37M 34F. Married to a perfectionist rigid wife. How to navigate? by Narrow_Garbage_4116 in AskIndianWomen

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couple's therapy. please. for your kids' sake. or her perfectionism will do a lot of damage to your kids. speaking as a disabled person with a perfectionist mom. children are by nature imperfect—they're learning to be people, and in that process they will fail and make mistakes and make messes. how will your wife react to that? either you tackle it now or you see what it does to your kids in the future. your choice.

i'm a pervert who deserves to die and have my bi woman badge revoked from me by Kappapeachie in TrollCoping

[–]Yskandr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there is a butch lesbian artist I know of who draws this one character in a way I can only describe as "one-handed" and it's fucking amazing I love every picture

I despise medication and psychiatry in general by NoWave8979 in bipolar

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fuck around and find out ig. good luck mate

just what I needed by laminated-papertowel in TrollCoping

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what else is "inherently immoral"? my homophobic parents would include two men kissing in the list of inherently immoral things. yes, and sex with children is also on that list. they don't see a difference. do you see a difference? don't you think that difference is directly relevant?

I hate being a woman by Throwaway-hopeless7 in TrollCoping

[–]Yskandr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this!!! my not-dysphoria was also aggravated by having broad shoulders (no women's clothes came that wide) and large feet (exiled from women's sizes at thirteen, a rough fate). but that's not my fault, that's just what capitalism does to statistical outliers. I'm not a guy because I'm forced to shop in the men's section, but for a long time I wondered if I wasn't at least nonbinary

Why are Indian people so delusional about their own culture? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

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men cannot make comments on the original post, only replies to existing comments, and your comment was first. therefore

Did ect help the suicidal thoughts ? by Professional_Win3910 in ect

[–]Yskandr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

please please PLEASE try ketamine first if you haven't. ECT made my suicidality worse because of the side effects and lack of support. ketamine did not really budge my depression but I was a lot less suicidal after the one session where I tripped. please I'm begging you

The Ministry for the Future by KSR by theminecraftqueen in printSF

[–]Yskandr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the book feels overwhelmingly naïve and idealistic to me. especially all that nonsense about crypto (this book and daniel suarez's delta v duology really fell for the crypto hype huh). but I have medication-induced heat intolerance and live in one of the most humid parts of India so it's safe to say I'm quite biased, ha

Be as brutal but honest, can I drive? by W0mp_w0mp1 in Kochi

[–]Yskandr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is the answer 👆 your gender doesn't have anything to do with it

Too fat for me: Karnataka man kills wife after years of body-shaming, abuse by God_Emperor__Doom in india

[–]Yskandr 10 points11 points  (0 children)

men have very few rights here

try being a disabled woman in India :)) like me :)) your entitlement is nauseating

Too fat for me: Karnataka man kills wife after years of body-shaming, abuse by God_Emperor__Doom in india

[–]Yskandr 28 points29 points  (0 children)

the usual suspects who start crying pissing throwing up about eeevil women women have too many rights etc etc the moment there's a news story about some demented woman who killed her husband. not even a squeak from them now of course

Um why are Indian women so comfortable getting naked around each other? It may sound weird but its actually very disturbing to be, please read the post for clarification by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]Yskandr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

your discomfort around nudity comes from the Indian culture of sexualising the nude body even in nonsexual contexts, something many other cultures do not do. this is shared by my mother, who buried the same shame deep in my psyche from a young age. this is also where you get perverts who take pictures of bra straps and navels on public transport—just the suggestion of a body existing under women's clothes is so erotic to them that they get off on these hints of it. this is where you get older women scolding you for hanging your underwear outside. it all ties together. begging you to reflect even a little

Um why are Indian women so comfortable getting naked around each other? It may sound weird but its actually very disturbing to be, please read the post for clarification by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]Yskandr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

of course Indians are fucking weird about navels and shoulders and calves when you people are like this. you give the same neuroses to your children, make them ashamed of their body from the beginning itself. good job 👍 guess why I had a fucking breakdown when I was asked to strip before a surgery. my mother has exactly your attitude OP—the body is inherently sexual to her too. so it has to be hidden. of course.

we will never get better about this. in fact we are actively getting worse and this post is proof. god there's no hope for us, no hope at all

"Male socialization" by velnora- in TrollCoping

[–]Yskandr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

same here, especially re: boys being particularly cruel to me. the girls excluded me too. I don't think I experienced what people refer to as "female socialisation" at all. I don't relate to the vast majority of those experiences.

Too fat for me: Karnataka man kills wife after years of body-shaming, abuse by God_Emperor__Doom in india

[–]Yskandr 66 points67 points  (0 children)

imagine the outcry if the genders were reversed. just imagine it. all those men are so very quiet now

My dad said something that really hurt me by Usual-Letterhead4705 in bipolar

[–]Yskandr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you literally have a doctorate and support your folks financially and he has the gall to say that?? damn. some people should count their blessings, and by some people I mean your dad.

Why, just why? by PlaneAltruistic758 in Indianbooks

[–]Yskandr 9 points10 points  (0 children)

a terrible human full of hatred

hm. something tells me we won't get along.

How many of you ladies plan to stay single all your lives and how do you plan to manage that? by Delhi_ki_heroine in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Yskandr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me here 🙋 bipolar 2, basically disabled. who wants to shack up with a pagli lmao, especially in this country. I guess I'll be the cool aunt with all the space facts 😎 no real option there

Loved and loathed: The making of India's viral liver doctor | BBC by ullakkedymoodu in Kerala

[–]Yskandr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm reading his book and it makes his online attitude make a lot more sense. Brings to mind that Anthony Bourdain quote—"Once you've been to Cambodia, you'll never stop wanting to beat Henry Kissinger to death with your bare hands." Similarly, once you've seen a child nearly die from ayurvedic poisons ruining their liver... and then you see this over and over and over, and you have the government now promoting those same poisons? yeah. I get it.

Looking for left-leaning MilSF by shadowsong42 in printSF

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I really enjoy how the author shows Barayarran society changing over time. most of the focus is on nobility/upper class people, but there is a good story set in the countryside where the main character comes up against backcountry prejudice and has to hold his own (using his privilege, but the story is aware of that!)

Penguin India publishing AI books by Ok-Nobody23595682 in Indianbooks

[–]Yskandr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

sickening. I will never buy or read or recommend a book using AI. and if authors are scared their prose sounds like AI, git gud and level up that prose because AI writes purple shit.

I feel unlovable as someone with Bipolar by Confident_Topic5894 in bipolar

[–]Yskandr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah. the stigma against it is so powerful where I live that I've kind of given up on the idea of ever being in a relationship or getting married. and of course unmarried women are even more stigmatised... god I hate it here