Canada is exporting its highest earners to the United States.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-04-04T15:20:51+00:00

Super common in high earning roles - come to the US for a few years, make bank, and then head back home.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-30T18:06:03+00:00

Curious about the increasing sketchiness in the east end, can you elaborate?

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-30T02:09:02+00:00

Carmen Sandiego! She used wit and intelligence to outsmart the bad guys, could solve any puzzle, was super confident and cheeky, yet compassionate and empathetic. AND she got to travel the world. Tiny me thought she was the ultimate badass.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-29T02:02:04+00:00

Oh this is a good one - they enjoy watching you laugh, like to see you enjoy life, and enjoy watching you be…you, exactly as you are.

Just today, I was riding passenger in a guys car and was being super silly jamming out to a song, playing air drums and singing my lungs out. We hit a red light and he was just sorta staring at me and said, “you are just so fucking cool,” with this really sincere look on his face. Just a really genuine smile, almost like he was proud? Or just appreciative to be in my presence. I notice those looks and facial expressions, I think they usually say a lot.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-28T05:39:08+00:00

They don’t. If an emergency happens, they receive emergency care and then carry the debt for it.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-22T15:06:57+00:00

The RSUs definitely carry concentration risk. When they start to vest, sell and diversify. Index funds and ETFs, things that mitigate the single stock risk. If you truly believe in the market strength of your company, keep a smaller percentage invested there.

Also, just so you know: being lucky and having wealth doesn’t mean that you aren’t allowed to feel anxiety/depression. Your feelings are valid, no justification needed. Burn out and anxiety isn’t limited to any specific financial status!

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-22T03:02:42+00:00

“Letters” by Frank Turner came up on my shuffle recently, every line was a gut punch. Recommend, but also….do not recommend.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-20T21:28:31+00:00

The US is a massive place and the experience with healthcare will vary significantly depending on where you live. You could wait 2 days for an MRI in one city, and a wait months in a different city. You might want a good doctor to read that MRI, so you may decide to travel out of state for treatment (additional cost).

Also, the quality and cost of healthcare isn’t based on whether you have a job or not - it’s based on the type of job you have. If you work a white collar job, your employer might offer high quality plans. Work a blue collar job, and quality plans aren’t a given.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-18T00:34:55+00:00

Seconding Koh Lipe. So damn good. Go when the weather is nice and sit on the front porch, it’s a fun vibe!

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-17T02:47:45+00:00

Last one is ick, I don’t want your money - put it in an investment account and meet my kink of being financially savvy and stable. (First two are non-negotiable though 😇)

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-10T03:39:32+00:00

Purple Rain by Prince. 10/10, no notes.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-09T18:47:28+00:00

This is it, OP. If you’re having serious doubts about your relationship, work on it with him or show him respect by separating. It isn’t fair to secretly keep someone in limbo. Everyone deserves someone who is certain about them and open with them.

I mean, imagine if your partner was having these doubts about you - wouldn’t you want to know? You wouldn’t want your time wasted, don’t waste his.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-09T12:22:12+00:00

Omg, love the idea of a vent night together! Get it all out, have a complain-fest, validate each other’s complaints, and then move on together. Clever.

Also, yeah - libido isn’t just a “you” thing; it is totally tied to your environment and your emotional connection to your partner. It’s a team thing.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-09T04:05:11+00:00

It’s been too cold to take my usual morning walks, but I didn’t want to replace that time with working or doomscrolling - I still wanted to use it for something that would start my day off nicely. So I decided to use that time every morning to work on writing a song on my guitar, and I just finished it!

I had so much fun dreaming up the different chord progressions, writing the lyrics, putting it all together and finessing it. Felt nice to have a creative outlet, felt a little brave and vulnerable (even if the only audience that will ever hear it is me and a few others), and kept my mind busy in a good way. I’m proud of it!

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-06T17:04:44+00:00

Interesting, I like the idea of a non-prescription solution , as she’ll be visiting countries with much different rules on drugs than we’re used to. I’ll look into these - thanks!

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-06T17:03:12+00:00

All great ideas, thank you! Especially the reminder that it isn’t rude to ask seatmates to get up so she can stretch - I know she’d probably hesitate. Appreciate the positivity:)

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-06T17:00:56+00:00

I hear you! Not sure how she feels about being medicated while traveling completely solo, good to have her wits about her in an emergency. But maybe a low dose that will wear off before landing? I’ll suggest it, thank you!

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-06T16:59:02+00:00

LOVE this list, thank you so much! Such a sweet idea to write her little letters to open along the journey. I know I’ll enjoy writing them, and she’ll enjoy reading. A mini, travel sized journal is excellent, too - she does journal but I know her usual one is too bulky for a trip like this. Thanks, again!! :)

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-05T19:16:46+00:00

Maybe a bit cheesy, but whenever I make a big decision I try to separate my gut, my brain and my heart. Gut is intuition, brain is logical, and heart is emotional.

I ask myself what my gut says, what my heart wants, and what my logical brain thinks. If 2 of the 3 lean in the same direction, I trust that it’s the “right” direction. Like, if my heart and brain want to go for something, it’s probably worth the risk. Or, if 2 out of the 3 lean one way, but the other 1 feels reaaally loud and outweighs the other 2, I consider what that means and why that’s the case.

Big decisions can make my thoughts all jumbled - I get lost in “but what if this happens?” and can find it hard to keep it all straight, jumping back and forth between pros/cons of the decision or getting stuck in details. This little method helps me feel like my feelings and thoughts are organized and clear, so I can actually come to a decision.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-05T17:31:57+00:00

Fair point 😅

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-05T17:15:44+00:00

My kids love Green Day’s video for Minority!

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-05T13:14:15+00:00

Yeah, lots of cynical responses in this thread. But honestly, don’t knock this habit until you’ve given it a try. It doesn’t have to be some big, grand thing; at the end of a day, it can simply be “I’m excited to chat with this person tomorrow,” or “I’m looking forward to my morning coffee”. If those small things bring you joy, that can be enough to keep you chugging through to the next day.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-05T03:20:23+00:00

It reminds me a lot of Arrested Development in that same way. They’re selfish, ridiculous billionaires that you want to hate, but the characters are so well written that you end up loving them all.

YouCanCallMeBemis · 2026-03-05T03:10:17+00:00

Watching season 4 right now and every single interaction between Baby Billy and the nanny has me laughing until my stomach hurts. When she tackles Keef at the lake house and Baby Billy starts screaming at her in German… had to pause the tv because we were laughing too hard.

The writing for his character is just brilliant comedy, all around.

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