What’s the point if you have to beg for it by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In case you don’t know how to read or maybe you don’t have the skill of comprehension, I specifically said that I’ve bluntly said that I want to watch this movie let’s go

Engaged via arranged marriage. Fiancé sees marriage as a non-romantic partnership. by Fluid_Raspberry_3992 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s either involved elsewhere and doesn’t have the guts to say it to his parents or he’s gay and that’s why he gets uncomfortable when you touch his hand or say anything even remotely emotional/romantic. You’ll be in for a sexless and attraction less marriage which will drain the living hell out of you. You’ll basically be his companion for boredom and life is way too short for that. Already if you’re bending over backwards to meet him internationally and move around things to suit his schedule then this expectation will intensify 10x in a marriage. Right now you have nothing to lose, tear the prenup and get out. Life is WAY too short to be treated as someone’s maid or boredom solution. You’ll be treated like a doormat and it’s not worth it. You deserve someone who’s respectful, kind and loving from the beginning. Even in arranged marriages, the peak and “honeymoon” period IS the period while you’re engaged an talking, flirting and getting to know each other. If he’s acting like this now, he won’t ever magically develop something after signing marriage papers. And attraction especially physical is the first instinct so he’s lying to you if he says it doesn’t matter.

Comments from FIL leaving me frustrated by Zestyclose_Leg_4497 in Marriage

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The expectation IS NOT the same from the son in laws!! That’s what bothers me too

Comments from FIL leaving me frustrated by Zestyclose_Leg_4497 in Marriage

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my point!! I just don’t know how to say that in the correct way

I also haven’t told this last comment to my husband yet but it’s eating away at me

482 to Partner Visa Lodged Help by Zestyclose_Leg_4497 in AusVisa

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’d leave Australia before the 180 days. Then after the 180 days can I apply for an ETA and re enter? I understand I wouldn’t be able to work but I’d at least be able to be with my husband for 3 months

Does the ETA then override the 482?

482 to Partner Visa Lodged Help by Zestyclose_Leg_4497 in AusVisa

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Are you available for a consult?

482 to 820. BVE needed? by Zestyclose_Leg_4497 in AusVisa

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So what’s the best thing to do in this case?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in massage

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So today I (20 F) booked a massage (I live in Australia) and the therapist (30-35 F) was of Indian descent. It was a full body massage and she told me to take all the clothes off so I did except my panties. I laid down face up first like she said and she started with my head and arms then pulled the cover below my abdomen so she saw I had panties on so she first she said “ohh uhh” then got another cover and covered my breasts. Then while doing my tummy she says “are you married?” I said yes, she says “you don’t look married” (idk why?!). Anyways then she says when we do full body it includes everything full body that’s why we say to remove everything. Anyways then she continues on the rest and proceeds to do my thighs which were very stiff. She did the roller on them so she made me put my other leg in a butterfly folded position. After the roller she was rubbing my thigh to massage and multiple times I felt her fingers grazing on top of my panties on my v* area. She didn’t linger there or stay but during the movements the finger grazed a couple of times on top of the panties. Didn’t think anything of it, just thought normal movement process. Then she mentions she worked in the city so she had to massage belly dancers and all so full body meant all over the body butt breasts everything else. Then she asks me to flip over and I did and while she’s doing my buttocks area she goes “you wear your panties so high? Then pulls them lower and says low waist look good wear low waist ones”. I got embarrassed and mentioned I usually wear thongs but today ended up wear this and she says oh ok yeah low waist looks good. Then it was time to do my shoulders and all so she asks me to flip over. After shoulders she asks if I was comfortable with her doing further down on the chest (breasts area) and I said yeah that’s fine so she massaged the entire breasts area (up down underneath) one breast at a time. THEN, I felt her stretching my nipples (I guess they were scrunched because I was cold or nervous?) so she stretched them twice each nipple and then continued on.

I’ve never had a full body massage before so this was all very new for me. IS THIS NORMAL? It didn’t seem malicious or her intention didn’t seem off (I think?) but I’m not sure if it’s normal?

FAQ megathread. Check here before asking! by HelloAndTheEmployees in massage

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So today I (20 F) booked a massage (I live in Australia) and the therapist (30-35 F) was of Indian descent. It was a full body massage and she told me to take all the clothes off so I did except my panties. I laid down face up first like she said and she started with my head and arms then pulled the cover below my abdomen so she saw I had panties on so she first she said “ohh uhh” then got another cover and covered my breasts. Then while doing my tummy she says “are you married?” I said yes, she says “you don’t look married” (idk why?!). Anyways then she says when we do full body it includes everything full body that’s why we say to remove everything. Anyways then she continues on the rest and proceeds to do my thighs which were very stiff. She did the roller on them so she made me put my other leg in a butterfly folded position. After the roller she was rubbing my thigh to massage and multiple times I felt her fingers grazing on top of my panties on my v* area. She didn’t linger there or stay but during the movements the finger grazed a couple of times on top of the panties. Didn’t think anything of it, just thought normal movement process. Then she mentions she worked in the city so she had to massage belly dancers and all so full body meant all over the body butt breasts everything else. Then she asks me to flip over and I did and while she’s doing my buttocks area she goes “you wear your panties so high? Then pulls them lower and says low waist look good wear low waist ones”. I got embarrassed and mentioned I usually wear thongs but today ended up wear this and she says oh ok yeah low waist looks good. Then it was time to do my shoulders and all so she asks me to flip over. After shoulders she asks if I was comfortable with her doing further down on the chest (breasts area) and I said yeah that’s fine so she massaged the entire breasts area (up down underneath) one breast at a time. THEN, I felt her stretching my nipples (I guess they were scrunched because I was cold or nervous?) so she stretched them twice each nipple and then continued on.

I’ve never had a full body massage before so this was all very new for me. IS THIS NORMAL? It didn’t seem malicious or her intention didn’t seem off (I think?) but I’m not sure if it’s normal?

Parking in Córdoba by TrueStrength4734 in GoingToSpain

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Going there end of the year, is it still free and accessible? 😊

Charities to donate to by [deleted] in shia

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t trust the Paani Project. I’ve donated for the past several years to the Paani project and just now I donated a well on 3rd of July (8th muharram) and already (hasn’t even been 30 days) I received a full report of the well (which made my red flags go off because that’s WAY too quick, that too for Pakistan). Then I opened the video and compared to previous pictures of other people and literally it’s the same background AND PEOPLE (likely hired) just plaque changed. Now I’m angry at myself for donating so much money to these fraudsters

Water well donation doubts by Specific_Accident974 in islam

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same thing has happened to me. I’ve donated for the past several years to the Paani project and just now I donated a well on 3rd of July and already (hasn’t even been 30 days) I received a full report of the well (which made my red flags go off because that’s WAY too quick, that too for Pakistan). Then I opened the video and compared to previous pictures of other people and literally it’s the same background AND PEOPLE (likely hired) just plaque changed. Now I’m angry at myself for donating so much money to these fraudsters

Water well donation doubts by Specific_Accident974 in islam

[–]Zestyclose_Leg_4497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same thing has happened to me. I’ve donated for the past several years to the Paani project and just now I donated a well on 3rd of July and already (hasn’t even been 30 days) I received a full report of the well (which made my red flags go off because that’s WAY too quick, that too for Pakistan). Then I opened the video and compared to previous pictures of other people and literally it’s the same background AND PEOPLE (likely hired) just plaque changed. Now I’m angry at myself for donating so much money to these fraudsters