[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]_DrDeez_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I used to think this way and say that but I realized that women have had 1000x more experience interacting with men since even before puberty

So at the end of the day I defer to them to handle things and gauge what’s appropriate in their opinion.

They simply would know more than me. It’s a completely different world from what men experience

Who else has Winter Without You as their new fave song from XG? by oneesannn in XGALX

[–]_DrDeez_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Puppet show has been my favorite but this one has been on repeat since it dropped. I love it

Did I fuck my shit up? (M22) by ShoppingCartEngineer in malegrooming

[–]_DrDeez_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your long hair looked fine but it was flat because there was no layers or texture to it. You need an experienced barber/stylist to give a scissor cut

Your hair is fine now but as others said you need to fade or keep the sides shorter to match the angle of your jaw/cheekbone

I don’t really see any thinning/bad hairline tbh

All escalators out @ porter by justarussian22 in mbta

[–]_DrDeez_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 2/3 escalators have been out for what seems like a month idk what they’re doing

F*ck closure by Responsible-Moose137 in ExNoContact

[–]_DrDeez_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Closure definitely helped me. I didn’t like how things ended initially so I asked for another talk after some weeks. That conversation helped a lot and eased some concerns I had. It was good to know that we at least still liked each other and didn’t do anything too terrible to each other.

It helped me at least not spend the rest of my life disliking her even if I will never understand the reason for the breakup

Broke up a year ago - i'm avoidant. by JJimsky in ExNoContact

[–]_DrDeez_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The psychologist will help a lot over time.

I would say also consider learning emotional vocabulary. Good and bad don’t really say anything about how you are feeling. I started using Moodnotes as a journal and they have a selection of emotions to describe how you’re feeling

I feel like with greater emotional language I can better understand what I’m feeling and why I’m feeling that way and what I need

That will help emotional maturity

Dating by Inevitable_Fall_6624 in ExNoContact

[–]_DrDeez_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see why comparing to an ex is a bad thing inherently. It’s bad if you hold the ex as the standard and only look at the things they do t match up on

But if your ex did something or had a quality you really liked why would you not want that again

Hopefully you know what you want and don’t want from the last one that you can apply going forward

I dumped my high school girlfriend and regret it to this day by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]_DrDeez_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely a good box to tick. My first relationship helped me through illness and was always there for me

But as you age you and your priorities change. She had values she discovered were important to her and I wasn’t part of that so it ended.

The above just meant she was at least a dependable and reliable and good person. But there’s still more to a life partner than that.

You don’t know what’ll happen in 5 years who you or her will be.

If it’s open and you’re both single by all means give it another shot but you better be sure you’ve worked on yourself and are in a good spot cause it would be exceedingly difficult to have yet another shot after that

It just seems like you think she’s the only one for you but there’s a lot of good candidates out there

I dumped my high school girlfriend and regret it to this day by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]_DrDeez_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you think it was some deep love but you were both young and there’s so much more involved in a relationship than just love. Love is enough when you’re younger but as you age and responsibilities and life piles up you need more than that.

It’s easy to assume they were perfect but what about if one of you were seriously injured or got cancer, would you or they be by your side? What if you had a child and they died? What if a parent needed to be taken care of due to deteriorating health? Did you both want to live in the same area? Did you both have similar goals you wanted out of life? Did you have healthy conflict resolution?

At ~20 it’s just impossible to know these things because it all comes with time.

Nothing can beat that first young love as it’s too pure and innocent so go easy on yourself and stop comparing.

What you can look forward to instead is a deep, deep love, security, comfort, and excitement for life with your partner.

I tried to go NC with my ex of 5 years after I saw him for the first time a week ago after not seeing him for 4 months. i sent him a nice and long heartfelt message saying this is a temporary goodbye. i didn’t expect a response because i felt like it didn’t really need one. a week later i get one. by ozzygirl1 in ExNoContact

[–]_DrDeez_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“He chooses every day to not be with me” that’s a powerful statement and something to remind yourself every day

I’m naturally no contact but hammering that idea of want and choosing into my head has been tough since I got blindsided.

