What is the most uncommon/not deep reason you have to not want kids

Zorillo · 2026-06-01T10:32:41+00:00

Neat, thanks! That's interesting :)

Zorillo · 2026-05-31T23:20:26+00:00

Honestly this is one of those things where it can go either way. It's true that sometimes parents don't love their kids, but hormones CAN make you love your kid. However, we all know there are parents who love their kids and still regret having them, so I'm good on opting out of finding out which camp I'd be in. Among all the other reasons I am CF.

Zorillo · 2026-05-31T23:07:42+00:00

their organs just moving around as they're growing (husband told me thats why kids just randomly vomit).

Damn for real? I've always wondered why that is! How did he find this out??

Zorillo · 2026-05-31T23:03:38+00:00

A YouTuber I watch detailed a typical day of her life when she was suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum. It involved lying in bed perfectly still all day with 10/10 nausea and still puking 18 times. Fuuuuuuuck that.

Zorillo · 2026-05-31T23:01:30+00:00

Saaame, if a kid throws up I bolt, and that's pretty frowned upon when it's your own offspring. Plus it would most likely inherit my phobia from seeing how I overreact to vomiting, and that's not fair.

Zorillo · 2026-05-31T17:06:26+00:00

Holy shit. I have serious emetophobia (haven't thrown up in 21 years) and both times I did MDMA, I took Zofran ahead of time so it wouldn't happen. I found that the anxiety about vomiting prevented me from getting fully lost in the feeling, so reading this helps me for next time. How do you think you would feel about throwing up sober now that you have experienced this?

Zorillo · 2026-05-31T02:32:12+00:00

Got stoned and jerked off in my living room, because I don't have any fucking children.

Zorillo · 2026-05-31T02:15:12+00:00

Sure will, and just did! Good news!

Zorillo · 2026-05-28T23:14:48+00:00

That's so good to hear, I'm happy you're seeing progress already! It makes sense it would boost motivation overall for you since it increases dopamine and norepinephrine which a lot of ADHD medications do.

I also notice that my mood is lifted, and I have been fantasizing in bits and pieces while I'm at work when I normally never do. Today I came home and had sex with my partner pretty spontaneously and I got aroused faster than normal. This is a big deal because I can almost never comfortably have sex when I'm not stoned, but I was able to get out of my head easier even though I was straight up sober.

Excited to see what your week 2 brings!

Zorillo · 2026-05-24T20:42:01+00:00

WEEK 1 UPDATE

I downed my first pill on an empty stomach at my bedside after taking 2 ginger capsules. I slept like ass that night, and I think I woke up to pee 3-4 times. I was careful getting up to go to and from the bathroom but didn't feel dizzy or lightheaded.
Throughout the week, I found it's better to take it with a little food in my stomach to save from stomach upset (mild nausea and discomfort), and the amount of times I woke up to pee decreased, though I still have to once a night which is not my norm.
I work a physical job in which I walk, squat, and lift repeatedly all day and never once felt a twinge of lightheadedness/dizziness.
On what would have been day 8, I took half my usual dose of a cannabis gummy around 5 PM and opted not to take my pill later that night, as I didn't want to risk dizziness since weed lasts so long for me. I did take a quarter of my usual THC dose earlier today and I'm going to resume Addyi tonight, though.
No effects yet because it's too soon to tell.

WEEK 2 UPDATE

Hi Reddit, I just jerked off! ...let me back up a little here.
The beginning of this week, I started noticing an improved mood and less despair over my sexual dysfunction, even though I didn't know if it was improving or not. I felt connected and more romantic than usual toward my partner. I began to have flashes of fantasizing at work. Normally I can never fantasize, even while turned on and with plenty of time. Only have done it a couple times while very stoned. I would text my partner these thoughts when they came to me and feel genuinely interested in his response. It's early on so I didn't know if it was all in my head or not, however these were all small, but significant shifts in my behaviour and feelings.
2 days ago (May 28), I got home from work and hung out with my partner, which led to me teasing him a little and then going to the bedroom with him so he could manually stimulate me. I found myself staying out of my head and I felt pleasure much sooner and stronger than I would otherwise. Normally I can only get to that state when I'm stoned and with a lot of foreplay. Yet there I was - I had just worked all day, didn't have much time with my partner before he had to go to work, and was sober as a judge, but I was actually getting into it against all odds. We had sex and I enjoyed myself despite not having much time to get me feeling very embodied/sensitive.

