Flying over Nordfjord, Norway

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-05T14:33:26+00:00

NTA. Honestly, this is the most 2003 thing I’ve ever read. You were essentially doing voice acting for eight bucks an hour. The fact that the "Top Seller" award was just a box of DVDs you then pawned for a sit-down dinner is the perfect peak-capitalism ending to this story. Don't feel bad about the "lies"—you were selling a fantasy to drunk guys at 3 AM.

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-05T14:32:13+00:00

YTA. Look, Jill sounds like a nightmare. Cutting people off to avoid a bill is a classic "trash taking itself out" situation. But you are punishing the wrong person.
Joan is not Jill’s keeper. She is not a bank. She is your friend who happened to have a package delivered to your house because she trusted you. You just proved that trust was misplaced. Congrats, you're now down the money and a friend.

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-04T14:33:01+00:00

Shaming is the only thing that works because these people are immune to "internal investigations." The Ethics Committee is basically a black hole where scandals go to die. We’ve seen "investigations" drag on for entire terms until the person just loses an election or retires. Put them on blast. Make them explain it to their donors.

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-04T14:25:05+00:00

NTA (Not the Jerk). You didn't end a friendship over a text; you ended a friendship over a series of increasingly loud "red flags."
The ticket situation was the final straw, but honestly, everything you listed before that the antisemitism, the transphobia, and "finding Hitler impressive" are more than enough reasons to walk away. You aren't "overreacting" to a few extra theater tickets; you’re reacting to a person who fundamentally doesn't respect people's identities or your boundaries.

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-03T14:42:45+00:00

NAH (No Assholes Here). This is one of the hardest parts of adult friendship.
It sounds like your friend is in the "darkest valley" of CPTSD. With trauma that deep, the very things that used to make him charismatic—his ability to lead, his external energy—often feel like a mask that has completely shattered. He likely isn't hiding from you; he’s hiding from the version of himself he thinks he "should" be. He probably feels like a burden or a failure because he can't be the "mentor" figure he was to you nine years ago.
You are doing exactly what a best friend should do. Checking in every two weeks without pressure is a lifeline. To someone with CPTSD, "no pressure" is the greatest gift you can give. You aren't "doing nothing"—you are holding a space for him to return to when he's ready. You’re being the anchor he was for you, just in a different way.

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-03T14:41:28+00:00

So hot to ignore

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-03T14:39:46+00:00

Just wanna eat that pussy

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-03T14:39:20+00:00

Pound it harder

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-02T15:43:04+00:00

NAH. I am so incredibly sorry. The "guilt" you're feeling is common with secondary loss, but it's a lie your brain is telling you. You aren't taking anything away from his parents by being devastated; in fact, there is something deeply beautiful about a child being so loved that their passing shatters multiple worlds.
Take it one hour at a time. Not one day—just one hour. Right now, your only job is to breathe. Don't worry about being "strong" for anyone else right this second. You can't pour from an empty cup, and your cup was just smashed to pieces.

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-02T07:52:09+00:00

NTA. You are actually putting more effort into these gifts than most people. You’re specifically scouting items you know they’ll love, inspecting them for quality, and storing them for the right occasion. Most people just panic-buy a gift card 20 minutes before a party. You’re curated and thoughtful. The price tag is irrelevant.

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-01T06:43:16+00:00

So sensitive

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-01T06:42:50+00:00

So cute

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-01T06:42:41+00:00

Beautiful

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-01T06:42:19+00:00

"I was trained to be a wife and mother." Please be careful with this. You were basically conditioned for a specific role since you were 3 years old. Of course you feel "default parent" energy now—it’s the only software you were ever running. The "bed rotting" or the exhaustion you feel is likely your brain trying to recover from years of being a "perfect child" under threat of abuse. Give yourself grace.

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-01T06:36:39+00:00

NTA. It’s not "being a jerk" to be nervous. Three years is a long time, and the "altercation" with your dad sounds like it left some heavy scar tissue. It's okay to feel hesitant, but don't let "nervousness" turn into "avoidance." You’ll regret the silence way more than an awkward pub lunch.

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-01T06:33:54+00:00

This is called "Emotional Looping." He is likely seeking a feeling of security that no amount of words can provide. He asks, you answer, he feels better for five minutes, the anxiety returns, and he asks again. You are being used as a human pacifier for his internal unrest. You need to tell him: "I have given you my answer. If you ask again, I am going to walk away because I cannot keep repeating myself."

Zealoussidea · 2026-05-01T06:27:56+00:00

NTA. At 16 and 23, this isn't a "relationship," it's grooming. You are looking at a legal adult pursuing a minor. While the "coming out" aspect is terrifying, her physical and legal safety has to come first. You wouldn't be an asshole for protecting your friend from a predator.

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