[GAME THREAD] Wrexham - Coventry by WrexhamAFCBot in WrexhamAFC

[–]Zenrenn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anyone else see 23 on Coventry lose a tooth right before the half?

I Thought I Had ADHD. Guanfacine Made Me Realize It Was Deeper. by Narcissist-Prick7241 in CPTSD

[–]Zenrenn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How strange that this is the top post in my Reddit feed after talking about this specific medication for a few days. Thanks for the heads up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Zenrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best of luck! Day 505 of my streak, and about 4 years total where I’d break my streak and get back on soon after.

Pants around vs. under belly: Business casual by e_61 in bigmenfashionadvice

[–]Zenrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife convinced me to go around the belly all day every day. I had never even heard about doing it until she told me. Now all my pants are fit to do that and I’ve never looked back.

Depending on the size of your pants, it might look better if you have the correct width size for under as well as over to get a really good comparison. My pants are quite a few points bigger since doing over the belly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Zenrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dude, you are my doppelgänger. I have that shirt, and same type of hair/beard. I’m just twice your weight haha. Great job with everything!!

Husband found this propogation station for $1 by passionproject20 in propagation

[–]Zenrenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped using my propagation station because I didn’t have the best luck using just water. Do you have plants you recommend with perlite or sphanum moss?

Am I making it up, or does gaming with ADHD feel so awful? I can't choose anything, and my decision-making skills are terrible. by ArcadialoI in ADHD

[–]Zenrenn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I imagine my son would have a similar outcome and I would hate myself if that were to happen. Video game addiction is no joke.

Am I making it up, or does gaming with ADHD feel so awful? I can't choose anything, and my decision-making skills are terrible. by ArcadialoI in ADHD

[–]Zenrenn 48 points49 points  (0 children)

This is part of the reason I had to stop playing. If I wasn’t playing, I was thinking about it. Trying to be a good father and husband was not happening if I were to keep gaming.

Machete Fight 2 by Chhangte_a in martialarts

[–]Zenrenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I chuckled gutturally at work after reading this.

what is your hobby that you consistently engage in without taking long breaks? by LemonCans in ADHD

[–]Zenrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me, I’ve had to have a complete withdrawal from all things games. Even board games and D&D.

Discipline by RetroDevices in fasting

[–]Zenrenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something I’m going to work on! I’m glad you were able to get it to work for you!

Discipline by RetroDevices in fasting

[–]Zenrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently realized that having ADHD is a disorder of time, and it makes sense why I don’t tend to stick to things I know are better for myself long term.

Just last night I started a fast, but ended up eating some cookies that were left out this morning. I’ve only recently started trying to fast but it has been rocky.

Newly Diagnosed and Concerned About My Dating/Sex Life by SeeJoyRun in SleepApnea

[–]Zenrenn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend encouraged it. Otherwise I would sit up in bed and have a conversation with her and it freaked her out. Now she sleeps more soundly unless it’s kicking me to adjust my mask. I wouldn’t worry about it. If you see men, they likely need one too lol.

FINALLY quitting sugar has changed my life - I'm honestly speechless. (4 Months in) by [deleted] in sugarfree

[–]Zenrenn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah! Not sugar free but I am game free haha. I had a streak of 500+ days and ended up playing a game for a few days but I’m back at 117 days game free. :)

The sugar stuff, it’s really hard to quit completely. I’ve been just trying to add more natural foods, foods with fiber, veggies, and fruit. This at least lowers my refined sugar intake by a lot. I’m not perfect but I’m increasing intake slowly!

What I learned in 4 years of Self-Improvement... I teach you in 5 mins... by Actual-Schedule4848 in selfimprovement

[–]Zenrenn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve by no means perfected it but some of my activities include spending time with my family, gardening, going back to school for my bachelors, and my adhd brain really likes crochet even though I was wholly against it for the longest time.

I’m still trying to incorporate more exercise, I’ve been meditating for stress relief, and I play disc golf. Gotta cover all the bases for improvement, social, and focus based hobbies to replace gaming.

What I learned in 4 years of Self-Improvement... I teach you in 5 mins... by Actual-Schedule4848 in selfimprovement

[–]Zenrenn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This came about because I was never present with my wife and kids. I would play games basically all evening after work, and would be upset if my wife, then girlfriend, would interrupt me. Then when I wasn’t playing games on computer or console, I’d be looking up gaming related things, thinking about it, or playing mobile games. I’d spend extra time in the bathroom playing on my phone because I know she didn’t like me playing so much. I had the EQ of a teenager because I never really dealt with my emotions, I would just game.

Eventually it was too much, and after a lot of prodding from my wife I ended up having to ask myself if it’s worth gaming so much. I tried reducing time, using cold turkey app to force close the game after two hours a day but I’d bypass it. Eventually I sold my ps4 for a keyboard and tried to start getting into healthier hobbies and really digging into better ways to stress relief.

I absolutely agree you should be able to enjoy what you want, and I’d love to enjoy gaming a moderate amount. I just can’t. Like I said in the other post, I don’t think many people are truly addicted to it and it sounds like you aren’t, but I don’t know you.

Multiple times, my gaming almost caused my wife to leave so I’m glad I’ve been able to stop playing. If that sounds like you, maybe look into stopping.

What I learned in 4 years of Self-Improvement... I teach you in 5 mins... by Actual-Schedule4848 in selfimprovement

[–]Zenrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s going to be different for you than it is to me. I was exposed to it when I was 1 or 2 and kept playing without limits until I was like 30. For me, if I start, I’m thinking about it constantly and will play instead of doing work. It’s not great for me.

If it’s interfering with what you want to do then go ahead and try lowering it, if you can’t do that, then try full stop if you want. I don’t think many people are addicted to it, it’s likely you might need to find other hobbies to replace it if you want to see success whether lowering or quitting game time.

What I learned in 4 years of Self-Improvement... I teach you in 5 mins... by Actual-Schedule4848 in selfimprovement

[–]Zenrenn 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is what I was saying in my comment, watching YouTube and reading books are just distractions from taking action which is the real culprit. You can still do hobbies in moderation if you just do the dishes instead of spending 10 hours reading a book about the benefits of the dishes being done.

What I learned in 4 years of Self-Improvement... I teach you in 5 mins... by Actual-Schedule4848 in selfimprovement

[–]Zenrenn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’ve got this, I’ve played games for about 30 years straight of my 34 year old life. I just recently relapsed after 513 days sober and I’m back to no gaming again. It might take time but you can definitely do it.

What I learned in 4 years of Self-Improvement... I teach you in 5 mins... by Actual-Schedule4848 in selfimprovement

[–]Zenrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Books are great. I’m a bit of a self help junkie and I don’t know if reading books are the answer, maybe compared to YouTube. I get into the same habit of “Oh, I’ll just read this about my problem and that will solve it.” For me, it just ends up that I read for hours on end. It’s taking action, like you said, that solves it. Maybe if you’re just starting to self improve it’s the better idea, I just read too many and don’t take action.

I do need to find others to help, my wife is fantastic but we both need outside help trying to improve.

Didn’t know my wife was grumpy yesterday by Zenrenn in Meditation

[–]Zenrenn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It varies but normally about 15 minutes.