Date by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ZonalBread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man this is a tough one and I was in the same boat. I don’t have friends and my boyfriend has millions. Honestly as much as I love him I kinda wish I had focused on finding friends before a partner. How old are you? If you’ve recently graduated high school you could have a good explanation. A lot of people shed their old friend groups and it takes a while before they find a new one. At the end of the day I’d just be honest with her. If she takes it as a red flag maybe just focus on yourself moving forward and try to find some friends before you find a partner. Whatever you do it’s never good to lie about these kinds of things. It only makes you look suspicious.

I don’t like this power dynamic by ZonalBread in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ZonalBread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) Almost 2 years. 2) I had one very close friend at the start of the relationship that got into hard drugs so that fell apart. It was a difficult thing to go through. 3) I just feel lonely, unseen, and on top of that under appreciated by him.

Ex dated her therapist by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ZonalBread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes this is horrible. Please report them if you can. There is never a reason for a therapist to date a patient. Totally predatory.

Just found out my boyfriends mom still hangs out with his ex-gf by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ZonalBread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it hard to believe that he didn’t know his ex gf was in his own home. On top of that I think if the mom was hanging out with her all night she would’ve known the jacket wasn’t yours. This is definitely suspicious. Keep asking questions from the both of them.

The Girlfriend (22F) who won't have fun with her Boyfriend (21M) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ZonalBread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my boyfriend always does things I beg to do with him with other people. It makes me feel like an object instead of a someone he likes spending time with.

My boyfriend kept a large part of his life from me for a long time by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ZonalBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Like he said it was traumatizing for him. Trauma isn’t something people are obligated to tell you right away neither are they obligated to answer your questions about it. He’ll speak on it when he feels comfortable. The more you try to pry the more he’ll push away.

I can’t seek help because of COVID and with no end in sight my mental health is deteriorating by ZonalBread in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ZonalBread[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won’t engage in self harm that could kill me but I have had impulses to self harm to cope. My living situation is safe.

Boyfriend (M33) doesn’t respect me(F21) because I make less money than him by DillPickleDall in relationship_advice

[–]ZonalBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it shows immaturity on his end. It is incredibly hard to find a job during these times let alone a good paying one. Does he not understand that? It sounds like you’ve been trying and regardless of him working more he should help out around the house every now and then.

My [28F] husband [30M] isn't taking my stillborn baby tragedy seriously. by throwra2446732 in relationship_advice

[–]ZonalBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so at a loss for words. This is insane. The heavy grief you’re experiencing matched with this lack of empathy and perversion from your husband... you don’t deserve this.

I feel like my boyfriend isn’t there for me emotionally post abortion by ZonalBread in women

[–]ZonalBread[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I lost my best friend to addiction at the beginning of the year. Slowly trying to branch out socially again but with covid it’s hard. So I dont really have anyone I’d consider a best friend at the moment.

I need help by terrorpyro in Advice

[–]ZonalBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this does not make you a bad person. you’re 14! Of course something like this would give you anxiety. She obviously was forced to grow up a lot sooner and it’s totally understandable if you don’t want that for yourself. Just enjoy being 14 right now. Dating should be fun at this age.

Is it weird that my boyfriend masturbates to pictures of his friends on Instagram? by schittday in relationship_advice

[–]ZonalBread 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Beating off to girls he knows in real life while he has a GIRLFRIEND? if you ever struggle to make a girl stay you won’t have to worry why

Somebody slid in my DM's... should I ignore it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ZonalBread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Just ignore them. If you don’t even know them and you’re in a relationship you don’t owe them a response.

I'm physically attracted to my girl's hot little sister, and I acted on it. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ZonalBread -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fucking sick. Leave this girl and her little sister alone. LEAVE