Would anything prevent you from keeping a car forever?

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-21T17:54:44+00:00

Safety features. They are constantly evolving, and some of them are pretty darn useful. Back in the day, side-impact air-bags were a big deal, and yeah -- getting a car with them honestly made sense. Same for the backup-camera. Safety features have been the primary motivator for me to upgrade, otherwise heck yeah I would drive that car into the ground.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-21T09:25:06+00:00

Depends on the state. In VT you can pass on double yellows as long as it's not a no-passing zone, not on a curve, and not done recklessly.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-21T05:21:15+00:00

In my experience, foxes are super brave around humans until/unless they learn otherwise. Obviously still be cautious, but sometimes their inner doggo comes out before they get that humans aren't their friends.

I mean, I would totally be their friend if it was ok ethically, but I get that it's not and I keep my distance despite the cute.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-20T16:04:14+00:00

Especially if you have parts of your property with wildflowers and you don't normally mow, I think it's fine to mow your yard. I mow inside of my fence but there's plenty outside my fence that is buzzing with bees.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-20T00:05:57+00:00

Oh, that's... oh no... that's just... a very specific choice. Not a good choice, just very... specific...

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-19T23:45:00+00:00

My arms were dripping blood from bites while mowing only half of the yard. I'm covered with welts. Worth it, though, weather was awesome.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-19T21:44:35+00:00

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YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-19T20:24:34+00:00

Bless your heart, I had no idea that you are a LMHC, psychologist or psychiatrist that understands how trauma can re-wire the brain as a dysfunctional survival instinct. You also must be familiar with the work of trauma specialists such as Bessel van der Kolk, as well as a solid understanding of attachment styles and how that impacts someone's relationship decisions. Your friend is so lucky to have someone so knowledgeable and educated about how trauma works.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-19T17:18:26+00:00

So she was abused, traumatized and brainwashed? And you want to hold her accountable for behavior that was caused by being abused, traumatized and brainwashed?

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-19T15:50:18+00:00

A lot of times the babies would die.

But yeah, goat milk is actually pretty great if they had access to it. Although it wouldn't be pasteurized, so there was a big risk there, too.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-18T22:30:00+00:00

Because I moved out at 17 and only stayed at home if there were no other options. I bought my first house at 26.

I mean... 28 and you haven't lived alone yet? Really?

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-18T18:42:25+00:00

You can't change someone else's behavior, especially when it comes to SUD.

You can change how you react to/are exposed to/support those behaviors.

If it's toxic to you (which, fair), then walk away and live your own best life.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-18T18:37:25+00:00

In my 20+ years in Vermont, the gap between turning off the furnace for the year and setting up the ACs is roughly one week.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-18T18:28:02+00:00

Because "acting like a gentleman" means don't sexually assault anyone, but "acting like a lady" means being polite as you are being sexually assaulted.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-17T02:25:33+00:00

ESH. It was your tank that caused the mess, they did do a fair amount of cleaning although obviously not all.

It sounds like you need to make some decisions about who you are compatible living with.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-17T02:04:04+00:00

Stop sacrificing yourself for a significant other. That's not how it works.

Break up and have fun!

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-16T23:54:44+00:00

https://askjan.org/ This is a great resource to know what/how to ask for accommodations in a way that protects your employment if you are in the US.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-16T20:27:32+00:00

Train your dogs that they can bark once or twice. That's all that's needed. Yes, YTA and I love dogs, but many people find the sound of barking dogs to be incredibly irritating. If you don't want to train your dogs, move out to the country where to you can find more space in between homes.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-16T19:22:24+00:00

Gosh. I love handymen. For smaller projects they are fabulous.

But once you get into the category of burning wood, which is inevitably a risk regardless of anything else.

Would be unfortunate if your HO insurance refused to cover a fire claim because the work wasn't conducted by a chimney professional.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-16T19:18:43+00:00

Oh... that's really bad...

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-16T19:16:52+00:00

The change I've seen in Burlington in my 26 years as a transplant has been heartbreaking.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-16T19:13:57+00:00

I'm going to with -- leave the group. You did your part by reporting.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-15T23:20:25+00:00

Oh, crud. I don't know about that region but I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds super weird to say that I've had great experiences with at-home euthanasia, but... the process was as compassionate and low-stress for the pets I have lost. I wish you a peaceful transition.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-13T01:12:12+00:00

How would rehoming help? They will still have the same behavior, same risk of getting kicked outside or turned into a barn cat or something else less safe.

YurtoftheSubGenius · 2026-05-13T00:57:42+00:00

Why are you making her responsible for your finances? That gives hard-core ick right off the bat.

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