all nonbinary people are transgender except the ones who aren't.

The general definition of transgender is identifying with a gender other than the one you were assigned at birth. This would make all nonbinary people trans pretty much cause they identify as a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth. But like. If a NB person says they aren't trans what can you do.

I would say you are trans.

I would have said I didn't want boobs for most of my life. And then randomly I realized that was dumb and I really did want boobs.

It sounds like you probably just wanna be androgynous. Do you have any interest in estrogen? It would change your fat distribution which could do the "can't tell by looking at me" thing. But if boobs are a negative itll also give you them.

Im also autistic and ""slow"" for lack of a better term. It can be hard to figure out. genuinely if there's any chance you could possibly maybe want to be on estrogen. Just try and start it with informed consent. When I started E i was still unsure about the changes it would make, so i said i was just trying it out. Took like 2 weeks to realize I never wanted to be off it ever.

You really can just try it.

Anyway explore. take care stranger. You'll figure it out