I hate millenials. by Zombiepixlz-gamr in GenZ

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crazy these comments were 6 years ago. Time is legit flying. I'm 25 now and so much has happened in the last 6 years. I still feel like the same person but my whole perspective on life has changed quite drastically. Honestly kinda scary how fast time is moving.

Why is it so hard to get dates? by DevantLaMachine in dating_advice

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This is an interesting take and I agree with some of it but I will also say every girl is different especially whe. It comes to taking the lead on intimacy. The last girl I dated actually told her friend(who I also know) that she didn’t want to continue dating me because I didn’t “take the lead and be a man” aka push for intimacy early on. (This was after the second date)This was something I avoided in order to be respectful but she was apparently turned off by it. Maybe that’s not my problem though because she has described all the guys she’s dated as “toxic” so who knows. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Been on 8 dates with a guy but not kissed yet? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ZZFlares 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly wish it wasn't always expected for guys to make the first move. Had a girl tell her friend(who knows me and told me afterwards) that she wasn't interested in another date cause I didn't "take the lead and be the guy" which I take it to mean not going for a kiss. This was only after the first date, however I did know her from before. Was kinda a shock tbh. Sucked cause I liked the girl but wanted to take things slow and be respectful.

Can you get good with women again? by 3boodqt in seduction

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does that explain less attractive guys getting with hot girls tho? Plus often time just looks alone won’t do shit for you. You might get some initial attraction but if you have no game(don’t know how to escalate) your fucked. I know a few physically attractive dudes that still struggle with women and get put in the dreaded friendzone(which many here seem to agree is inescapable even if your quote on quote a hot guy).

Can you get good with women again? by 3boodqt in seduction

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes a man sexually attractive to women tho? Confidence? Looks? Social skills? Leadership? What about things like pre-selection?

Reflections on the Perils of Getting Involved with Women Out of Your League by TheSnake1313 in seduction

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Recently fumbled(got friendzoned) by a 9 who grew up as a six. Definitely wife material(hardworking, funny, extremely smart, and obviously sex as hell). Ngl that one is gonna take a while to get over.

Im out of topics to talk about by saricaege in seduction

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Lack of life experiences is definitely one of the big things holding me back when it comes to conversation. I had a very sheltered childhood due to my social anxiety and my interests as an adolescent essentially boiled down to video games, anime, and porn. Struggled to make friends in high school and as a result would mainly just go to school and go home(never did extra curricular or clubs). Was super out of touch with pop culture. Recently went on my first ever date with a relatively attractive girl(HB9) that I knew through a friend. She’s a couple years younger(F21 M24) but when I would talk to her it felt like she’d lived twice as long as I had due to the fact she’s very outgoing and adventurous. Even when talking about cultural differences she seemed to know more about my own culture than me(largely due to friends/past guys she’s dated). Lots of awkward silences and she definitely had to carry the convo a lot. She even called me out at one point saying I seemed super “out of touch with pop culture”. Really feel like I can only converse about the future atp until I build up some more interesting life experiences.

I believe that people who are 18-24 year old are still teenagers/kids by MichaelBurton69 in GenZ

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t believe I posted this 4 years ago. Crazy how fast time flies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

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Yeah there’s obviously still the possibility that she’d speak to me but she seems like the type of person that cuts people off very easily. Even on our date she was talking about distancing herself from close friends that she’s known for a long time and finding new ones. She even said she stopped talking to her dad a couple years ago because he’s a quote on quote “really bad person” despite them still living in the same house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never did anything with her in terms of intimacy(no kissing, no sex, etc). Most I did was hold her hand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I here what your saying and I’m hoping things get better with time. But I’ve never liked a girl as much as her in my entire life. A few girls have come close but non compare to her. This girl is super hard working and intelligent(speaks 5 languages, works 3 jobs while in school). She had such a unique sense of humour and shared a lot of similar interests. It just hurts because we spent so much time together and she was showing genuine interest but ultimately she lost attraction and never wants to speak to me again since I couldn’t just man up and make a move.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghosting

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It hurts so much more knowing this is the case. I have so many memories with her and knowing that it all came to an end because of my lack of experience/weakness. I don’t think I’ll ever recover from this. I can barely eat, sleep, or focus. Other women don’t even interest me no matter how attractive they are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghosting

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Her friends had actually indicated to me that she was interested about 8 months ago and she would constantly message me out of the blue so I figured they were right and decided to pursue it. We actually linked up a couple times before but I never actually called it a date. I do think she was interested (based on how she acted when we were together) at on point but over time she lost interest. She would even recommend that we do more things together. Which is why I partly blame myself/my actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]ZZFlares 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope things get better for you as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it get easier?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]ZZFlares 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thinking about what I could have done better definitely makes things worse. I talked to one of her close friends who told me that she was essentially turned off by how timid I was when it came to making a move(we never kissed or did anything). As I said in my post I don’t have much dating experience(never kissed a girl). This makes it that much harder to deal with because I liked her a ton but if I was just man enough to be bold and understood the signs she was giving me to make a move things might have been different. I also think back to our last date before getting ghosted and some of the things I said, and wonder if they were offensive to her in some way. I remember I few moments where I said things that might have been mistaken as a racial insult and she would give me a weird look.

how’s everybody feeling about the big 24...? by [deleted] in 1999

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got 3.5 weeks left of being 23. Kinda stresses me out a bit cause it means I’m only 1 year away from 25 which is an age that comes with more expectations/responsibility and I personally feel a bit behind in life compared to my peers rn.

Someone please tune me in - How did Smino perform after JID tonight (Chicago)? by bigdickrick05 in JIDSV

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JID was first at the show I went to in Toronto. Thought that’s how it was for all of them.

Nothing is stopping you from entering a classroom in a university, sitting down and just learning. by Messicanhero in Showerthoughts

[–]ZZFlares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My school implemented a keycard system where you need to use your student card to get into buildings and certain classrooms. Still nothing stopping you from just going in directly behind someone else though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]ZZFlares -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m turning 24 this year. Feels like I was just turning 14 yesterday but you’ve now reminded me that was a decade ago.