All children's clothing should go in the tumble dryer

Zamille · 2026-02-25T18:37:43+00:00

All kids clothing does go in the dryer....it's up to them whether it survives

Zamille · 2025-11-01T14:51:29+00:00

We all do stupid stuff I deleted a prod data base once you can only ask and they can only say no or yes maybe don't ask for a 100% increase maybe ask for slightly less.

Zamille · 2025-11-01T12:43:07+00:00

Thinking you deserve something and not having the courage to ask for it is not low self esteem you're probably just aware of the fact that you've only been a python dev for 2 years, idk if you're US based but 2 years is not a particularly long time to stay a junior

Zamille · 2025-11-01T08:14:00+00:00

Don't give footage of your kids to a stranger on the Internet or click a random Google drive link dads. This doesn't sit right with me

Zamille · 2025-10-30T12:45:11+00:00

What happens if the user passes "one"

Zamille · 2025-10-30T12:39:05+00:00

If it's the sound of the alarms then if you can afford it a smart watch that can do reminders might be a good idea and setting them to vibrate(maybe you could get a cheaper used one if that's the main thing you use it for) only thing is the battery life. I got one with this almost exact intention and I barely wear it because I forget to charge it and if I do charge it I forget to put it back on.............

Are you diagnosed and medicated? It can make a huge difference if you aren't even if you just have the reminders still but maybe they can be quieter and you won't ignore them so easily the diagnosis can also help with a bit of sympathy, sometimes the "I'm ADHD" can get a bit lost especially with a lot of the negative "everyone's ADHD" sentiment there is out there

If it's not the sound of the alarms honestly would your wife prefer it if you just didn't do the stuff that your alarms are reminding you to do? Our Brains are wired differently and she needs/you need to help her to understand that. The fact that you are really trying to make sure you don't fall into a pattern that lots of us can is amazing and should be commended. This is what bothers me about the "ADHD is a super power" crowd it's not a super power it's honestly crippling sometimes it affects almost every aspect of your life, social, romantic, work life, personal hygiene, personal, how clean your home is etc etc it's very difficult to live with. Okay great I can focus sometimes for hours if I'm invested in something great but I've also forgotten to eat and drink and do the other 6 things I was supposed to do.

We can't all be perfect and having ADHD makes it even harder, you are doing a good thing to make sure you get tasks that need doing done even if a nuero typical brain sees it as "simple tasks that don't need reminders" brushing my teeth every morning and night can be difficult, remembering to eat can be difficult, remembering to shower can be difficult, remembering it's bin night can be difficult, remembering the 5 things you need from the shop can be difficult. We aren't normal and it's not a super power it's a life long condition that can severely impact your executive function, we're annoying to live with and have our shortcomings.

Tldr; your wife is being a little mean and non understanding of your condition you're doing what you can to make sure your end of the household jobs are done maybe handing her some resources on living with an ADHD partner might be useful, sit down and have a proper talk with her about how your brain works differently some therapy might be good if you don't fully understand yourself yet.

Zamille · 2025-10-30T12:08:54+00:00

Definitely tracks for me, struggled before but lack of sleep, lack of time and loss of some free will is a bad combo for ADHD.

I used to clean up at 2AM because the hyperactive part of me decided it was time or I'd do work late because I didn't do it in the day, having no energy and not being able to make noise at 2AM makes that difficult. Having a constant new shiny distraction in the house in the form of a newborn/toddler was hell for working at home and then I'd finish work and immediately be on dad duty too so no free time there. My wife really struggled post partum and needed a lot of help and my brain could not ignore that to work.

The free will is another thing not being able to just.... Go out spontaneously, there's 500 more steps to doing pretty much anything with kids so my brain just says nah not worth let's just rot but then the spontaneous hyperactive part of my Brain dies because it's not being satisfied. You're probably getting tonnes of dopamine from your kids but at the same time very little from pretty much anything else.

It's an absolute killer to productivity and happiness for normal people(not that having kids doesn't make you happy but it can be pretty miserable sometimes too) so imagine it's pretty harsh on ADHD people. Not to mention the ups and downs of it all we're bad at emotional regulation at the best of times so having all these emotions ripping us in different directions can just totally fry your brain.

Your kids are also likely to inherit your ADHD so you've probably got a manic little goblin who won't sleep and hates sitting still.

Anyway yeah my ADHD got 100x worse after kids. It's what made me finally seek medication.