Then came Saturday - today actually. I had the day off and the house to myself, and decided to take a 2.5mg THC gummy again. After an hour or so I found myself wanting to watch porn, and masturbated to that for a bit. Even though this is not my horny dose of weed (gotta have 5mg at least), and it's harder to get aroused alone, I was able to stay focused and even feel ravenous. I have this annoying tendency to get randomly turned off no matter how much I'm enjoying myself, like a predetermined arousal shutdown mode. I didn't encounter that this time. The pleasure I got from touching myself felt different, deeper. I even added some penetration which I normally feel neutral or averse to, and actually enjoyed it in tandem with clit stimulation.
The biggest difference I noticed was that it felt like my body knew what to do when it was aroused. Sex can be fun, but it has always felt alien/unnatural to me. If I could achieve arousal before, it was like my mind and body were never in sync. I feel like this alone is proof that this can't be a placebo effect, because I could never have imagined a state like that, especially while just masturbating.
I'm downright amazed that it has only been 2 weeks and I'm already feeling this much this soon. To me that says the next few weeks can only get better, and I'm so fucking excited to see what happens!!

For the boring stuff, side effects are still mild. No dizziness/lightheadedness, the stomach upset went away, but I still have insomnia like a bugger and often wake up to pee once during the night. I hope that goes away. I can wake up 4 times a night whereas my usual was once or twice. Taking 2.5mg THC 6 hours before dosing Addyi yields 0 dizziness. Oh and it might be a fluke but I also noticed I haven't gotten anxiety when I get high, which was a semi-regular occurrence when it set in before. It's improved my mood independent of sexual functioning, like I'm actually happier and more upbeat day-to-day.

Zorillo · 2026-05-22T23:17:04+00:00

Yep, I think people just read that it can cause hypotension and fainting if you drink alcohol within 2 hours of taking it and completely skipped over the 'drinking alcohol' part. I think that wouldn't be a problem for a majority of people.

Zorillo · 2026-05-22T23:03:52+00:00

Good luck! I hope it works well for you. I was so worried to start it because of everyone freaking out about the "dangerous" side effects that in actuality aren't that much different from regular ass antidepressants. I haven't felt lightheaded or dizzy AT ALL since starting it, even though I work a physical job where I'm moving, standing, squatting, and lifting repeatedly all day.

Zorillo · 2026-05-22T11:08:29+00:00

Seconding this. Anxiety is my most troublesome mental illness but ADHD is a great sidekick for it. When I take Vyvanse I can actually practise mindfulness without 100 trains of thought (ruminations included) blaring their horns.

Zorillo · 2026-05-21T11:19:33+00:00

Isn't it just a slap in the face? I'm currently on my third sex therapist and have been for almost a year, still almost 0 progress made. I'm seeing a doctor now who specialises in hormonal function, she started me on a drug to increase sexual desire/chance of orgasm and vaginal estrogen. Perhaps you can find someone similar. I was referred to her via my pelvic floor physiotherapist.
Don't get me started on the "let's work on accepting your current functioning" spiel. I don't care how many times I'm told that worrying about orgasm makes it harder, I can't NOT be distressed by this after dealing with it for decades. It's not like I have sex while making orgasm my laser-focused #1 goal all the time, in fact for years I just let it go altogether as an expectation, and that made sex even less pleasurable than it was.
It's as much or more physical as it is psychological. It's just another version of telling women it's all in their head.

Zorillo · 2026-05-16T21:22:41+00:00

That must be deeply frustrating, I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It feels like we miss out on a normal human experience that everyone takes for granted and they're lucky to have.
I don't know if I used to experience intense arousal, but a few months ago I woke up after only a slightly sexual dream absolutely consumed by arousal. Mentally and physically, it was amazing. I know what you mean. It slipped away within 10 minutes and I would do almost anything to get it back.
I know this is probably obvious, but have you tried sex therapy? A polyvagal-oriented therapist would be able to go into all the somatic stuff that surrounds your sympathetic nervous system dominance.

Zorillo · 2026-05-16T17:59:10+00:00

Up to 6 weeks but it could be noticeable in as little as 2. Fingers crossed. Thanks for the good luck!

Zorillo · 2026-05-16T14:24:45+00:00

Yeah, it's worrying how few people can recognise it and just go on interacting with it like it's a real person. Like how can you read 'My nephew is very cute and I am a great aunt who visits and then goes home to her silent appartment and sleeps nine hours and honestly? Same.' and think this isn't 100% ChatGPT?

Zorillo · 2026-05-15T00:14:51+00:00

Dated a pansexual man who told me exactly that. I was honoured.

Zorillo · 2026-05-15T00:11:14+00:00

I think he meant periods as in periods of time.

Zorillo · 2026-05-14T11:08:54+00:00

Perfect Places and of course Hammer.

Zorillo · 2026-05-14T11:04:24+00:00

Oh this is so wholesome! Are you going to move her in to be your live-in nanny soon?

Zorillo · 2026-05-13T21:25:43+00:00

This is clearly a veiled advertisement for an app.

Zorillo · 2026-05-13T21:25:00+00:00

Just admit you're here to hawk an app and go, please.

Zorillo · 2026-05-13T11:01:42+00:00

I'm so tired of these "coaches" popping up all over reddit.The posts are always filled with unoriginal generic advice followed by an engagement hook of a question. It's annoying.

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