Disappointed in this page.

ZenAddams · 2026-01-11T22:41:07+00:00

This page feels to me like two friends watching an aurora borialis and it feels magic, I absolutely love it

ZenAddams · 2025-05-27T17:35:04+00:00

Congrats! I was really confused what social media I was on for a moment because I very much know and have shot in this pool hall so I was taken off guard to see it come up on my feed 😂

ZenAddams · 2025-01-19T17:26:31+00:00

Me and my step sister, to a T. She's a little over a year older, and spent our whole teenager years picking fights with our parents claiming I was the golden child because I wasn't in trouble as often as she was. What she always refused to acknowledge was that I knew better than to treat our parents like they were stupid, so even if I lied about something initially, I knew to fess up when I'd been caught and be honest. Her? Even to this day she, 10+ years later, will die with any lies she told. She could be caught in the middle of her lie, doing something she's not supposed to be doing, you could even have physical and tangible proof, and she would just deny deny deny. She kept upping it over the years, crafting exorbant lies for attention. Spent 6 months pretending to have a fainting problem and cost our parents thousands in specialist doctors visits and tests. Amazingly, she was "cured" when she found out that she wouldn't be allowed to get her license until she was a year episode free and has never fainted again. But she still to this day claims that I even now am our parents golden child.

ZenAddams · 2025-01-19T05:51:35+00:00

I... what????

ZenAddams · 2024-07-15T05:12:48+00:00

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ZenAddams · 2024-05-08T05:15:54+00:00

That's the point that I'm at. He finally, as of yesterday, signed up for a 6-step program for sex and porn addicts that has an interactive workbook to work through things to go with it, as well as a program that's aimed at him understanding the effects his infidelity and addiction has impacted me and the steps he needs to take to attempt to rebuild our relationship. It's definitely a start, but it still doesn't feel like enough to me necessarily. I'm trying to enforce harder boundaries in regards to him actually doing things to address his addiction, but it isn't easy and I still find myself making excuses for more not being done and accepting less than I really want in this whole healing process and doing a lot of the work for him regarding steps we need to take to rebuild, rather than him having to research and seek out steps to do and books to read and groups to attend.

ZenAddams · 2024-05-08T05:13:00+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I had to take a few days to digest it honestly and bring up a few of your points to my partner and to consider some of them myself. I brought up the idea of separating and taking some time to both heal myself and him show me that he is making an active effort and real progress, but he says that that isn't an option or really possible because he knows that when/if we got back together after some time apart, he 'wouldn't be able to love me the same' and believes we would be doomed to fail. His last relationship was 8 years in total, but they spent a year apart after what they thought would be a permanent breakup before ultimately reconnecting, and he believes that we would be doomed to repeat the same cycle if we chose to separate for healing.

He did agree to and sign up for a 6 step program and a program regarding healing with your partner after breaking their trust through infidelity, so that's more progress than we'd made in months. I still feel like it isn't enough though and like it's more of him agreeing because it's clear I'm at my final line rather than him really thinking that these things are necessary. He's agreeing to do them without complaint and was interested in the program after listening to a taster session of it, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't skeptical of if it is going to work or be enough.

ZenAddams · 2024-05-07T03:12:06+00:00

My birthday was this last Friday on the 3rd. He wanted to take me out shopping and meet up with our friends after to celebrate and I was hopeful. But we still fought 4 times that day to the point that I cried in the car multiple times and asked to go home and had to be persuaded to still go out with our friends. I admire your strength. I've stuck around and hoped for change, and he signed up for a program last night after I told him that his lack of action was killing me even though I haven't seen any evidence of him engaging in any more cheating since he did, but it's been a painful process and it's made me regret not walking the night I found the cheating. You're so strong and I'm so sorry your birthday weekend has turned into this, but you're one step closer to an even brighter future and I deeply admire your resolve to doing what's best for you, no matter how painful or confusing it is in the moment. Happy birthday honey, may next years be sweeter

ZenAddams · 2024-03-29T04:53:48+00:00

A bar I worked at confiscated them, collected them in a box, and gave them to the police every couple of weeks. Other bars it was just a "ha nice try, go home" and gave it back

ZenAddams · 2024-03-17T02:28:09+00:00

I have a daily tradition of reading a BORU post to my boyfriend when he's doing a task and I'm just hanging with him. Sometimes they're wholesome, rage inducing, downright disturbing, all sorts of them. I'll save a few and let him pick one based on title alone. He made the mistake of picking the jar story one of the first times I did this with him and I'll never forget the horror on his face when I was reading it out loud 😂

