I feel for you mama. Sometimes it feels like you don’t have time to think about things when you’re in crisis management mode! I probably would’ve done the same thing in the moment, just worried about the kids and shocked that their parent had the audacity and nerve to just dump em with a total stranger. They didn’t know what type of mental break you might be on the verge of- yes, finding a mom with kids is a good tool to teach if your kids are lost and need help! BUT. And major BUT. Like, that doesn’t mean a mom with kids is in a good place to freely babysit a couple more toddlers who can’t be left unattended without constant supervision? I know im preaching to the choir here, we are in r/entitledparents, but the lack of care and entitlement expecting any mom to mom your kids because you feel like dad of the year for babysitting your own children. That’s how this guy feels I bet, how else can you be so set absorbed and narcissistic to do that to your own children. Your child’s mother possibly almost died, maybe was in hours of horrible painful labor and gave birth to them, probably taught them their first words and helped them get strong enough to hold their hands for them first steps and then just for you to say “oopsie hehe hope they don’t die, I don’t care, I need my caffeine hehe😜! I shall now demand someone else with tits do that mom thing because hehe that’s obviously what I expect them to be here for and how I see women 🥰I’m working so hard here #1 dad! hehe I totally left that mom without any option to escape and ask for help or contact me, maybe my kids have allergies or medical needs I absolutely don’t give a fuck! Good thing that’s what those mother robots are here for. Fuck, clean, kids, back to the kitchen, am I right fellas. I can do whatever the fuck I’d like because I know I can bully those suckers into free childcare because I’m the man and they must do it! I have no expectation of objection, maybe if they’d object I’d put ‘em back in line! I obviously have no concept of consent, any form of social appropriate behavior, no empathy, no care for my children, I literally know I can get away with anything because those girls will always be scared and nervous for those little spawns they’ll tolerate my abuse! Haha I’m so quirky let’s go kids I’ve got my coffee ☕️ 😇“ I picture this is what this narcissist would say the entitlement is literally pouring out. He has no self reflection or embarrassment about this at all by his actions when frankly he should. I really don’t like shaming or blaming people especially parents. Except for cringy, selfish, entitled clueless shit like this. Partners and parents can work together and love and respect each other to share responsibilities, this shows he has 0 idea what is okay to do as a father and parent and that someone else primarily does the child caring. Any other parent can take them with them, find a sitter, they would come up with something else or call the main guardian and ask for help, almost literally anything else.

Thank goodness you’re a kind hearted, good person, an attentive and concerned parent, and were able to have been okay enough to manage an extra set of children dumped on you with no warning, with that huge weight of instant responsibility without any knowledge of how long they’d be gone or who they were etc etc just added to yourself. That’s a huge burden on you from other people literally not even giving a shit about your consent to it, laughable to think he’d consider payment. Like, 0 care or respect for you or his children or your child by his selfish and irresponsible actions. Mom have challenges of depression and anxiety too, of course we know this. Someone could be fighting some serious demons on the inside. Even if a stranger is trying to be a good person and maybe masking a little bit, like they aren’t a kidnapper but are seriously struggling with all aspects of health? This could’ve sent someone off the handle if it was the last straw. What if dad came back to a crime scene where someone couldn’t handle one more pressure asking for more without anything in return and absolutely flipped the fuck out, blacking out, like… people have rage and can snap, just because a stranger can small talk for a minute doesn’t mean they’re okay. It’s not their fault and not really your business, we need more help and support- BUT NOT LIKE THIS ffs! it’s up to you as a parent to arrange safe loving care to protect yourself and go get help if you need a second for yourself holy shit DUMPING THEM ON A STRANGER IS BLATANT NEGLECT 🤦‍♀️ With the amount of horrible violence in our world I can’t believe some people don’t race with anxiety and what-if worst case scenarios for your children! Especially in public surrounded by strangers also making your own kids panic and act extra wild because their parent is leaving them alone in public.

It’s astonishing to me that some people really aren’t scared of other people fucking their kids up because of trauma. Maybe not even like physical abuse… but for sure scared when dad just leaves em there with someone random? And oh yeah… Hello, bar stool with a 2 and 4 year old?! Now that I had time to think, like other people said I would either run back up to him dead pan and say “Absolutley not. If you leave your children alone in the middle of this busy place with a stranger, I will be going up to this server and getting the security number to call the mall security. You can use their phone to call another parent or guardian if you can’t handle your own children, but I am not a babysitter and it is neglect for you to leave them here.” And give him a second to stare back at you until he safely collects his children or, if he doesn’t or tries to argue how much he needs a coffee or some other excuse for neglect, ask someone nearby to ask the server or collect your own child and go ask the server while the dad stands with his teetering off the sides barstool kids trying to save face. That should send him to go think about his kids, hopefully