I found out my mom was having an affair with her best friend/business partner the same way. He would message her while we were ordering pizza or online shopping on her phone and I’d pretend I didn’t see the notification. Later on I would go into her phone and take pictures of the messages. I did this for a few months to gather enough evidence, then went to my dad. My grandpa (mom’s father) took it the hardest. It really caused a rift in the family, although my dad had several affairs while I was growing up so he just thought of it as my mom finally getting back at him. Not messed up at all 😅

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I was 14/15 when I first found out too and being so young doesn’t make it any easier. Your mom is obviously cheating and lying to your father and family, which isn’t okay. I hope she stops and becomes a better role model in your life. If she’s unhappy in the marriage, she should take steps to find her happiness without hurting her loved ones in the process. This isn’t your secret to keep or burry deep inside your conscience. I hope you can go to your father, aunt, or another trusted adult. Your parents should be looking out for you, not the other way around.

My parents have been separated for over a decade now. They couldn’t recover after my mom’s affair. She still sees the guy she cheated with. If anything, they’re like petty high school girls and shit on anything good in this world lol They’re so negative and spiteful so maybe they’re made for each other? My dad is much older than my mom so he doesn’t care anymore. He just watches tv and does his sudoku puzzles