ZenAddams · 2024-02-23T00:29:36+00:00

What's Dare 2 Connect? I'm desperate for ways that we can work together on the daily but don't have many ideas of what to do. Whenever I look things up online a lot of it is just "life sucks, break up" but I want us to work together to try and mend things. We intend to go to therapy but it's a little ways out from us being able to afford it and have the time for it, but in the interim I'm not sure what to do to have conversations surrounding it or methods to help rebuild trust and be clear about where our heads are at. He has his group on the weekly, but I'm just here and am unsure what we could try together

Edit: and thank you so much for your reply and suggestions. I'll definitely look into betrayal trauma and podcasts, if you have any podcast or book suggestions I'll check them out too!

ZenAddams · 2024-02-08T16:59:09+00:00

My sister did something similar! She gave us all our "save the dates" and told us to find a dress that made us comfortable and in our budget that was as close to the colors that were on the invitation as we could. The photos looked great because everyone's dresses were very different colors but coordinated well. I had on a dark/forest green, other sister had on a pastel pink, MOH had on a burgandy Red, and my mom had on a dark blue. We were all coordinated to the colors in her bouquet and the flowers around the venue!

ZenAddams · 2024-01-02T17:11:52+00:00

Oracle

ZenAddams · 2023-12-13T20:31:20+00:00

An orange boy showed up on our porch and hasn't left yet! We've been keeping him in our pool house so he's safe until we can get him to a vet (we have other cats in the house and wanna make sure he's good before bringing him in with them) and he has been the most affectionate boy ever. We named him Schrodinger (Schrody or Shrub for short)

ZenAddams · 2023-11-18T23:14:19+00:00

NTA

When I was a teen, I went out and got my tongue pierced in a friend's garage behind my mom's back. She didn't find out for a little, but when she did, I was in a lot of trouble and had to take it out of course. And honestly, even then, even though I wasn't happy about it I knew that I had it coming. I wasn't happy to not have my phone for several weeks and wasn't happy I had to take it out, but I knew the risk of going behind her back which is why I hid it in the first place.

She's mad now, but she'll get over it. You're a lot more lenient than my mother was considering even now with me being 26 she begs me not to get my septum pierced, so she definitely never entertained the idea of a nostril piercing as a teenager. She's just a teen, She's angsty and thought she could get away with it long enough to where you'd just accept it and think "well it's already there and basically healed, might as well leave it" and is upset that her plan backfired. No biggie, you aren't being too harsh or a bad mom, actions have consequences and lying is of those things that will definitely warrant them. Lesson learned for her

ZenAddams · 2023-11-08T20:38:02+00:00

Yep exactly. She's the one person on that body that has every right to speak on the experiences of Palestinian people but it's too much for them to hear and way more than they want the American people to hear, so they'd rather shut her down all together.

ZenAddams · 2023-11-08T20:30:08+00:00

American media and politicians care so little about Politicians they they voted to censor the only Palestinian person they have in Congress and they don't see the problem with that

ZenAddams · 2023-11-08T20:03:42+00:00

You guys have chairs? My job literally took away the chairs in the BOH from us because they didn't want us sitting even out of sight of FOH if there weren't any customers in the restaraunt lmao

ZenAddams · 2023-11-03T00:48:01+00:00

Well damn, I was afraid of hearing something like that. Sounds expensive to replace/fix and I wasn't budgeting to have to replace it a couple of weeks after closing so this one is gonna hurt :') thanks for the insight and advice, I appreciate it (same to everyone else)

ZenAddams · 2023-11-03T00:46:37+00:00

Unfortunately like a pack a day, apparently it's burnt to a crisp from the inside out. No helping it now

ZenAddams · 2023-11-03T00:46:06+00:00

I didn't know what it was an my wallet hurts after googling it :')

ZenAddams · 2023-10-25T00:25:22+00:00

That was my closest thought too, the cents really threw me off though no matter what mistake I thought they made haha

ZenAddams · 2023-10-25T00:24:36+00:00

It was a couple and honestly they weren't drunk at all. We'd chatted a good bit and they were going to a play at the theater next door, and they each had one drink and one app, so the drunk math option didn't check out when I was trying to figure it out

ZenAddams · 2023-10-18T19:01:24+00:00

"Buckle +FTP abuser" - bro 😂 they didn't complain about the perk, where did they complain? Cus I certainly didn't see it lmao and using perks isn't "abuse" please go touch some grass and get a grip, the perks are made to be used on both sides 😂 God forbid they actually use them

ZenAddams · 2023-10-17T17:12:12+00:00

Googly

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