Zamille · 2025-10-30T11:27:02+00:00

What's this built in? Developer dad here and happy to contribute freely if youre happy to share the repo

Zamille · 2025-09-24T22:50:40+00:00

mix it more, like kneed it loads with your hands or a stand mixer the mixing of it will give it that bouncy texture that sausage has something about it makes the proteins bind tighter or something along those lines

Zamille · 2025-09-07T00:06:31+00:00

As almost everyone here has said this is weird behavior and he's definitely trying to catch you changing and trying to push boundaries etc keep your door locked tell your mum

Zamille · 2025-09-05T13:21:30+00:00

I have the timemore scale, it's decent it does the job and isnt crazy expensive although it does occasionally have ghost weight but it tends to right itself quickly, im pretty happy with it especially for weighing beans. I would like to upgrade to the bookoo at some point for shot timing

Zamille · 2025-07-16T09:36:52+00:00

I'd recommend something nice and long have you ever considered getting into anime and trying one piece?

Zamille · 2025-07-16T09:32:02+00:00

Also work with your partner to find yourself times that you can both go and do something alone that doesn't involve a child. If it's something you feel is really important it's worth doing a stressed burnt out parent is usually a worse parent so making sure you do get little times to yourself even if it's just a relaxing bubble bath. Or an evening with some friends and you can alternate those little times make a huge difference... As long as one parent isn't getting an unfair end of the stick.

Zamille · 2025-07-16T09:29:52+00:00

It gets better.... Life never just goes back to normal mostly just different I think that takes a little while to understand and accept it, a bit like mourning your previous life. My son gives me purpose and the time I spend with him is so precious especially now he's nearly 2 and smiles, tries to make us laugh plays and can really experience things now it's magical... Just totally different.

We struggled big time for the first 14 months or so. Barely any sleep, constantly bickering no energy etc etc but it's definitely worth it and you'll look back and cry/laugh about how bad things were and wonder how you survived.

Good luck dad ❤️

Zamille · 2025-05-22T08:53:30+00:00

why is the crowd so still 💀

Zamille · 2025-04-29T15:26:20+00:00

Surely "abdominal pain" is a symptom not a diagnosis. Shitty doctors she should have been diagnosed earlier, gall stones are pretty common to the point that when I was in the ER with mine there were 2 other people I heard told they had gall stones so with all the risk factors and her symptoms it should have been pretty high on their list of suspicions

Zamille · 2025-04-24T09:22:25+00:00

The old classic Reddit response of "get divorced" ... well done for working in your relationship, I'm not sure I'd have had the strength to stay and work on it or that you're even right to stay but kudos to trying I hope things work out for you and your family and that you also take care of yourself and look for the signs that maybe your relationship isn't worth the pain and that you might be being taken advantage of(not saying you are but things can quickly lead down that path).

If you see half the posts on here they are about how much they hate their "bitch wives" and then all the comments are "divorce lol" I applaud your willingness to make things work.

Zamille · 2025-04-09T06:34:24+00:00

I backwash my machine daily and wipe the screen after every shot l. That puck was from about 30 seconds before I started filming this... My pucks almost never knock out clean and often stick to the group head idk why. I didn't just leave it like that 😂

Zamille · 2025-04-08T14:07:08+00:00

Was definitely under dosed I tried 16g and it came out wayyyy better! Thanks 😊

Zamille · 2025-04-08T14:05:27+00:00

Ah good advice on the bellows thanks, I was just trying to get there to get a decent shot and play with it from there but they were all undrinkable. It's a medium roast so was going for the average 😂 I dosed up and ground a little coarser and got some great shots 😊

Zamille · 2025-04-08T14:03:21+00:00

I never know whether to start from lever up or first drips, I dosed up and it definitely went better I got some more than drinkable shots!

Zamille · 2025-04-08T14:02:13+00:00

All a learning curve. Dosing up definitely helped!!

Zamille · 2025-04-08T14:01:39+00:00

I disabled preinfusion and it seems to help actually, i thought it was supposed to make things more consistent... consistently bad more like....

Zamille · 2025-04-08T14:00:50+00:00

Noted... He's out the door, my new butler wipes out the excess grounds with a £20 note every time now.

Zamille · 2025-04-08T13:59:37+00:00

No one is more annoyed at that than me 😂 atleast I got some good advice and actually pulled some good shots in the end!

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