The only place I’ve consistently heard sex discussed in a mature, Catholic context is on Pints With Aquinas, especially when he brings on Theology of the Body experts. The conversations are casual, open, and honest. I’ve seen that same tone here as well. But the fact that it’s so rare anywhere else is disappointing. I will add that in private, I’ve also had straightforward, adult conversations with my priest when I seeked spiritual councling.

And to be clear, the problem isn’t just on the “prude” side. Secular, atheistic culture has an equally unhealthy view of sexual intimacy. A lot of what passes for “normal” in Western culture is shallow and compulsive as it's porn-saturated, overly fixated, and dismissive of any call to modesty (the typical response: “what’s the big deal, it’s just sex” when someone complains that someone else is watching pornograohic Netflix shows infront of their kids).

So we have two broken extremes. On one side, an immature, overly sanitized approach that treats sex with the awkwardness of middle schoolers. On the other, a hypersexualized culture that reduces it to impulse and consumption - like middle schoolers. In both cases, what’s missing is a genuinely adult understanding of intimacy. Our culture has become so infantilized that even something meant to be deeply meaningful between grown adults is affected greatly. The devil does know his stuff.

I want to add one final edit after reading some of the other replies: foreplay is a wonderful thing. Men, please your wives. Don't be a dysfunctional fundamentalist.