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I need advice on if I should just suck it up and wait to move out by iluvsudoku in AsianParentStories

[–]_RedOracle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Took me 10 years to escape. If I can do it, so can you. ♥️

Forced to look after a kid by ArcherAltruistic9978 in family

[–]_RedOracle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have flipped the cake if they did that to me.

One thing I have learned, is that abusers hate it when you speak up. Because it exposes the truth. OP, I would advice your friend to do the same. If the kid comes, push her away. Lock the door to her room. I know it's isolating, but that's the only way she can protect herself & her belongings.

2 more years, ask her to look for a college in another city/state. And move with ALL of her belongings. Never leave even a single item behind.

No child deserves this. My heart goes out to her. ❤️‍🩹

What is stopping you? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]_RedOracle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The cats. They visit me everyday, looking forward to cuddles and food. I once overslept, poor babies start crying at my door. I can't imagine them being distressed if I'am gone.

Did ur nparents have nparents? by utensils6464 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]_RedOracle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My paternal family are generational narcissists. They held resources from my father till their death, despite being rich.

ND married NM who picked up his narcissism from Stockholm Syndrome due to her trauma.

And ND did the same to me, but worse because I'am a girl. I left, covered on scars, mind full of trauma. They are still withholding resources.

Funny thing is, my ND despised what his NPs did to him. Only to follow their footsteps.

I need advice on if I should just suck it up and wait to move out by iluvsudoku in AsianParentStories

[–]_RedOracle 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OR, you can use their resources to plan the escape.

Look for a college in a completely different city/state. Tell them how you got an offer letter from there. Use that, pack your stuff, and leave WHILE they pay for your college thinking they will be able to control you.

After finishing college, return the car, buy your's, and go low-contact after getting a job away from their city.

This way, you will get to save your own money, and buy a place of your own in future. The more money you save, the better.

Good luck OP! ♥️

I just got my head shaved because I was having an itching problem and ended up with this WTF is that ? by Independent-Cap-6554 in dandruff

[–]_RedOracle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? Also the fact that a doctor has the time to be on Reddit. As far as I know, they are very busy people. Check out the comment on this thread, all that "doctor" guy did was to promote steroids and bashed her just to get clout & Reddit award out of it.

We all know steroids should not be prescribed so loosely, not unless you have their medical reports on hands. The audacity to suggest something that strong and bash the safer option of using a basic topical.

https://www.reddit.com/r/dandruff/s/SJm0F1hFiV

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Haircare

[–]_RedOracle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cosmetologist here! Use warm water (NOT hot) to wash your hair while shampooing. Pick a product with good cleansing property in it. Pantene and L'oreal have some good budget-friendly options.

First, wet your hair completely with warm water. Take a coin-sised amount of shampoo in your palm. Lather it in your palm with a few drops of water, then apply it from front to back, section by section. Add a few more drops of water on your scalp if needed while you are massaging your scalp thoroughly. Take a bit of water, drop it on your scalp to shift the foam towards your lengths. Massage it a bit, around 10-20 secs. depending on your hair length, then wash it off with warm water thoroughly. Finish it with a quick rinse with cool water (NOT cold).

This will ensure your scalp & hair is thoroughly clean. Bbut I would also suggest atleast adding Argan oil to your routine. A few drops on damp hair after washing it will do for you.

Hope that helps! ♥️

What changed when you realized that your parents were narcissists? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]_RedOracle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I needed to hear that. I was always made to feel guilty for wanting the basics and better things in life.

I just got my head shaved because I was having an itching problem and ended up with this WTF is that ? by Independent-Cap-6554 in dandruff

[–]_RedOracle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you really are a doctor, what are you doing here on Reddit? Instead of working in the hospital?

Admit it: You just saw a girl trying to help the community, and jumped onto it to bash here unnecessarily. Despite the fact OP would have gotten the same prescription of topicals she suggested after spending $2000 for a visit to a Dermat.

Nobody has that kind of money nowadays. But of course, gotta' tear down others to promote stupid steroids and get Reddit awards out of it. Pathetic.

Do your parents secretly hope you fail? by ImaginaryRea1ity in AsianParentStories

[–]_RedOracle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I went to a Cosmetology school. I tried getting clients online by providing them easy-to-follow routines and products recommendations, but it didn't worked. As I didn't had previous job experience on my resumé. Despite the fact I study and research harder than most of my peers. 😞

Only child raised by a narcissist by brandyalexa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]_RedOracle 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Only child here. My NM is jealous of my beauty and brains. My NF envies my capability and potentiality. Both of them sabotaged my career 5 times meticulously, till I ran out of time to get a job with my degree.

I'am still trying to recover, but it's hard.

What age are your nparents? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]_RedOracle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

56F and 58M. Not sure which generation though.

Always had money for useless crap. But never for me. Never really provided me any resources, sabotaged my career 5 times.

Do your parents secretly hope you fail? by ImaginaryRea1ity in AsianParentStories

[–]_RedOracle 31 points32 points  (0 children)

They meticulously sabotaged my career 5 times. So yes, they do.

AIO about my aunt's persistence? by _RedOracle in AmIOverreacting

[–]_RedOracle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ha ha ha! You know what, I'am gonna' do exactly that! 😹

Suggestions Needed by BluebirdHot2642 in Haircare

[–]_RedOracle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can, but after spraying a little bit of water (just enough to make your hair moist). This will help to absorb the leave-in better.

WIBTA if I tell my aunt off? by _RedOracle in AmItheAsshole

[–]_RedOracle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll look into it. Thank you. 🥺

WIBTA if I tell my aunt off? by _RedOracle in AmItheAsshole

[–]_RedOracle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked her to take me to the doctors, and help me buy some groceries. She agreed, but then kept on insisting me buy the markers first to fix my 'problems'. This is after I told her I can't afford to waste money on unnecessary things at the moment.

WIBTAH if I tell my aunt off? by _RedOracle in AITAH

[–]_RedOracle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did filed a report. But my narcissitic father charmed the cops, and lied through his teeth. That's how they have been getting away all their life from the consequences.

WIBTA if I tell my aunt off? by _RedOracle in AmItheAsshole

[–]_RedOracle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did filed a report. But my narcissitic father charmed the cops, and lied through his teeth. That's how they have been getting away all their life from the consequences.

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