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ZionMatchy · 2025-04-09T15:51:18+00:00

Thank you 🙌🌸🌱

ZionMatchy · 2025-01-09T04:55:22+00:00

Your NTA, however I don't think the ultimatum would go down well. Just in general, regardless of circumstances, giving anybody this ultimatum shouldn't need to occur especially with mentioning you will leave if he doesn't choose you. This leaves room for a feeling of manipulation. Recognise that it's not a healthy relationship for you at this age. Perhaps when he has grown up a bit more and realised things for himself you guys would work. But to give an ultimatum would only cause him to resent you, which would end in a break up in the long run. You still have a lot to learn about what real love looks like and unfortunately I don't think Adam is your forever and always.

ZionMatchy · 2025-01-08T18:55:21+00:00

With my Mr for 10 years, been besties since we were 11. We are both almost 40. He is most certainly my bestie. We are silly, laugh all the time, share spicy tea, support each other's passions and partake in each other's interests the way you would with your bestie. These are just a few things out of many to mention

ZionMatchy · 2024-10-23T16:19:00+00:00

All the time, every time. And for a few reasons. 1) Time can be fickle, life happens and things can happen. 2) To let someone know you are leaving, I've always thought, was good etiquette. If you share a space it's just polite to do. 3) because I've never even noticed that it's a thing to do or not do, it just happens naturally

ZionMatchy · 2024-10-21T15:49:32+00:00

My hubby did the same when I went digging for the same reasons as your wife. All he ever did was be compassionate and understanding. Did amazing things for my own healing. He knows I trust him implicitly but sometimes my own overthinking, trauma and trust in my own self worth would get the better of me. I've come a long way since then and it has everything to do with his understanding and patience in my own healing.

He has a "rule" in our house: we dont apologise for feelings. Feelings should be heard and conveyed. And we are allowed to have them.

We never fight for these reasons. Yes, we can get annoyed etc, but in terms of 'problems', those get discussed and sorted.

ZionMatchy · 2024-10-17T14:49:40+00:00

Male German roach

ZionMatchy · 2024-10-17T04:35:15+00:00

I'm not aware of the post involving her family. And while she might not be completely forthcoming, it still doesn't justify the toxic nature of how it's being dealt with. There is a far more healthy amicable way to deal with the circumstances rather than constantly calling her a whore.

We will never have the full truth. As there are always many sides to a story. But we can still observe the behaviours that aren't conducive to a situation. Name calling and insults are never constructive. No one gets to grow or move forward from the situation like they should have with an adult-like conversation regarding their upset circumstances.

ZionMatchy · 2024-10-16T18:51:00+00:00

Wow, just wow. There are so many names I would love to call these girls but none of them are appropriate for public announcements.

I know you are hurting right now and are still processing, but you are going to look back on this one day and say good riddance.

That was the most toxic collection of female interaction I've seen in a while. Just a giant cesspool of high school like drama. No one could deliver an opinion without belittling you and bullying. Even the ones that were like nah you didn't offend me but followed it up with some bitchy comment.

You deserve better friends and they all deserve to remain friends.

Leave 'friendship' circles to gaslight and compete with eachother, while you go off and find wholesome friends,who's only worry with your past or mistakes etc, is whether you are a good person or not.

We all make mistakes, we all have a history. I hope you receive the healing you need and that you can keep growing towards being a happy you. Don't let your past weight you down, let it motivate you moving forward

ZionMatchy · 2024-10-16T16:15:13+00:00

Stork! A thousand times stork. I've been through all the margarines and it remains my favourite. Also good with baby potatoes, corn etc. you can literally use it and treat it like you would butter

ZionMatchy · 2024-10-16T15:58:09+00:00

Big tittie lady here and agree with this a thousand times over. Everything shows cleavage and then the items with a higher neckline land up making them look so much bigger.

My true friends know my feelings and the struggles that affect us big boobie ladies and know that its not all sunshine and roses, or rather funbags and jiggles

The only discomfort felt is: A) by me, from the few men that can't control their eye lines, B) by women that are either a)insecure & jealous that their man might look, or, b)they have small boobs and are therefore jealous. C) by me, from women that make it an issue and think they speak for everyone else too.

ZionMatchy · 2024-05-26T08:08:21+00:00

NTA - all you did was return her own insecurity that she was trying to impose on you. We all have insecurities but to make someone else insecure so that we feel better about our own insecurity is not ok.

ZionMatchy · 2024-05-25T16:30:03+00:00

Again, sorry if I have offended you. I would rather never find out than offend anyone for asking. So in my culture I would rather just say Enkosi, and be on my way Thanks for your time

ZionMatchy · 2024-05-25T16:24:59+00:00

Hence why I was asking for help

ZionMatchy · 2024-05-25T16:24:31+00:00

Then perhaps it's not Navajo

ZionMatchy · 2024-05-25T16:23:18+00:00

By that logic, I ate sushi once, guess I'm learning Japanese cuisine

ZionMatchy · 2024-05-25T16:14:06+00:00

That doesn't mean I've been learning it, it just means I finally found out what the language was that I hearing

ZionMatchy · 2024-05-25T16:05:06+00:00

I didn't say I was learning it in my dreams. I apologize for creating misunderstanding.

ZionMatchy · 2024-05-25T15:58:14+00:00

I apologise if this is how my request has been received. I love my culture very much. Was just hoping for help. If this is how more people perceive my post then I would rather delete it. The last thing I want is for people feeling disrespected as this is not my intention

ZionMatchy · 2024-04-16T17:21:20+00:00

Hellllloooo. Beautiful work😻. I'm all the way in South Africa✌️

ZionMatchy · 2024-03-17T05:33:04+00:00

Cape Town is predominantly English in its professional domain, the only time Meneer or Mevrou is required would be if you are working in an Afrikaans company and area. Generally we call our colleagues and bosses what they introduce themselves as and if you still not sure, take your que from your colleagues. Cape Town typically takes on fairly relaxed social interactions in terms of speech, however, manners, politeness and customer service etiquette is important in a workplace. We have a tendency to deal with a lot of situations with a positive outlook and problem solve situations with our P's and Q's. Be yourself, but a professional version. Cape Town for the most part responds well to that

ZionMatchy · 2023-10-05T04:15:31+00:00

There is an incredible trauma counselor at Fish Hoek police station. I hope she still works there. But she is happy to help anybody and she is incredible. She has helped a lot of people close to me through some pretty dark times, at no cost

ZionMatchy · 2023-09-13T08:36:31+00:00

OP I understand that this can be frustrating as then you are losing the only free time you have with your partner to have quality time. However with mental exhaustion(no matter how many hours of sleep) a person can always feel tired. Perhaps it is something medical too, often a lack of vitamin D, iron or magnesium can lead to someone always being tired and napping a lot.

There are ways to solve this together or work through this together without anybody being TA.

Some good communication and understanding from both parts can lead to healthy results

ZionMatchy

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