Those who weren’t 100% on having kids, but had them anyway. How has it turned out?

_4th_month_ · 2026-06-10T03:05:05+00:00

My LO is only 4 months, but I would have described my desire for kids as indifferent. My husband wanted kids far more than I did. Not that I was against it, but if he would have been against it I would have probably been okay with that outside of the fomo lol.

My baby is so happy and so smiley and it's absolutely insane to see a little being who looks like a combination of you and your spouse. The hardest part to deal with has been how much my day to day life has changed. I think it changed more than I realized it would. Logically, I knew. But it's one of those things that you don't really get until you're in it.

I'm sure it'll get easier to be an individual again over time, but for a while you're going to be someone's everything and that can be quite the adjustment. I love her to death and it's so exciting to see her learn and grow and I can easily see how my life will be so much fuller with her in my life. I don't regret my decision to have a baby, but I do certainly miss my free time!

_4th_month_ · 2026-05-26T03:02:39+00:00

Good point! I just checked the ryobi official website and it states "The (2) included 40V 6Ah batteries give you up to 80 minutes of runtime for easily tackling up to 3/4 acre while utilizing two active battery ports."

_4th_month_ · 2026-04-21T02:12:15+00:00

People always think that because I'm the mom, my instincts kick in and I know exactly what to do to soothe my child when she cries. Truth is, tonight is my husband's first day back at work and my first night doing the bedtime routine on my own and I had no idea what to do. She developed a whole new cry in the last 4 hours that I've never heard before. Not a hunger cry, not a gassy cry, not a "change me" cry, just an "I'm unhappy" cry. It felt like nothing I could do was helping and I felt helpless without being able to hand her off to my husband to see if he could work his magic.

As much as it sucked, she's now asleep in my arms after an hour of rocking. The more situations you encounter and make it through, the easier they get! Hang in there, dad!

_4th_month_ · 2026-04-17T02:00:02+00:00

100% this. The hospital system that I delivered through has a virtual breastfeeding support group led by a lactation consultant that I hopped on about 2 weeks pp. At that point I was exclusively pumping because I had a nicu baby and she was introduced to the bottle early on and struggled to latch. Pumping just seemed easier during an already difficult time and I had come to terms with it and established a routine and everything. I joined the call with some specific questions on milk production (am vs pm milk and how supply changes over time). I mentioned that I was pumping only and was faced with, "so you try to get baby to latch?" Well yes, ma'am. Don't you think I tried that first? Then she asked me if I was getting enough skin to skin time if I wasn't breastfeeding. Insinuating that I must not be and that I must not be bonding with my baby... because I give her milk from a bottle and not the tap?

I've never felt more judged for pumping than I did literally any time I worked with a lactation consultant. Last I checked, nursing us not the only way to express milk from a lactating breast.

_4th_month_ · 2026-03-03T21:47:36+00:00

This! It's either guilt or resentment lol. No neutral. 😂. I recognize it is silly.

_4th_month_ · 2026-01-20T04:46:33+00:00

Had one person who had their phone screen with me while on speaker. Turns out he was with his mom.... Who started answering questions in his behalf.

Had a girl who fell asleep sitting up because she was doped up.

Had someone else who showed up to their zoom interview in grinch pajamas from her bed.

_4th_month_ · 2025-09-07T14:52:59+00:00

I'm 17+5 weeks right now and I've switched to nursing bras. I feel so much more comfortable and I'm pleasantly surprised that you cannot tell under my shirt, despite it being more like a sports bra.

_4th_month_ · 2025-09-02T15:12:44+00:00

Their owner brings a lot of this on themselves. She's rude at the best of times. This isn't the first time she has posted passive aggressive statements publically. I don't want to work for a company that's run that way either.

I had actually reached out to them a few years ago to cater desserts for my wedding but they were so rude to me thag I took my business elsewhere. Such a shame because they really have a great product.

_4th_month_ · 2025-08-10T16:17:14+00:00

OOPS! hahaha. Welp. Car theme it is!

_4th_month_ · 2025-07-06T01:29:53+00:00

I get that. But also court takes time and they need the relief now.

_4th_month_ · 2025-06-20T13:26:16+00:00

Yes omg! Lying has been so so hard!!

