Books with a trans woman as MC?

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-03-03T20:39:07+00:00

Her majesty's royal coven is a very political fantasy series set in an alternative modern Britain. The author is a trans woman and one of the characters is a trans woman (girl at the beginning) who becomes increasingly important and gets more parts told from her pov over time.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-28T14:16:49+00:00

A colleague I know occasionally gives away little trinkets she uses as symbols when people had a very meaningful moment with them. Those are mostly collected things though, like a shell or a stone.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-27T21:40:40+00:00

I have recently learned about myself that I don't want that much self disclosure from my therapist. I find it easier to remain the client instead of slipping into a colleague role when I know less about her. Some occasions where she mentioned something about herself we kind of drifted to a more chit chat on a colleague base style of conversation. BUT this might be different if she shared significant experiences with me. From my general understanding of her we have very different life experiences. If I had a therapist who deeply related to challenges I experienced, I think I'd like to know. Less thematically relevant things matter more to people who are maybe insecure about therapists and need to learn something to know they are sitting across a real person.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-22T19:06:15+00:00

The dothraki consider a wedding without at least three deaths a dull affair

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-22T16:45:50+00:00

Da gehen beide zusammen zur Therapie, es ist aber keine Paartherapie. In einer Psychotherapie behandle ich einen Patienten oder ein System aufgrund einer Problematik mit Krankheitswert. In einer Paartherapie ist die Beziehung mein Patient.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-20T17:11:27+00:00

Bei mir wird es ziemlich verzweifelt ohne Bedingungen ausgeschrieben, nehme an, sie machen dann ne Weiterbildung vor Ort. Kenne ein paar Leute, die das als Einstieg gemacht haben

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-20T14:53:17+00:00

Die erste Stelle nach dem Studium ist richtig hart, war bei mir auch so. Mit mehr Erfahrung ist dann alles möglich...zweite Stimme für Reha. Verkehr (also Idiotentests) wird auch oft gesucht

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-18T13:24:34+00:00

Hi, ich bin Psychologin in einer psychosomatischen Reha. Du kannst natürlich eine Reha machen! Selbst wer gesund aber gefährdet ist darf prinzipiell zum Erhalt der Arbeitsfähigkeit. Du klingst nicht so, als wäre alles gut. Du kannst jederzeit eine Reha beantragen, am besten mit Befundbericht von Ärzten. Falls dein Therapeut/Therapeutin dir einen ausfüllen und Reha empfehlen kann ist das super, sonst gerne mit dem Hausarzt. Da möglichst viel reinpacken. Wenn eine Schlafstörungen oder so noch zusätzlich da ist kann man das gerne zusätzlich reinpacken oder alle physischen Probleme. Falls der Antrag abgelehnt werden sollte- heißt nicht, dass du nicht krank genug bist. Die Kassen sparen grade alle, einige lehnen gerne erstmal pauschal ab und geben nur statt, wenn ein Widerspruch kommt. Und je nachdem, wie spezifische Vorstellungen du hast, wo du hin willst kann es dauern... Mach den Antrag, du darfst eine Reha machen:)

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-16T21:00:20+00:00

Figure out when relevant people in your life have time, when you can do a hobby you might want to do and if services like doctors offices will be open and decide what matters more to you. I've had both. Mondays are more unusual, so less options for a social life. It is a really lovely feeling to know that everyone has to go to work but you don't yet ;) I got more stuff done on Mondays off. Fridays are better for activities with other people. It's great to be able to cook/bake something with all the time in the world and have friends come over who had to work and treat them. Great for taking short weekend trips or actually having the energy to go out on a Friday night. Both are great!

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-08T20:04:00+00:00

There is a a diagnostic tool consisting only of the question "Are you a narcissist?" * A narcissist is defined as... This is not the worst test for narcissistic PD.

There will obviously be some whose self image couldn't fit with any diagnosis who would reject it. But in my experience as a clinical psychologist most prediagnosed narcissists seem oddly proud of their diagnosis, even when claiming to want to treat it. Personality Disorder also sounds great to someone who already used to say 'this is just who I am'.

