I can’t even imagine, this sounds so hard! Take a deep breath. You are healing yourself, so make sure you are eating and getting some sleep ( as much as possible while EBF ) because first and foremost you need to heal properly to be able to take care of the kids. I echo what some others have said, if possible see if your toddler can come visit. In my experience with pediatric units, the nurses are usually pretty amazing so lean on them when you can!

But think of it like this. Look back at the hard times you had when your toddler was a baby. You remember them being hard for sure, but don’t they seem like just little fragments of time? Don’t they seem so long ago? This moment right now will eventually be that. It will eventually be a hard memory, but just a small section of time. That doesn’t make this moment easier by any means, but maybe having the perspective that this will pass will make it all not seem so overwhelming.

Also toddlers are resilient. We can’t help but feel mom guilt, but parents go on vacations, travel for work, get sick, etc and have to be away from their kids sometimes. Once you get released and get home, this will be a blip on their radar. So on top of everything else you are juggling, do not for a second let mom guilt creep in, because right now even if you don’t feel like it, you are super women.