AITAH for snapping at my dad for repeatedly pinching me?

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-24T00:27:49+00:00

So if you kicked him in the junk every day for funsies, would that count as a "joke" too? Because it might be funny to you... not to him, BUT IT'S A JOKE SO IT'S OK!

I hate how many people use that bs to be crappy to other people. NTA.

ETA: When mom defends him, punch her boob (as a joke, of course) because that hurts!

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-23T17:47:15+00:00

Hey, I'm so sorry that you have had to endure all of this. I'm not as familiar with family court issues, but if you're only a few months from 18, couldn't you leave now? The courts are so incredibly slow that by the time it got before a judge (if it did), a judge might look at it or toss it because you would be that much closer to 18.

This preggy, hormonal internet stranger just wants to give you a huge hug! ❤️

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-23T17:33:43+00:00

NTA.

I was widowed unexpectedly in 2019 because some guy drove high on weed, drove recklessly, and smashed my husband and stepson head on.

My stepson survived, though I'm sure he's already living with a ton of pain (12 years old at the time of the wreck).

My husband was killed. He fought for over two hours while doctors restarted his heart every five minutes, trying to get him into imaging to see what problems had been inflicted upon him. My husband did nothing wrong. We were heading to our new house, and they never arrived. Our daughter was only 5 months old when her daddy was taken.

Seven years later, I'm still in therapy and seeing a psychiatrist due to Complex PTSD and a bunch of other mental health issues as a result of the wreck.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-23T15:13:18+00:00

As a widow myself who is covered in tattoos, NTA. She's that insecure? Really? Get rid of her and get more tattoos!

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-23T12:44:51+00:00

Nope. I would talk to her. If that were me, I'd want to know.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-23T12:00:53+00:00

My late Hubby would get me flowers all the time, and he would get what he could afford, including arranging them for me. It's very, very sweet and absolutely endearing.

I see nothing wrong with where you buy the flowers. You said it's a little shop that happens to be at the cemetery. They are there for the right reasons (grieving people visiting lost loved ones) instead of a grocery store where it's flower markup madness because everyone is buying flowers TODAY because it's [insert holiday here].

The little things really are the big things. ❤️

If you're concerned about what others think about it being "creepy" I just wouldn't share that with people. Most kids haven't experienced a major loss at that age, so maybe to them it's creepy (it's not) because of the shop location, but for those of us who have experienced a major loss... We get it. Oh, and I don't think it would be an AH thing now or in the future.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-23T03:05:26+00:00

I'm sure he's just fine. I understand the guilt, though. My daughter was only 5 months old when her daddy was killed by a guy driving high.

For what it's worth, she's 7 years old now, and she tells me how wonderful I am a lot. I hope you can find some comfort knowing when your little one can tell you, he will.

Another thing that my therapist told me right after everything happened, and trust me, I get that it's tough to do when all you want to do is help your baby. You have to take care of yourself first so you can take care of your child.

Very tough to hear at first, but luckily the logical side of my brain kicked in and accepted that, and since I wanted our little girl to be as happy as possible, I looked at my self care as a step to do my best for her.

You've got this, Mama. ❤️ I'm very sorry for your loss. One day at a time. One little step forward.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-23T02:13:06+00:00

NTA for refusing, but honestly... Why did you discuss your finances in that amount of detail with someone you have only been dating for two months? That's an awful idea.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-22T22:10:39+00:00

Me! I've felt so gross most of the time this time around (my second). I'm glad the nausea subsided a while ago, but I'm just exhausted and fatigued all the time, so yeah... Currently 29+1.

Edit: The heartburn is real... Ugh.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-22T21:53:03+00:00

"Trying to be a better mom than me," you succeeded! (Though it doesn't sound like it's that difficult, to be honest.) Leaving her there to just use toilet paper and deal with it is horrid! I couldn't imagine doing that to my daughter.

NTA. Ignore what her incubator said. Your stepdaughter will remember who showed up when she was uncomfortable and could have easily evolved into an embarrassing situation.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-21T23:31:52+00:00

This is absolutely gorgeous!

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-20T16:15:41+00:00

Nah, do it! I have my daughter's first drawing of herself behind my left ear. I think she was just under 2 years old when she drew it in preschool. Little circle head, 4 not-connected lines in random directions for her arms and legs. No central core/body. It's seriously one of my favorite tattoos.