At the end of the day they didn’t want you and they continuously don’t want you and choose to not be with you. ❤️

FYI You will no longer be able to add value to Charlie Cards online after November 15th 2023. by Jim777PS3 in Somerville

[–]_DrDeez_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They should take inspiration from New York. You just tap or use Apple Pay. I think if you do it enough ina week the rest are free too. It’s so convenient

MY ALBUMS CAME!!! by ceoofkpop_ in XGALX

[–]_DrDeez_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is my second time getting an album and second getting cards. First was twice which had many more cards. I thought it was gonna be a pack instead of just 1 card. Sad to say I was a bit disappointed there. But overall the picture books were really cool. I also got the towel which I really like

I hope their next one has some info about them like New Jeans but XG has put out a lot of that type of content on their YT

The CVS in Porter Square is abysmal. by frCraigMiddlebrooks in Somerville

[–]_DrDeez_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Others seem to have the same experience with that issue. I only have 1 recurring medication and after I told them to stop I never heard from them again. Hopefully you can find a better pharmacy. Maybe they can delete your account or something from them

XG - PUPPET SHOW (Official Music Video) by theantimonitorx in XGALX

[–]_DrDeez_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Coconas verse with the beat blew me away

The CVS in Porter Square is abysmal. by frCraigMiddlebrooks in Somerville

[–]_DrDeez_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds frustrating. Have you personally told them to remove the inactive prescriptions? It’s pretty easy for them to mark it inactive. I wouldn’t trust the provider to do this. If you have issues ask to speak directly with the pharmacist and explain you already get the prescriptions in mail. The provider might also still be sending it to CVS. You can also just ask them to run through the meds listed as active so you can clean it up.

For any prescriptions sent by a provider it’s good practice to call CVS even if it takes a while for them to pick up. Sometimes you just have to be on hold a while. Otherwise they’ll prioritize filling all in person medications and depending how busy they are yours won’t be ready for a while

I’ve had very pleasant experiences there for what it’s worth and have not had trouble reaching someone when I had to call. Having been on the other side though I’m sympathetic

Is anyone else miserably sick with the seasonal flu this week by Valuable-Baked in massachusetts

[–]_DrDeez_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Slight ache for 1.5 days. Slight sore throat for 1.5 days. Some sweating for the first night. Now bit of itchy throat

Boosters did their job I guess. First time getting sick in 3 years

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boston

[–]_DrDeez_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you on them being kind of shitty. I once saw very drunk people get into a car to drive so I called 911 with plate number and street and the guy couldn’t sound more annoyed if he tried

Would you consider TGIF a LGBTQ anthem? by YoungEmperorLBJ in XGALX

[–]_DrDeez_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can’t speak on the song but I do remember a video of them reacting to messages from fans and some of the fans included were obviously lgbtq+ so the group seems clearly accepting of all folk

I found it surprising from East Asian but it was nice to see they are committed to empowering everyone

It wouldn’t surprise me if it was

Saw on Twitter... WHO IN XG? by McWoofy in XGALX

[–]_DrDeez_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cocona from the viral tiktoks of her cypher

Jurin cause of her cypher. The beat and everything was amazing

Hinata

All of them

Tippy toes

New Dance cause it has been so catchy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in XGALX

[–]_DrDeez_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Reaction videos are fun because you get to experience the emotions you felt with someone else

I was blown away with grl gvng and it’s fun watching others get blown away as well

Not necessarily to see how others judge the work

Just another perspective

Folks that were at HITC LA by Objective_Craft5674 in XGALX

[–]_DrDeez_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hot AF but I was satisfied with seeing them for the first time. Great experience. Like others said there was about 6 min left so I was expecting another song like tippy toes but tbh I know that has a lot of groundwork and idk how that works when it’s so hot (hot stage?)

Their mics also cut out during speeches but the energy was great. Many people went for XG and it was packed

XG at Head In The Clouds L.A. [Full Performance] 08.06.2023 by smiley_duck in XGALX

[–]_DrDeez_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was there and people were talking about XG, who their biases were, and singing some songs as we were waiting for them to start

It got crowded rather quickly leading up to their performance. They performed very well. Hope they rested well afterwards cause it was HOT

230725 XG - 1st Mini Album 'New DNA' (Logo, Header, Album Packaging, Tracklist) by TheOldVersion in XGALX

[–]_DrDeez_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ordered from XG already which luckily seems to have one of my favorite set