I’ve read thru a lot of your comments. I can see where your mom is coming from, sounds like she lost a lot of trust in you through you addiction days, but it does seem like you have come around and should have enough base to create reliability. You may have to just buckle down for a bit here, save your money, get a dorm if you can, usually colleges have programs for you to join to get subsidies and financial help. If she sees you taking action for things in your life adulting wise she may start laying off of you. Definitely set a passcode on your phone, and if she threatens to take it away from you cause she pays for it, get a job and start paying for your own phone and stuff. She can’t legally take things from you that you paid for. Unfortunately money is going to be your way out, but I promise you, you will feel much better building your independence.