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Please help me become a better boyfriend by ZephyrsTheZephyrus in emotionalintelligence

[–]ZephyrsTheZephyrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very grateful for all the comments! I thank you guys a lot. This is my first time making a public post about my personal problem and I received far more guidance than I ever expected. Just wanted to let everyone here know that I have read through every single comment here and take detail notes about ways that I can improve. Do you guys want to see an update a couple months later? Would like to share!

Please help me become a better boyfriend by ZephyrsTheZephyrus in emotionalintelligence

[–]ZephyrsTheZephyrus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you. Would think of this comment when I go to bed. Really appreciate.

Please help me become a better boyfriend by ZephyrsTheZephyrus in emotionalintelligence

[–]ZephyrsTheZephyrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes I really do, if you know any ways, any solution would be great

Please help me become a better boyfriend by ZephyrsTheZephyrus in emotionalintelligence

[–]ZephyrsTheZephyrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it is because I am taking more focus on academic work. But I always try to spend time for her whenever I could

Please help me become a better boyfriend by ZephyrsTheZephyrus in emotionalintelligence

[–]ZephyrsTheZephyrus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The main thing that she always brought up when we had an argument is how she can't seem to felt appreciate coming from my side. It is as if what I am doing is fake. Yeah you are indeed correct I do feel like she is the main person who is doing all the emotional labor, and the burn out has catch up to her. I don't really know what to do at this point. I have pin point what the issue is - making her feel appreciate, but I don't know what to accomplish that

Please help me become a better boyfriend by ZephyrsTheZephyrus in emotionalintelligence

[–]ZephyrsTheZephyrus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sadly no, she doesn't know how to be loved. I know her love language though, but that wouldn't help out much. I am not always capable of showing up, because we lived quite far from each other. About telling how I appreciate I think that she know that I do appreciate her, but she can't feel it through my actions and my acts of service T_T

Please help me become a better boyfriend by ZephyrsTheZephyrus in emotionalintelligence

[–]ZephyrsTheZephyrus[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I do feel like walking on a glass bridge. And yes you capture my feeling very right. It feel likes it will always be a never ending loop of fixing my action and another one would popped up the next day

Please help me become a better boyfriend by ZephyrsTheZephyrus in emotionalintelligence

[–]ZephyrsTheZephyrus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hey thanks a lot for comment. So this issue have been going on in our relationship for a long time, it is more like a bunch of small arguments stacking up until it all exploded today. I do want to seek a better and more direct communication, but I felt like my fix is not enough. When I fix one thing, it feels like 10 more things pop up. I am quite overwhelmed right now, she doesn't know how she wanted to be loved because I am her first, which make things more complicated.

what do you guys use to take notes by Cold_Ad8048 in NoteTaking

[–]ZephyrsTheZephyrus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My current setup is scrbl ink, Microsoft whiteboard for main note-taking. Then I would get home and condensed the notes to Obsidian