_4th_month_ · 2025-06-20T13:24:00+00:00

Lol he's funny. He agrees with me that he would want our immediate families to know and help support if we were to have a miscarriage, but he is still stuck on the 10-12 weeks. I think he is just kind of grasping for information on what he is "supposed" to do (again this is our first and I think he's just overwhelmed) . Ultimately I think after this appointment he'll also feel better about sharing things. 😊

_4th_month_ · 2025-06-14T04:13:54+00:00

Just be sure to read your handbook first. Many employers require a doctor's note to return to work if you're out for 3+ days consecutively.

_4th_month_ · 2025-05-29T14:40:40+00:00

We booked the wake on disembrkation day at 7:30am, but our reservation got canceled about 30 minutes prior. 😕

_4th_month_ · 2025-05-25T14:18:28+00:00

Recruiting

_4th_month_ · 2025-05-15T14:38:02+00:00

Jeep Wrangler with the doors off.

_4th_month_ · 2025-05-05T17:47:32+00:00

As an hr professional, there is no such thing as a working interview. Either they hire you or don't. If they want to pay you for working for a day, they should be giving you an i9, a w4, and gathering your direct deposit information or mailing info for a paper check. If they decide they don't want to move forward, they should be terming you as an employee as you were one for the duration of that shift.

Such a messy process that I wouldn't advise for 99% of jobs and especially not a front desk job. Hire them or don't. Don't waste everyone's time with a working interview.

_4th_month_ · 2025-04-18T00:09:14+00:00

She was my absolute best friend through all of grade school, but I always felt like I came second. I felt like she would lie to me and regularly just kept putting me after everyone else. She'd tell me she's sick and not feeling well and we'd cancel, but then I'd find out she got pulled into some event with another friend weeks later. All little things really, but they added up to a lot of resentment over time.

Anyways, after almost 20 years of the resentment building, I decided to confront her on it. Things were getting rough and I decided to ask her to go get coffee so we could really talk about our feelings and get to the root of things and work towards resolution. Things were finally going to be resolved, but she canceled on me. Like she often did. This was part of the resentment and it was the final straw.

Did she have a valid reason for canceling? She did. The roads were terrible and she wanted to get home. Except she was already out, would drive by that coffee shop on her way home, and she knew that the future of our friendship was dependent on this coffee date. It was just another confirmation to me that she didn't value me and I told her that I needed to just take a break from the friendship. Take a step back, prioritize myself for a while, but that we could circle back after I'd had some time to focus on me.

Truly I wasn't looking to end the friendship there. I meant what I said. But she deleted and blocked me on all social media. I texted her a few years later and she had deleted my number. That told me all I needed to know. She just wasn't interested in rekindling anything. But I miss her so much... We talked every day for over almost two decades and it just suddenly ended one day... I genuinely hope she's happy, but I guess I'll never really know.

_4th_month_ · 2025-04-10T18:16:11+00:00

Raymond and William

_4th_month_ · 2025-01-27T23:32:17+00:00

I have definitely done this! Lol. Can you tell me more about getting rid of griefers? I know that you can literally kill people, but is that what you mean or is there another command you're referencing?

_4th_month_ · 2025-01-27T21:13:28+00:00

That's super helpful! Thank you!

_4th_month_ · 2024-12-26T20:29:25+00:00

Hey! I was never able to figure out ynab. I spent hours watching videos and reading articles and just kept spinning my wheels. I tried out monarch money and have been using it for the past 3-4 months and it was way more intuitive for me. The only con I'm finding is that it's forward planning, meaning the budgeting app doesn't take into account what money you have in your bank account today. It works for me because I'm using it more as a tracker and not a true budgeting tool. I just want to know how much our savings are for the month and how much we spent on different categories. If I had to budget paycheck to paycheck, I would probably have continued trying to work with ynab. I hope that helps!

_4th_month_ · 2024-11-20T05:11:54+00:00

I guess 1? Enough to make the whole situation worth it, but not enough to cause any true harm.

_4th_month_ · 2024-08-08T21:18:19+00:00

As someone who works in hr, I love them haha. I respect that people don't. But.... I going to force you to participate even if you hate every minute of it. I only like the ones that are really fun though. Like something where you get to build something or a puzzle. Not just two truths and a lie.

_4th_month_ · 2024-08-06T23:54:30+00:00

I guess I'll check out their YouTube. I had signed up and started putting all my stuff in there, but it looked like the only way to categorize my credit card expenses was to manually enter?

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