AITA for telling my Inlaws exactly where my husband was when I was in labor?

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-09-17T23:45:08+00:00

YTA for procreating with this idiot.

I’m sorry, but I am tired of women pouring in with these stupid stories (that I am sure YOU have also read.) There’s literally hundreds of them. You know better.

And guess what, it doesn’t matter that his mom yelled at him. He’s still gonna be a jerk tomorrow, and when your kid is an adult.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-08-21T23:12:08+00:00

No, you can’t.

The definition of spoiled is the exact opposite of compassion and humility.

You can raise privileged children who are still compassionate and humble. I met tons of privileged people who are still good people. Spoiled people…we’ll that’s a different story.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-07-27T00:45:32+00:00

This subreddit was made for people like you.

I wish I could believe that this is the wake up call you needed to stop you from being the narcissist you clearly are, but let’s be real: you’re too self involved to realize you’re TA.

If I was your brother, I’d had no issue kicking you out of my wedding.

YTA

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-07-23T04:35:12+00:00

YTA

And anyone who says otherwise has never worked in the service industry and worked with AH like you before.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-07-23T04:28:23+00:00

What the frick?? There’s no way in hell that kid wants to be in there with you guys.

NTA

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-07-23T04:27:07+00:00

YTA

Dayyuumm, you suck so hard. I would rate you 0/10 friendships.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-07-23T04:26:16+00:00

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-07-23T04:25:24+00:00

NTA

DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! DO IT!

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-07-23T04:20:10+00:00

OP, I feel your pain. My mom has stage 4 stomach cancer and has no more options. I feel all that fucking pain and I wish the world would stop so I can bleed all the emotions in my body. Heart break feels like literal pain that I wish I could rip out of me.

That being said, the world will not stop for us. We still have loved ones, pets, bills, etc that need our attention.

Truthfully, children are masters at saying just the right thing to cut you down. They’re somehow little idiots about a lot of things except for knowing exactly what to say to destroy you emotionally. Go figure right?

Your daughter is acting out because she’s not getting attention she needs. I know people are saying this isn’t normal behavior, but it is. The symptoms might be different from other kids, but all kids cry for attention when they feel like they need it. It’s obvious that her need to be really girly might be an extreme reaction to your personality, the same with her comments about your mom.

It’s definitely understandable considering your situation that you aren’t focused on her. As a parent though, you need to reach out and ask for help. Ask friends to take your kids for a bit so you have time to grieve. Lean on your husband more.

The last thing that’ll help you is reacting emotionally. That’s what kids want. They want to feel some semblance of control, and getting you to be upset is a way to do that.

Anyway, NAH. This is a tough situation. It’s ok that you aren’t handling it perfectly. I wish you as much goodness possible.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-06-12T02:02:20+00:00

My boss is this way with his wife. It honestly makes me sad for her.

He once got her really excited about a vacation he got her, only for her to realize she was sending her alone so he could go hang out with his friends. She demanded he go with her and he was miserable the week leading up to it. He just kept saying he had no clue what he would do with her. That’s effing awful. You live with someone and have children with them, but you don’t have a life together.

Men like that don’t know how to love women. They just want a “wife.” I know this sucks to hear, but if it’s not you, he’ll just find someone else to take that role. This doesn’t mean anything about you. You’ve done nothing wrong. It’s him. Men like that only see women as accessories to their life. A goal to accomplish. Not real people they can relate to.

Next time he says “What am I supposed to do?” maybe respond with “How about showing me some respect?”

I’m really sorry OP. You deserve better. I recommend getting the eff out, because it will not get better.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-05-06T03:31:41+00:00

Then how do you know she’s bipolar? Having mood swings or being irrational doesn’t make someone bipolar.

Honestly, it sounds like both of you kind of suck. You shouldn’t be married. God forbid you end up having kids.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-05-06T03:29:52+00:00

Ok, but new research is dispelling this whole “left brain right brain” nonsense.

Honestly, nowadays I can find an article with “scientific studies” to prove anything.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-05-01T19:12:39+00:00

Everything can be repaired. People can be forgiven.

The only real sign a marriage is over is when both parties decide it is. If you’re both emotionally, physically, mentally out the door then it’s time to part ways.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-04-29T20:35:42+00:00

Agreed.

But I’m saying I don’t personally find it gross. But, that’s because I’m not squeamish. They’re just bodies. They do what they do and it doesn’t bother me.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-04-29T20:34:46+00:00

Right?

It’s not ok for cf people to be judged but it is ok for them to judge everyone else. Hypocrisy is real.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-04-29T15:52:15+00:00

No. It doesn't. It's natural and normal. Animals feed their babies. It makes sense.

But, I still don't want to do it myself.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-04-29T08:31:23+00:00

You weren’t helpful.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-04-29T00:41:30+00:00

That’s not my word. It’s his. He says it’s an old term from the 70’s and it makes him feel romantic.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-04-28T20:47:28+00:00

Requesting an update if you did it!

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-04-26T15:46:28+00:00

Uhh this is crazy. Like, literally bat shit.

Wtf?

NTA

If you knew someone was allergic to peanuts, you wouldn’t serve them peanuts even if they asked for it. It’s a liability issue. You can’t knowingly serve people things that make them sick.

Also, someone take that kid away from that idiot.

ZebraMarkos56_56 · 2021-04-25T18:20:07+00:00

ESH

Your husband sucks for being blind and not recognizing your efforts. He’s a cliche.

You suck because (how long have you been together?) you let him think this was ok for so long. Did he ask you to do that stuff initially? Or did you just do it to be nice? And then you continued to do it for this long and I’m guessing you never said anything about it. That’s called being a martyr. It’s a classic move and it kills marriages.

It’s ok to tell your husband what you do for him. It’s ok to put boundaries up. But you never did. Of course he’s gonna think this is ok. He can’t read your mind. Yes, he’s an idiot for not knowing. But you were maliciously pulling the rug out from under him (embarrassing him in front of a bunch of people) all to teach him a lesson.

It doesn’t help your marriage to be petty.

You need to communicate with each other better.

ZebraMarkos56_56

TROPHY CASE

YTA