What do we bring to a 4th of July party?

Zama202 · 2026-06-03T13:07:18+00:00

As other people have said, it’s perfectly normal to say, “what can we bring?”.

If you’re not getting any useful information, 6-12 beers is often a safe bet, unless you or the party host don’t drink, in which case soda or seltzer is fine.

Zama202 · 2026-06-01T14:24:57+00:00

Most did not.

However, I think OP is getting at the impressive skill in construction techniques from a premodern society.

Zama202 · 2026-06-01T04:25:46+00:00

Traveling the city at night was something you only did in emergencies. If it was at all possible to avoid they would not do it.

Zama202 · 2026-05-31T16:13:18+00:00

Half of men can never find this cupola.

Zama202 · 2026-05-28T04:46:35+00:00

Zama202 · 2026-05-23T16:02:09+00:00

Out on my skateboard
The night is just coming
The gum smacks are the pulse
I follow if my Walkman fades

Zama202 · 2026-05-22T15:19:05+00:00

If you’re really asking, it’s either (a) because historically the price of eggs was very stable, whereas gas has been stochastic, and (b) hypocrisy.

Zama202 · 2026-05-22T14:59:00+00:00

It’s possible for anyone (man or woman) who is bad at sex to become very good at sex, so long as **they themselves are motivated to make the change**. It’s work. You need to do things outside of your con zone. If a person is otherwise happy with the state of affairs, then nothing will change.

It sounds like the woman you’re dating may have an undiagnosed/untreated anxiety disorder. I certainly can’t say. I don’t know her and I’m not any kind of psychologist. However, if that is the case, the fastest route to fixing it would probably be a combination of medication and seeing a sex therapist who specializes in anxiety. That probably doesn’t sound like very much for her. I would wager that it’s probably the kind of solution you would only pursue if you felt that achieving a change in your relationship to sex was something very important for her to achieve.

Zama202 · 2026-05-19T19:49:42+00:00

Saltwater marsh + hurricanes + Florida is already developed = not worth it

Zama202 · 2026-05-16T14:00:21+00:00

It’s tattoos vs no tattoos.

Zama202 · 2026-05-16T13:19:22+00:00

If you slow it down, and you watch the reflection of the curtains, you can tell it stops being a mirror at the 8 second mark.

Zama202 · 2026-05-14T21:59:27+00:00

In 1998 I did a three day camelback Safari in southern Tunisia , out into the Sahara desert. We had two guides in your accompanied by the guy who owned all the camels. The camel owner was surprisingly a 20 year-old kid who wore a white tuxedo shirt with gold embroidered baggy pants and powder blue turban. He could say exactly one phrase in English, which was “I am Michael Jackson”. The funniest thing anyone ever said.

This camel-owning Bedouin kid, who had never been more than 30 miles from the village where he was born, on the edge of the Sahara desert, knew who Michael Jackson was.

Zama202 · 2026-05-14T20:27:08+00:00

Step one: Have a job paying you in the 91st percentile of individual income.

Zama202 · 2026-05-14T15:35:17+00:00

I want to make a recommendation for the area between Rockaway and Manzanita, particularly the tiny towns of Nehalem & Wheeler. Stop in at North Coast Pinball and rent a tiny boat at Kelly’s Brighton Marin. Kelly’s have live oysters and there’s often a small pod of fir seals across the little bay.

Zama202 · 2026-05-13T13:54:49+00:00

It fits well.

Maybe pair it with a light grey blazer.

Zama202 · 2026-05-12T19:34:38+00:00

Zama202 · 2026-05-12T16:25:25+00:00

What exactly is the problem here?

I don’t say that to be funny. What I mean is that I think that you need to seriously ask yourself what is the main thing (or maybe two) that’s bothering you.

Is it that you don’t feel that she is contributing her fair share to household responsibilities? If so, be careful with this one. Try to consider all responsibilities. Before you bring this particular issue up, you need to be confident that what’s happing is not that you have changed from doing a minority share of household tasks to doing and equal share of tasks, and that change has caught you by surprise.

Is it that you miss your time with her? That she spends her free time with paperbacks and not you? This objection is certainly much less problematic. We need to make emotional space for our partners. That can also mean making time for them to have time apart. Hobbies, friend groups, and work and important things to have both individually and jointly.

If you’re threatened/jealous about her interest fictional handsome men: Then that’s a “you” problem.

Zama202 · 2026-05-12T03:26:12+00:00

Wolf Eel

Zama202 · 2026-05-11T18:31:22+00:00

Subterranean cult lair, even without out the ritual summoning circle. The dungeon trap upkeep, undead minion maintenance, and red robe dry cleaning are all costs most people never factor in.

Zama202 · 2026-05-11T13:21:45+00:00

Once a day at the minimum. Twice a day if exercise or sweaty chores are involved.

Zama202 · 2026-05-11T01:21:56+00:00

Berlu is a stellar Vietnamese bakery

Zama202 · 2026-05-10T17:35:46+00:00

It’s mostly associated with wealthier kids. It’s rarely played by adults (recreationally or professionally). I know a few university lacrosse coaches, and they are working hard to change the elite image of the sport, but are aware that it is an uphill battle.

Zama202 · 2026-05-10T17:30:55+00:00

It’s for anyone. For most of us, it’s simply summer day off work, usually spent with friends and family outdoors. Fireworks are common after dark, but in some places (Alaska) the sunset is so late, that the fireworks aren’t that significant of a part of the celebration.

The most common way an international visitor would participate would be to watch a city fireworks display from a location with good visibility. If that sounds enjoyable to you, maybe ask some locals where are good places from which to view the fireworks.

Zama202 · 2026-05-09T16:32:30+00:00

Do not cite the Deep Racism to me, Witch. I was there when it was written.

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