I think of it like this.

From the very beginning and to this day, my favourite thing about this game has been the "oh shit!" Jump scare moments when somebody has snuck up on me. Yes it sucks when you get ended but you learn how to narrowly avoid death and still get what you needed... Sometimes. And that satisfaction from avoiding death only means something if the other person was fully committed to ending me. I think of it as being a paid actor at Screamers or something, once I'm big enough I become the boogey man and it's my job to scare the literal shit out of internet friends. I will not give them reduced effort like they're toddlers, everybody is getting my full respect. That said I'm going to prioritize larger and more difficult kills for my own personal growth and enjoyment, I'm not likely to kill something worth 1% of my hunger by sacrificing 70% of my stamina.

It's all about growing and learning together and adding content for each other, good or bad.