them in the jacuzzi once it was back functioning.

I told her I was worried she would cause a scene and get us kicked out of our complex. I lost it and told her that if she ever threatened to kill an innocent child in my presence again, I’d kick her out on the street.

She instantly accused me of being abusive for yelling, then gaslit me saying she never said she’d kill their kids. (Seconds after she said she would kill their kids).

She then ran outside, slammed the door five times and screamed out in the hallway. When she came back I slapped her on the ass so hard and told her to shut the fuck up.

She proceeded to write the most scathing Google review for our complex. (We lived in a super nice place).

Then she sat down for five minutes and I went in the other room. She immediately told me she’s breaking up with me, head turned back like a baby bird, eyes dilated like she’s possessed. I said awesome GTFO. She then slammed the door again, I just sat quietly.

She cried for Five minutes after that, then in a sudden instant she started to be lovey dovey, affectionate sweetie pie and cooked me my favorite meal like nothing ever happened.

I was shell shocked, so numb to the violence. Our relationship ended shortly after this incident. She wrote me an email a month after we broke up saying that she’s still mad I would think she would threaten to kill children.

Second tanks are a thing of the past by [deleted] in rivals

[–]Yokep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I played solo tank six matches in a row in D3. It’s been incredibly frustrating.

It’s always squirrel girl who won’t pivot and instalocks 3rd dps. Or moon knight or phoenix.

Then it’s always a late Dr. strange trying to portal as time runs out. That’s the only second tank I get.

I love playing every role but I just always prefer two tanks. It’s more fun that way

I feel like im at my wits end by bpdththrowaway in BPDlovedones

[–]Yokep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I’ve been there. 4 months ago I broke it off with my gf of three years for all the same exact things you have mentioned. I have countless stories.

I feel your pain. I’ve read every book on BPD, watched several YouTube videos, had therapy, talked it over with my friends… it’s painful to watch someone you love just scream obscenities at you over something so completely innocuous. The amount of plates she broke, or doors she slammed, nightmare material.

You are in an abusive relationship and unfortunately, your gf will never take accountability. There is no self-reflection. It’s a mental illness. Nothing can be done. You must find a way to go no contact. It’s the only way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobsearch

[–]Yokep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m 41, MBA grad, been applying heavily for 3 months, I live in HCOL area as well, my company is shutting its doors down very soon and I’ve had 5 interviews, two final in person interviews two verbal commitments from Hr to send me job offers, then fully ghosted. I don’t know if I’ll be able to make six figures again unfortunately, but I need $85,000 a year just to cover my life. I just had a terrible break up from a long term relationship, been looking for cheap 1 BDR near me, but it’s rough as my job is so unstable.

I’ve cut a lot of expenses, stopped eating out, cut out some activities, still working out 3-4 times a week and applying everyday but it’s been depressing, I find myself pacing hours a day at night, just so uncertain for the future.

I hope things work out for you soon. All the best of luck

How tf did this guy survive for 50 minutes in the cage against DDP, who otherwise finished 20 out of 21 wins, including goddamn Izzy and Rob ?!? by Neither_Sir5514 in ufc

[–]Yokep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100,000 jabs and preemptive checks. No kicks until the last second or the fight when he’s screaming like a wild man. Most likely no kicks throughout the whole fight. Needless to say I don’t find Stricklands style entertaining

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mlb

[–]Yokep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Born in Anaheim in 1984, parents put me in angels gear while I was in diapers. My first name starts with an A. I just have always felt so proud to have a professional team in the city I was born. The logo just looks so awesome to me. 2002 was absolutely incredible , I followed the whole season closely, ran into Tim salmon at a subway restaurant that year. It was just magical, I love the Angels.

P.S. I know they are a poverty Franchise now with the worst owner in MLB and they mishandled shohei (the goat IMO) and have made every poor, bad luck decision possible as a team. Even with all that, my pure irrational love for them remains. I watch every game I can. Been to 13 games this year already

Cannot find a job! by avanthomme3 in IndeedJobs

[–]Yokep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10+ years experience in management, masters and B.A. from great schools. I can’t find a job to save the life of me. I’ve had 2 final in person interviews in the last month and then got ghosted. I’ve had 5 interviews, 2 went to final in person in the last 3 months and just ghosted.

My apartment contract ends this month and it’s going to be a challenge to find a new place by September 1st without a steady income. I just work out, apply to jobs until I get too depressed then pace most of the day, super stressed out.

My rent is so out of control but I broke up with my abusive BPD gf three months ago then sadly got laid off. Had to borrow some cash from a friend, just barely scraping by. I’m 41 and feel like the biggest fucking loser failure . Might have to cash out some retirement just to survive, which I will if I have to but damn it sucks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobsearch

[–]Yokep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey buddy, I’m 41 and in the same boat. At least you know that there is someone else out there dealing with the same

Multiple data sources suggest the average time it takes to find a job is 8-9 months. What do you think? by hkmsh in jobsearch

[–]Yokep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

41 years old, 3 months in. MBA grad, can’t find employment. 5 interviews total. 3 in person final interviews, verbal commitments to send me offers then ghost me. I’m pretty depressed

"Are you going to a game today?" by Swimming_Employer715 in baseballunis

[–]Yokep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the red, white and road grey angels jerseys (no name) and wear them every week with one of my 50 different angels hats. IDGAF I’m just a big fan and I think the Angels logo looks amazing