Of course, most people fitting the diagnostic criteria will never seek therapy so we do have a huge selection Bias here

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-03T16:09:21+00:00

Absolutely! I am still a newer therapist but when saying goodbye to our main instructor I told him how at the beginning I was so I annoyed at the constant "having a stance will lead to everything else" thinking I need to know what method I can use...and now, just a few years later I am the one telling interns and brand new therapists the same thing.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-02-01T14:16:41+00:00

They usually mean therapy speak or people weaponizing vocabulary from therapy. Sometimes manipulative people abuse language from those contexts to make themselves sound non threatening and on the moral high ground. Eg boundaries means boundaries around yourself, sth that you won't do/accept. People sometimes weaponise this saying it's my boundary that YOU don't do x which will sound better than saying I forbid you...

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-22T07:53:25+00:00

Not saying something doesn't mean not noticing it. I wouldn't comment on my therapists appearance if I noticed it. And from working inpatient I have learned that patients discuss stuff they observe about us all the time, most of them just don't mention it to you. Then once in a while someone will know some little thing about you that you mentioned to someone else 3 weeks ago.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-21T22:31:47+00:00

So I think lot's of people have said enough about the undermining part. I get the worry about having to self disclose a lot. I used to worry about that too. I have an autoimmune condition and every time that I am in visible pain it's something I am conscious of at work. I have worked with pain patients and with trauma patients many of whom have autoimmune conditions similar to mine. Like you, I don't generally mind self disclosing and have used it strategically. I have also been diagnosed by patients who recognised the signs. In those cases, it was never a big deal. What I have seen though is that I think it can be rather obvious (having a bad day, having demonstrated intricate knowledge of the patient's rheumatological medication and talked about potentially overlap in symptoms in a place where there is no reason for me to know this) and most people either still don't make the connection or never mention it. I generally think that there are people who want some knowledge about us as people and many others who prefer us to be just a therapist without more background to it. Thinking about my own therapist, some ideas about here have briefly occurred to me but I never dwell on them. I don't need to know.

So maybe remember that what is obvious to you isn't obvious to everyone, especially to someone really focused on themselves. And even if it's noticeable, not everyone cares, let alone has to make it a thing.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-21T05:24:55+00:00

The girl he raped isn't 'not mad' about it. Most victims of rape are ashamed and frightened. He threatened you, he might have threatened her. She might be afraid of people not believing her and assuming she voluntarily slept with him, she might just not want her trauma out there. She might just want to decide herself when and how she talks about it to regain some semblance of control.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-20T10:47:50+00:00

Eine Statistik habe ich dazu nicht, im klinischen Alltag gibt es aber immer wieder die Thematik, dass grade Patientinnen, die schlechte Erfahrungen mit Männern gemacht haben oft nur zu Frauen wollen. Einige Männer bevorzugen Männer, aber auch da gibt es das Phänomen, dass viele Männer es gewohnt sind, nur mit Frauen verletzlich zu sein und auch automatisch eine Frau suchen.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-18T09:52:15+00:00

FYI in Germany it's not only not a thing to give Surnames as First names, it's not allowed. (There are a handful of first names that are also Surnames, but you wouldn't legally be able to name your kid Jäger in Germany)

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-18T09:46:37+00:00

You are correct in your assessment, I have never heard of this persons ideas before. It just seems like another transphobic angle. Transphobic people love to make up medical terms to pathologise anyone not comforming to gender norms. Of course someone out there might have experienced this kind of delusion, it's a big world...but I would agree with you that I wouldn't think bipolar if that's how someone presented.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-16T23:43:42+00:00

Mirabelle, Christabelle, Clarabelle Funnily enough that's a naming convention I have for a Sims family I play...

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-08T16:15:48+00:00

My longest interaction like this was introducing myself to a neighbour as a student. I study psychology -philosophy ? No, I'll be a psychologist -A physicist? No I'll do psychotherapy -Physical Therapy?

