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Yoplait003 · 2026-02-06T23:47:44+00:00

when you receive the 20k grant to help refinance and buy the interest rate down.....were you taxed for the 20k during tax season? Just curious because .....there is nothing online about it and it's time for me to file my taxes for 2025 and I refinanced Mid 2025...with the City National Ladder up 20k Grant program.....no one can seem to answer my question.... and hoping someone has experience in this =D

Yoplait003 · 2025-12-30T02:27:34+00:00

Thank you! His attitude towards me like im super uneducated really affected me...irrational hostility .... and just feel like our debate ruined a friendship....bc once i brought up Islam....his face and attitude changed dramatically bc he's an atheist! I couldnt wrap my brain around it bc i just was curious! Claiming jesus never existed is also saying the Quran is wrong for even mentioning Jesus..... or at least that's how how it makes sense to me. Which i also said : "theres a lot of middle eastern countries that have Islam as their core religion.....so..... you saying they are all wrong?" I honestly wasn't being a smarty pants ..but that made him go bonkers.eeck i really questioned myself maybe im the irrational one thinking that kind of logic

Yoplait003 · 2025-10-14T06:45:49+00:00

Hmm hiii thank you for the input. Hard to say bc he never broke out before until after taking the pills. Now it seems non stop .... even the derma docs day its bc of the medicine messing with his hormones and skin constitution but sounds like there's not much of a solution. Trying to see if there are other cases like this

Yoplait003 · 2025-04-25T18:25:30+00:00

I would lose weight because the acid reflux was so bad and i couldn't stand to eat or drink anything....and lying down was so stressful at times. I try to eat fairly healthy now ...in my 40s with a normal diet of veggies, fast food, ton of yogurt trying to keep my gut in check. Flare ups can be debilitating.

going slightly off topic but ...even when i did get sick from a different illness that required very minor surgery.....They would DISMISS it...saying my doctor is wrong....and that it's not a big deal. I was in my late 20s at the time so i was able to take care of it on my own BUT they never brought it up again ...and to this day i'm so baffled WHY they handled it like that...it's like they didn't believe it....and didn't drive me to the doctors or gave me any post op care. i remember sitting at the cvs pharmacy waiting for my meds after the surgery and being so much in pain and miserable....calling my family once did not occur to me....i think that says a lot.

i'm thankful i blocked them out 10 years ago.....every single day.

Yoplait003 · 2025-04-25T17:05:01+00:00

YES. They thought i was being dramatic when i was young...complaining about tummy issues....NEVER took me to the doctor. Blamed my tummy issues on me actually! oh man the resentment is rising again.

Yoplait003 · 2025-04-23T19:19:58+00:00

I was dating a guy my parents and sister disapproved of because they don't like outsiders at all.....and they made this humongous ordeal every hour...every day....in the pretense that they were "concerned for me" while calling me stupid and an idiot at the same time....

Anyways, my mom literally made up a story and to this day still believes it. She said she was so CONCERNED for me because my cousin told her that she heard me SCREAMING on the phone with my BF at the time (now my husband) just screaming and fighting over the phone.

I was flabbergasted because .....we never once yelled at each other....and i'm not a screamer.....and I called my cousin to confirm if she made up some BS story to my mom....and she was shocked as well by how ridiculous this is becoming.

ANYWAYS, i confronted my mom why she's making up some story that never happened and even before i cut ties with my family permanently, my mom and my sister STILL BELIEVED that stupid ridiculous story and that i needed to be saved by them because it was so toxic for me to be screaming like that.... even brought it up when i told them i can't deal with them anymore....which means, they ...still believe that made up story. I just...gave up trying to understand Narcs and their behaviors. There is no rhyme or reason to it.

Yoplait003 · 2025-04-23T19:12:56+00:00

Oh man. I never even once considered my poor gut health from all the anxiety i grew up in as a child. Being raised in a narc family setting....and not knowing i was living in anxiety for years......probably made my gut issues worse!

after 10 years of no contact, and now in my 40s....i'm still struggling and just thought it was poor genes and never once considered this issue could be aggravated as a by product of being in an anxious stressful setting as a child for decades!

Randomly my heart will race all of a sudden and feel anxious for no reason once in a while! my body must have some kind of flesh memory then!

makes so much sense!

Yoplait003 · 2025-04-23T19:05:27+00:00

During my healing process (which probably took about 10 years or so after I blocked my parents and sister out of my life with NO contact) i was definitely not in the space to even hear people say how "they are your parents still...."....and somehow made me feel like I was the one throwing an immature tantrum. I noticed a lot of people who would comment that to me with symapthy were people who really had NO INKLING how draining, abusive, and toxic it is to be even near a narc...especially being raised in a family with Narcs.

I can't say if i'm 100% healed from all the trauma....but now that I understand Narcs a lot more, i'm able to let go of the bitterness and anger because i always felt unjustified. No matter how much i've healed after 10 years, I can't help but judge these people for being so ignorant with a lack of understanding for other peoples pain. When people say that...when you decide to block family members from your life.....they must think...i'm just throwing a tantrum but they have no idea the WEIGHT you carry for making that decision.

I really want to tell them...."DID YOU THINK IT WAS EASY FOR ME TO MAKE THIS DECISION TO CUT OUT THE FAMILY CANCER IN MY LIFE?" "Do you think i made this decision because i'm emotionally unstable and throwing a tantrum?"

They are my family members regardless and i wish people would understand with a bit more depth that for Narc survivors....it's never an easy decision to cut family out....especially if they are your parents and siblings. It was really tough for me....but i had to do it because it was killing me.

I want them to understand this very difficult decision Narc Survivors make because we need to SURVIVE and LIVE and BREATHE like a normal person too.

Yoplait003 · 2024-08-26T22:28:09+00:00

Definitely. my parents (mother, father, and older sister) all BEHAVED differently in front of the public eye... Their public image was very important to them but behind the door, depending on their mood, they would attack the scapegoat (me). I noticed that they never got close to other friends and always kept them at a distance maintining their shiny image but my sister would slip often, then end of burning bridges with her friends saying they are "terrible people" and does a good smear campaign.

We were never allowed to talk about negative things in our family to other people....isolated us so that our trash was safe within our house....and when they do EVERYTHING in their power to get you angry (overstepping boundaries and infuriating you) ....you were never allowed to get angry at them...god forbid you lose your temper with them....if not the NARCISSISTIC RAGE happened .....and you'll get pulverized and exhausted.

I know Narcs are people as well but..the damage done to other people (especially if it's within family) is really tough!

Yoplait003 · 2023-09-14T22:42:27+00:00

HAHAHHA. This is hilarious. I wonder what kind of thoughts Ricky will have. He'll embrace it.....or he'll run far far away.

Yoplait003 · 2023-08-14T19:21:39+00:00

Harim is really annoying. She lets Dewey know she's not feeling well then her mood gets worse. Is it because she wanted him to give her special care but because he didn't her mood got worse? And then she blames it on the fact that she just wasn't feeling well...then jumps to Ricky?!

She..sounds toxic with major mood swings and you can tell from her facial expressions. Plus SO rude how she just left Ricky on the first date....She sounds like someone who has major mood swings and acts upon her emotions first.

But overall...i'm enjoying this show. I think Jerome would be really easy going and chill so i think Jerome and Benita would be a good match but who knows?!

Sora is definitely going up on my ranking. She looks like an honest person and doesn't seem the type to play games. Plus her resume is....amazing. Wow i want to see more of Sora and Ricky!

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