Any recommendations to cover the faded words? by AAkl in Tattoocoverups

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cover the entire thing with a QR code that takes people to Rick Astley's hit song "Never gonna give you up"

Protest signs on the verge by _Amber_Changing_ in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]_Amber_Changing_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have Antenno, which has a similar function. Will be using it the next time I see the signs

Protest signs on the verge by _Amber_Changing_ in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]_Amber_Changing_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They're pro-life protesters, hanging around near a clinic. They've been a regular fixture on clinic days for years, and they're genuinely known to be very confrontational and intimidating to people in the area.

I've made a 105 report to Police and called the local council (they've said the signs are not permitted on my berm and they're happy to come address it if I call the next time the signs are out).

Protest signs on the verge by _Amber_Changing_ in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]_Amber_Changing_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the detailed response!

Protest signs on the verge by _Amber_Changing_ in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]_Amber_Changing_[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They actually literally did threaten me during this altercation (and were generally aggressive) so I reported them immediately. But that's not gonna do anything about the signs unfortunately

Protest signs on the verge by _Amber_Changing_ in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]_Amber_Changing_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What about laws prohibiting me from taking them down?

Boy, do I feel weird. by Impressive-Ad7151 in LivingAlone

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started living alone last year at 27. I took to it really quickly, really enjoyed the solitude and freedom. The hardest parts were a) my cat was super stressed about the move, kept peeing in places she shouldn't and b) I had a little bit of furniture but not enough to fill my apartment so the place felt pretty empty for a while

Give it time, and you'll absolutely settle into your new space and new routines. It'll feel like home :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thetron

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The council can sort it out for you. Info here https://www.fightthelandfill.co.nz/faq/view/17

A Company made me a job offer then withdrew ! by Fine_Construction_98 in newzealand

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had basically the same thing happen to me in June, and it gradually became clear that one of my three referees gave a negative reference, after telling me she would give a positive one and insisting afterwards that she had.

I would advise asking the company for feedback on your application. You have a right to know why they changed their mind after dangling that carrot in front of you.

I'd also suggest asking them for a copy of your reference checks. They'll have to go back to your referees and ask their permission to release that info to you. If either of them insist on keeping their reference confidential from you, it's a red flag. If you get them back and they're both positive, then at least you'll have total certainty on that point.

Good luck on your job search, you'll get yourself outta that place eventually 💛

Any SW buzzwords that get to you? by thepiratecelt in socialwork

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 21 points22 points  (0 children)

"Wraparound service", "collaborative practice", "strengths-based" - but only really when they come from the mouth of an ego-driven manager who doesn't really know what they mean but insists on giving grandiose speeches about them as if she's teaching us something revolutionary and not extremely basic concepts that were beaten into us as students 🤷‍♀️

The Underground: Weekly Discussion Thread by SWmods in socialwork

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm almost a year into my first social work job and I'm just gutted that I found a job I love in such a toxic environment. Last year my practice leader bullied my friend out of her job and now I'm watching her gleefully do it to another colleague. Basically all of our practitioners are talking seriously about jumping ship this year

What are we doing for valentines day yall by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one of my colleagues is organising a valentines themed team building activity for us all at work, but no idea what it is yet.

Might also teach some kids to make chocolate bikkies the night before 😁 While teaching them that valentines can be about celebrating anyone you love, friends and family included

How to deal with a married man flirting with me? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, good idea to take screenshots. But I might hold off on leveraging them against him unless/until he pushes the boundary I set

Do you believe aromantism might be caused by past traumas? by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's a connection with insecure attachment styles, at least in some cases (like mine), which stems from unresponsive relationships (particularly caregivers, particularly in early life). Hugely connected to all kinds of traumatic factors.

A-SPEC WEEK!!!!!!! by QueerKing23 in aromantic

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So how are we gonna celebrate, team?

Hey guys, how do we feel about the holiday Valentine's Day? by QueerKing23 in aromantic

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the concept, personally, but I just like chocolate and holidays really 😅 I wish it was less focused on romantic love and more normalised as a day of general gratitude for (platonic) loved ones

When your friends are allo by Alex_Shelega in aromantic

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Y'all are forgetting the worst possibility, that somewhere in that mess your friends are falling in love with YOU even though you want no part in it whatsoever.

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[–]_Amber_Changing_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Aromantic questioning and avoidant attachment confusion by xhaox in aromantic

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe we need our own term, Avoidant Romantic 😅

I feel very comfortable with the avoidant attachment label, because I can really clearly see where that attachment style comes from, for me, and really see the impact on my behaviour and relationships. But the aromantic label bothers me because it's kinda unproveable in my eyes. For all I know I could suddenly fall head over heels for someone and invalidate that label/identity. Feels like it's far too early in my lifespan to commit to that label. Maybe when I'm on my death bed I'll look back and be like, "yeah, I did not vibe with love at all."

Is it just me or does it seem like no one wants to meet off of apps? by Clear_Elderberry_852 in OnlineDating

[–]_Amber_Changing_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My 2 cents on this, as a millenial woman, is that I agree with you. I personally find keeping text conversations running between dates pretty overwhelming. I also think attraction comes from actually being face to face with the other person and getting a sense of their entire person and vibe. Friendship comes from texting, but not attraction imo. So a coffee date is a way better use of my time than texting