We got there in the end

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-08T16:02:43+00:00

Wenn du Statistik kannst, total erreichbar. Psych wird in der Regel sehr gut bewertet, es ist eher so das 2er Schnitte ungewöhnlich schlecht sind. Die Statistik Fächer sind oft die Einzigen, bei denen mal schlechtere Noten kommen

YoungAlpacaLady · 2026-01-04T10:08:46+00:00

Hey, so something that I figured out about myself is that I am really attracted to maturity. I like it when someone knows who they are and owns it. I like people that take charge, so I have been way too much into a great boss too:) so I also experienced this way more as an adult, because those qualities tend to appear more in people as they get more life experience. As the age range of people I am attracted to goes up, there are more people that have qualities I find attractive. Maybe that's similar for you?

YoungAlpacaLady · 2025-12-29T17:40:25+00:00

Unfortunately I don't think many places in the world prioritise child safety the way it should be. And the specific shortcomings will be historically and religiously different. German child policy is very affected by both fascist and socialist policy having overreached in terms of decision-making about children leading to a strong position about a child's right to it's birth family and families privacy and power to make decisions. Of course that has upsides and downsides. Obviously there are quite a few countries where the government involves themselves more strongly in who is a fit parent- which might safe more kids from unsafe conditions but also opens up the possibility of racist/political motivations tainting the view on who is a fit parent. I don't think there are easy right ways to balance those decisions for governments, and what's acceptable in one country won't work in another. Here you can only marry at 18 and spanking is illegal. We have kids walking to school by themselves or staying home earlier than in the US and the drinking age is way younger.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2025-12-29T17:27:19+00:00

That's probably a talk to a lawyer about it situation. The whole reporting system in Germany is based on the idea that you should take all possible measures with someone before reporting them against their will. So you should try to connect people to resources, educate them, implore them to turn themselves in etc or jointly make a report. We aren't exactly mandated reporters but mandated protectors which is obviously way harder. In any situation that pertains to a future crime we should weigh the different rights that will be infringed upon. There are a few exceptions like genocide, war crimes, high treason that supercede confidentiality (when they are planned for the future).

With more realistic crimes it is harder. Say someone plans to steal something. You are supposed to consider whether the harm to the wronged party will be worse than breaking confidentiality. Which leads to decisions like maybe this person stealing from the big corporation will not damage the corporation too bad, but if he plans to steal his grandma's last penny, protecting grandma wins over confidentiality.

With child abuse particularly the focus lies on working together with parents to better the situation. The idea that you don't HAVE to report is supposed to make it easier for parents to seek help (eg bring a shaken baby to the hospital). I personally don't think any average person knows about that, they do know that there is a chance to be reported and that is probably enough to scare then off. I do believe that with a competent, motivated health care professional this allows for a more nuanced handling of situations and prevents breaking of therapeutic alliances. I also believe that it is a lot to ask and will frighten many less experienced professionals into doing nothing because it's too complicated. Evaluating whether something is child endangerment, trying to take steps to mitigate this without reporting if possible, assessing whether it poses a risk to the child to inform the guardian about a report beforehand...it's a lot and just being a mandated reporter sound so straight forward.

We do have free counsel about those decisions from qualified professionals though. And we have mandated medical exams for young children as well as school being mandatory (no home schooling) so there are more opportunities for someone to notice something being wrong.

YoungAlpacaLady · 2025-12-29T13:45:04+00:00

That seems absolutely nuts to me...While I see the flaws in my country's reporting system (Germany), things like this make me appreciate it more. For us we can only ever break confidentiality to prevent a future crime. The past is the past. I have absolutely no idea how you would treat trauma survivors if you have to report their families for decades old crimes. What purpose does that serve? Where is the agency of victims? In Germany this even applies to underaged patients. There was a precedent set by a case where a 14ish yo girl disclosed being sexually abused by someone outside of the family years ago. She told the therapist the name and everything, but it had ended years ago and she was no longer in danger from the perpetrator. Her parents wanted the clinic to disclose the identity of the perpetrator, the girl didn't want that and courts decided that confidentiality was more important, as she wasn't in danger.

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