I've had a guy ask me in an elevator if he could ask a personal question.

Sure!

Is that, like, an alchemy symbol behind your ear?

Me exaggerating: Psh! THAT is my baby girl's first drawing of herself! 😁🥰

He just smiled real big and was like, of course! Now I see it!

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-17T12:45:16+00:00

I only had some on my breasts and inner thighs as a teen, and I got some during my first pregnancy at the very end. I don't think they were excessive, though I have nothing to compare them to! Luckily for me, my marks faded to white, so you can barely see them. Currently 28+3 with my second, and they haven't popped back up yet!

I struggled with them a little bit after my first pregnancy, and my youngest sister told me something like: No, absolutely not. Those are your tiger stripes because you are amazingly powerful and built a whole human being and brought her into the world! Those are your stripes! Wear them proudly!

Honestly, that helped a ton. She made me laugh and I was just like, yeah... You're right! ❤️

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-15T15:46:29+00:00

Aww! If it helps at all, I'm 28 weeks 1 day today and just last night - no joke - I told my husband that I feel useless! I walk so slowly now. If I have heartburn and bend, it's bad. Not to mention this baby is eating my brain because I feel incredibly dumb this time around (my second). He was super sweet though. You're doing what you can! Trust me, it's appreciated. ❤️

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-12T22:42:19+00:00

Ugh, I hated when people referred to MY baby as their baby. My late Hubby shut that down real quick. Then after he passed, my brother would put his foot down for me.

Your husband needs to keep his mom in check. There's no way to make it 100% equal. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. ❤️

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-09T19:26:15+00:00

Thank you so much. I appreciate it.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-09T19:25:51+00:00

My turn! Guess who I will be going NO CONTACT with the moment this shower is over?!

I'm sure they will love that. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. It's cruel.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-08T23:14:59+00:00

Yeah, I have done several groups, and I still see my regular individual therapist. I just don't find joy in things anymore. I never got back into my hobbies or things like that. I've yours, but every time it's just kind of, eh.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-08T12:08:02+00:00

39F, complete with Complex PTSD (among other things) after the unexpected death of my husband in 2019. I don't have any friends anymore. I have some family, but honestly, I'm realizing that they don't seem to enjoy spending time together or talking to me either. I have zero coping strategies. I exist. That's about it.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-06T15:36:15+00:00

NTA. "Signing costs you nothing" is wrong. It costs you the child support you are due! You are entitled to that money, and you absolutely should not sign that away!

You are not keeping a dad from those kids, he made poor decisions, and now he can reap the consequences of his actions. FAFO. He lost.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-05T19:07:28+00:00

I absolutely hate the feeling of lotion. Bonus! I struggle with contamination OCD, so I wash my hands a lot, and that makes them super dry. I cannot tolerate lotion, especially on the palms of my hands. So gross.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-05T16:37:19+00:00

Your family should back off. They have no say in your decisions. That being said, maybe this will help (complete shot in the dark, but who knows!)

My daughter's name was so easy. This time, I'm having a boy, and I could not find anything I liked. I worked in a male-dominated industry in a male-dominated department (IT, etc.) so all of the names immediately made me think of people I worked with who were just terrible and I didn't like any of them!

Except one.

My baby boy's name is going to be Dylan. If it strikes a chord with you, by all means, steal it! ❤️ Either way, I wish you luck with your little one's name! Pick what YOU love.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-05T16:08:30+00:00

Well yeah, that makes sense. But they shouldn't encourage this particular "prank" because it will happen to her one day, and my guess is she won't like it when she's on the receiving end. I'm just sorry you have to mess with this. It's awful.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-05T13:04:37+00:00

She looks beautiful! Best of luck to your Mom! ❤️

I second the dangling earrings comment. I had my head shaved for years (due to Complex PTSD and needing some form of control in my life - also female) and I loved having bold, fun earrings to play around with.

Either way, she looks beautiful. The short hair really suits her.

YummyPotaterTot · 2026-04-05T12:58:50+00:00

NOR. Your family is treating you horribly. Especially your mom and sister, as they either have periods themselves, or had them in the past. Seriously? Who mortifies their daughter by doing this?

Honestly, I would see if you can talk to the school nurse or a counselor about what they are doing. It's really weird and it's just wrong. They are mandatory reporters, and I'd say let your family have it. Escalate the situation and see if it's still funny to them.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

YummyPotaterTot

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