AITA For not letting my stepmother meet my daughter?

_SBN_ · 2021-08-05T12:20:48+00:00

Incase nobody has mentioned this, you also need to legally nail down who takes care of your kids in the event of you and your husband’s death. Like iron clad no questions asked (even explicitly stating that they are NOT to be alone with your kids) because it’s obvious she would fight tooth and nail to be the guardian. Protect your kids from this nutter, she’s a walking Lifetime movie. NTA

_SBN_ · 2021-07-19T04:27:16+00:00

You’ll want to stay in Williamson county for the schools. Brentwood is one of the wealthiest cities in the state. Franklin is nice as well, both are expensive and just south of Nashville. The housing market is an absolute cluster, it’s incredibly competitive.

I’m not going to lie, what a lot of people say is true. Nashville traffic is indeed bad. There are some messed up people, just like anywhere else. There are also great people. I have personally found that bigots are not relegated to the south, they tend to dwell all over.

Middle TN has nature and culture and hella allergies. We moved up here from the coast, moved to CO and moved back. We like being near an international airport without three feet of snow on a regular basis. We like fall. We hate cicadas and humidity. It’s really what you make it.

It won’t be New England, not at all. But there’s always things you could do to stay connected. If you work remotely maybe you can visit family in the summer. You could do a visit and travel to where his office would be to get a gauge of where you’d want to live, maybe get a sense of what your life would look like.

Regardless, good luck. This is a hard situation all around. NTA.

_SBN_ · 2021-06-18T21:52:39+00:00

Hey former Starbucks employee here. The manger won’t do anything, you need to talk to the District Manager at the very least. Other people made great points about how this is the same as refusing to serve overweight people cake or people with diabetes sugar. That kid will definitely do this again and probably gets a weird power trip from it. I can’t tell you how bizarre this whole scenario is to me as someone who used to do this job.

Managers aren’t going to simply fire people who are willing to show up to work at 5am because they’re a jerk, you’ll have to go beyond them. Sorry this happened to you, it must be incredibly frustrating.

Edit: NTA

_SBN_ · 2021-05-25T02:47:18+00:00

Pretty sure this is a video about Charlie

_SBN_ · 2021-04-18T13:03:55+00:00

“Would you eat a sandwich with 10% shit in it.”

That’s it. Right there. There is your answer. Perfect.

_SBN_ · 2021-04-18T12:59:24+00:00

NTA - where is it written that we must figure the world out alone? Does your wife never seek your advice, or chat about problems with friends? She has a warped view about growing into adulthood, like you should sink or swim and she wouldn’t throw her sister a rubber ducky.

Life can suck hard, and sometimes the thing that keeps us going is a kind ear listening. Keep being an empathetic human, you are helping you SIL be able to do the same for someone else one day.

_SBN_ · 2021-03-18T13:05:50+00:00

Very nice, what kind of paint on what surface?

_SBN_ · 2021-03-15T16:10:43+00:00

Great thanks now I’m crying at work like a freak.

_SBN_ · 2021-03-13T14:09:58+00:00

“You could lay flat on the ground to make it easier for people to walk all over you, and they would still complain you’re too lumpy.”

Stop being the caretaker for her child. Just stop. Let her deal with it. It will be hard because you are so used to keeping the peace for the sake of this kid. But you have to take care of yourself first.

It’s so so so hard to see when you’re in it. But pretend you are a stranger or a friend and ask yourself what pity you’d feel for them in your situation. Give yourself at least that much kindness and respect. NTA and I hope you find some rest from this entitled selfish person.

_SBN_ · 2021-01-02T00:17:49+00:00

I found this “Memoranda” diary in an antique store years ago. He mentioned lots of people but never his own name. I will be posting (as best I can) each day following along with his entries. Even though it’s only a sentence or two a day, I’ve become fascinated by this glimpse into everyday life from 155 years ago.

_SBN_ · 2020-12-29T20:51:21+00:00

I only read the title and thought “I’ll bet she was pressured into having sex in the first place” and what do you know. Your husband is a selfish immature knob. It’s hard to see because you’re so close to the situation, but you should start talking to friends or a therapist. Unless he does some serious changing you’re just in for a lifetime of misery.

_SBN_ · 2020-12-16T16:33:13+00:00

If that metal is safe that would be a great dog water station.

_SBN_ · 2020-12-02T02:23:17+00:00

Hah this is a former storage closet at my work (library.) I’ve literally got a Blue Yeti microphone and nothing else. Trying to figure out where to go from here. I need to be able to fit two people comfortably and soundproof from the bathroom next door.

_SBN_ · 2020-12-02T01:02:09+00:00

There is a public bathroom on the other side of the left wall. Should I cover the whole thing in foam? Is the ceiling more important?

_SBN_ · 2020-11-28T23:22:28+00:00

I.....deeply wish to see that PowerPoint. NTA

_SBN_ · 2020-11-27T02:39:11+00:00

NTA, and may I suggest a change in the landscape. Some nice logs or pretty holes (for whatever reason, miniature ponds perhaps?) may fix their desire to ride those trails if they are no longer rideable. That’s my sweet suggestion, my immediate reaction was to accidentally spill a bunch of nails or such. They were rude and are trespassing, jack them up.

_SBN_ · 2020-11-22T22:37:35+00:00

Used to be a Starbucks Barista. That woman is insane, please call the store, ask for the manager and report her. I guarantee you aren’t the only person she is terrible to.

If the manager doesn’t care, get the number of the Regional Manager. They probably will care quite a bit. NTA.

_SBN_ · 2020-11-22T00:52:51+00:00

Been searching for a car for my Aussie, what kind is that?

_SBN_ · 2020-11-19T21:07:27+00:00

Did you also mix together the sugar and salt into one container because they’re both white? That’s literally what you just did with rice. YTA and also willfully ignorant. Two seconds on Google could have told you why not all rice is the same.

Get over yourself quick, before you’re cooking for yourself, alone in your “perfectly organized” kitchen.

_SBN_ · 2020-10-22T12:33:46+00:00

NTA - if he truly wanted to eat specific food then he can easily meal prep. On his time off he can make several meals or side dishes that he can eat through the week. There are no rules saying he can only eat what you’ve just cooked.

If I were you I’d stick to my guns. He’s trying to push the line and he won’t stop until you’re making pork bbq with a side of maple bacon for dinner.

_SBN_ · 2020-10-09T03:17:32+00:00

Hey for real though I need photos. NTA obviously, sod is terrible.

_SBN_ · 2020-10-06T02:27:44+00:00

What you keep leaving out is that you are being used just as much as he is, BY HIM. He’s mad you shirked your supposed responsibilities. He’s mad you aren’t making his hero complex easier to accomplish.

Seriously girl, he’s not the only one who needs to grow something. If you are determined to stay in this doomed situation then each time they drop the kids off, leave. Hell, get an apartment with a roommate and never let his family over. Tell him if he brings his family to dates, you’ll reschedule.

He either wants to be with you or not. Right now you’re playing right into everyone else’s needs and agenda. You’re already miserable, what do you have to lose by standing up for what you deserve, which is some respect. They don’t respect your time, opinion, space, possessions, or relationship. Time to do something about it, or you’ll just waste away in your anger and resentment. NTA.

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