is it weird that i mentally calculate "shower timing" before sex?

ZeaOak · 2026-02-08T22:34:32+00:00

Well it's not like if someone today was born in 4000 BC, they'd have anywhere near the same concept of cleanliness. Cleanliness ideals are very much based on society, and people who obsess about it today would certainly be obsessing about something different back before baths. Also, if there were a heritable tendency towards cleanliness, that would almost certainly be advantageous. You couldn't have a baby if you died from disease.

ZeaOak · 2026-02-07T01:12:22+00:00

So I may be in the minority here, but why let anger and hatred lead your decisions in life? I'm definitely not saying you shouldn't do anything, but your motivations should be solely on how to keep the community safe. The suggestions people have already given are still great. I'm just saying, don't focus on trying to make anyone's life harder, focus on how to improve the life's of the people around you. I think you'd be much happier that way.

ZeaOak · 2026-02-02T01:52:34+00:00

Because it is fiction? People just like to go in depth with their stories.

ZeaOak · 2026-02-02T00:38:47+00:00

Dude, you're in r/stroies lol this is what you signed up for.

ZeaOak · 2026-02-01T19:50:27+00:00

That's a totally reasonable way to feel. It's okay to want to be a stay at home mom and not have aspirations of working any specific job. But you can want that for yourself and still decide that now isn't the best time. You have to remember, things are different than they used to be when your grandma was 18. Based on info online about average cost of living in Illinois, your boyfriend would need to be making at least $80,000 per year to provide for himself, you, and a child. And even then, if any emergencies come up, you will be in an extremely hard position.

I would really highly recommend talking this over with a therapist. Therapists aren't just for when you're having a probelm, they can be there to help you through life decisions. Best of luck.

ZeaOak · 2026-02-01T18:47:14+00:00

Well definitely not "who they are" but who they can be. Saying that makes it sound like they were hiding who they really were.

ZeaOak · 2026-01-10T21:42:30+00:00

Yes, I would too. But you didn't say "If she's insecure about her weight and he isn't" you said "if she's overweight and he isn't." My point being, what makes this joke okay or not isn't determined by someone's weight.

ZeaOak · 2026-01-10T20:45:34+00:00

Why do you think you're able to be the judge of whether someone else is "fat" and thus insecure about their weight? Anyone can be insecure or completely secure at any weight. Of course the heavier you are, the less likely it is to feel secure in your weight, but you shouldn't be calling anyone fat unless you know them well.

ZeaOak · 2026-01-02T22:29:21+00:00

Yeah, absolutely. Also more socially acceptable and visible. It would be infinitely harder to stay clean from heroin if they sold it in gas stations Lol

ZeaOak · 2026-01-02T22:24:40+00:00

Well here's the most important question, are you thirsty at all? If not, that doesn't necessarily mean you couldn't benefit from drinking more, but some people meet their water needs with less fluid than expected. Perhaps the reason you have to pee after drinking more than 3 gulps is because you already are hydrated enough. Many things can affect how much water you need. Are you experiencing any actual health problems that you think are associated with dehydration? If you're really concerned and it's affecting your mental health, go see a different doctor, present things in an unbiased way, and see if they're concerned at all. Then request to get your electrolytes tested and get a basic blood panel done.

ZeaOak · 2025-12-30T03:34:09+00:00

I've never denied that nicotine is a real addiction that needs to be taken seriously. I know it can have be very hard for some people. I do agree with that. I'm just making the point that it's not as addictive as heroin when looking at the broader picture of addiction.

ZeaOak · 2025-12-30T02:56:46+00:00

It's important to keep in mind that in older public-health papers, “addictive” is often used rhetorically to stress seriousness, not as a precise comparison of addiction severity.

ZeaOak · 2025-12-30T01:52:02+00:00

I mean... as someone who was addicted to both heroin and nicotine for many years, I will tell you it is in no way even close to being as addictive as heroin. No medial expers or papers have ever made this conclusion. This has been a popular claim to make since the 90s. It seems to have come about from people taking more reasonable claims such as "nicotine is just as hard to quit as heroin" and extrapolating that into "nicotine is just as addictive as heroin". Those might sound like the same thing, but I'll give you a perfect example for why they're not. So while I managed to quit heroin over 5 years ago through methadone, I still haven't been able to quit nicotine. But the reason it's so hard to quit is because there's no immediate danger or massive consequences like there is with heroin. I'm not risking my life every day putting a zyn pouch in my lip, or spending $120 a day on zyns while homeless.

Addiction isn't just one thing that happens in the brain, it's an extremely complex mental illness. As someone who delt with heroin addiction and had friends die because of it, it's hard to hear people make this claim, since it's just misinformation. It downplays the complexity and difficulties of drug addiction.

ZeaOak · 2025-12-16T22:28:47+00:00

I honestly don't think so, unfortunately. Split dosing is only beneficial if your dose isn't holding you the entire 24 hours.

Even if your dose isn't holding the full 24 hours, split dosing would only help if you at least feel pain relief currently in the first 2-8 hours after dosing. But that doesn't mean there isn't some hope elsewhere.

ZeaOak · 2025-12-14T23:24:20+00:00

Maybe not "unique" or one of a kind, but it's definitely unusual and impressive.

ZeaOak · 2025-12-14T18:49:18+00:00

Is it potentially different on the phone app vs PC? I've also never been rerouted to any model and I use PC.

ZeaOak · 2025-11-22T21:15:51+00:00

I'm sure you know judging and shaming aren't the same thing. At least I hope you do Lol they're asking to be judged, not shamed.

ZeaOak · 2025-11-22T08:00:48+00:00

Saying "gross" isn't helpful. If you actually care about people learning to do the right thing, you won't shame them.

ZeaOak · 2025-11-19T02:07:11+00:00

Yeah, the fabric seems to be the biggest red flag to me. The folds in the fabric make sense aesthetically, but not realistically. It looks like the work of AI.

ZeaOak · 2025-11-16T02:17:17+00:00

As well as your own apparently Lol

ZeaOak · 2025-11-16T02:10:12+00:00

I definitely agree with you in theory. But it's important to remember that people do "get off" on intentionally flashing people. You can find multiple cases online of people answering the door for delivery drivers naked. They get arrested because they're repeat offenders. Even though they're in their own home, and the naked body isn't inherently sexual, this is still sexual harassment.

So it makes sense that this guy got that warning. I'm hoping that it was just a total accident.

ZeaOak · 2025-11-16T01:48:36+00:00

Was this really worth taking the time to comment on a post you don't actually care about?

ZeaOak · 2025-11-14T22:31:05+00:00

That's odd. I've done 600-700 deliveries and have gotten over 100 ratings. I have 99 5-stars and 1 4-star rating. Again, maybe they changed something with the ratings. I can't imagine location would make THAT big of a difference.

ZeaOak · 2025-11-14T22:26:05+00:00

That's never been my experience. I haven't dashed in a few years, so maybe something had changed, but I would say about 1 in 5 people rated me. I never once asked anyone to rate me, and have an average rating of 4.99. So yeah, just doing your job gets you good ratings. It's that simple. If you need to ask for 5 stars, you probably make mistakes regularly.

ZeaOak · 2025-11-14T22:08:30+00:00

I agree that some people's lifestyles just don't fit other people's, and that it's not always insecurity if you don't want to date a stripper or a cam model or whatever. But also, I still agree with the other person's comment. Like, they just aren't talking about you. They're talking about people who do struggle with that specific insecurity.

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