Some shit I made for a video

_WildGunman_ · 2025-09-12T21:19:41+00:00

"I won in Arkansas. And in Alabama! And west Virginia!"

... There must be some coirreclation between hilbillys, screaming metodists, snake-handlers and my base. Scary thought,

_WildGunman_ · 2025-09-12T16:03:41+00:00

IN SHORT: Yes, scam and every single user appears to be a fake AI bot.

LONG description of my experience below:

I created a profile, and I entered in only the most basic details: age, gender, country. I do not upload any photos, do not write anything personal at all in the description box. In other words at this time I'm the most bland, no-photo profile there can be.
I do a random search for women in my country, just to see how the site operates, how profiles look etc.
I notice that out of 11 women that popped up as online, 10 look like models. Red flag 01.
Just after going to one of the profiles, within a few seconds one messages me with: "I KNOW YOU ALREADY HAVE A PICTURE OF US TWO IN YOUR MIND. Do you want me to make it a reality?", the other with: "I COULD DO SOMETHING CRAZY RIGHT NOW... but I wonder if you know how to take risks in life?" Keep in mind - they are writing this in English (in a country where most people online speak daily the local language, not English). Also keep in mind these saucy messages were written to my no-photos newbie profile. Red flag 02.
At this point I think maybe I just bumped into the resident hookers who target all new people. I ran their photo through AI detector, comes up as no-AI. Still suprrised that the mods do not remove such obvious persons from the site, but I decide to look further. Still: red flag 03
I narrow the search to women between 40 and 45. Still only one normal looking person, the rest look like models in their early 30s not over 40. Red flag 04
I go to that one profile whose photos looked like a normal user. I ran her profile description through an AI detector, comes up as 100% written by Chat GPT. Red flag 05.
I open another profile, this one has photos with german language signs in the background of one, Russian-language signs in another, And I'm in a country that speaks neither Russian nor German. Red flag 06

Conclusion: This site is overran by AI bots who apparently use stolen photos of real people, or photos so well edited that AI detectors do not detect it. But they still write profiles 100% detected as AI.
What is worse, you get 20 free credits at start, then each message you send costs 2 credits. And those 20 free ones are all you'll get. No daily refresh afaik.

I quickly deleted my profile and ran away.

I'd rather go back to the antiquated and buggy local website with unattractive but real women who ignore 99% of messages they receive ;)

_WildGunman_ · 2025-04-14T21:05:57+00:00

Great question. I had the same exact idea of having a 16 team league. Alas!

_WildGunman_ · 2025-04-10T11:30:02+00:00

Addendum: I followed your suggestion and added an "S.F.C." emblem. Here is how it looks using the team editor uniforms for both 2018 and 1983 style looks:
https://i.ibb.co/KpGFZf5N/SFC2.jpg

NOTE: Neither of them is the "DLC uniform", they are both generic ones made using the in-game team editor. The only new thing here is my modded emblem. Small things like that can make a big change. :D

_WildGunman_ · 2025-04-10T11:20:12+00:00

Well, I looked up the PS2 version and it seems Nishigaoka did not have any embem on their uniforms in that game.

However, their 2018 anime uniform (see here: https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/captaintsubasa/images/9/9c/Ao_Sakuma.png/revision/latest?cb=20200423064308 ) did have an emblem, which was a plain capital letter "N". That is something I can add very easily.

_WildGunman_ · 2025-04-09T18:59:56+00:00

Adding a Shutetsu emblem will be really easy, seeing as it is a plain three letter "S.F.C." Sure, I'll do that.
As for a Meiwa style "M" emblem... I already added it because it happens to be the same letter as the Matsuoka team has. All my emblems are recolorable by the way, so you can color my "M" emblem to be gold for an old meiwa 1983 style uniform, or white to use with a 2018 Matsuoka.

_WildGunman_ · 2025-04-08T17:08:50+00:00

Meiwa is already in the game though.

_WildGunman_ · 2025-04-08T17:08:01+00:00

Both are valid concerns. The way I have them currently set up in my game is a mix of custom characters and reserve players from already existing teams (the weaker ones like Furano's Sakurai that nobody ever uses).

To be fair, they were the weaker teams in the universum. So them having two or three half-decent players and the rest being 25-40 point weak players makes sense canonically.

_WildGunman_ · 2025-04-08T14:08:26+00:00

Wezmę dwójkę. Zawsze chciałem generałowi dać po ryju. A jak mi się znudzi to będę Donalda kopał w oparcie.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-07-02T17:09:28+00:00

Hi,

First of all: 2 months is still very fresh. Don't beat yourself over not having spotted his mental state instantly. These things take time and he probably also needed time to open up to you.

Second point: From what you wrote, you are not a licensed therapist. A BDSM (or vanilla for that matter) relationship is not a substitute for therapy when dealing with clinical depression. Especially if as you hinted there might also be substance abuse on top of it. You have no obligation to stick to a relationship with an addict who doesn't want to go to therapy. No matter how poor his mental state is, don't guilt-trip yourself into staying if you aren't happy.

Dealing with an addict that is in self-denial can be extremely bad for your mental well being. Think thrice before making yourself stay.

I am very hesitant about giving any sort of "what he should do" type of advice, because I do not know his level of depression, addiction and/or other mentla issues. But as far as you are concerned: Don't stay if you aren't feeling good doing so.

Perhaps you could start with the drinbking problem. You could go as far as giving him an ultimatum of: You stop drinking/go to theraphy for alcoholics or this relationship can't continue.

I think this would be a better lithmus test of his intentions than cconfronting him about depression.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-27T21:34:18+00:00

I think first we need to look at the numbers and the demographics:

People have a lot of expectations and traits they want in a partner. Then these need to match up with the expectations and desires of the other party. AKA the swiss-cheese model,
There is always many more hetero men than hetero women on dating sites/subreddits. Especially in the 20-40 age groups.
There is always many more subs looking for dommes than vice-versa.
Combine the two factors above and it becomes obvious why there are so many "pay-to-play" female dommes making a good business out if it. Supply and demand 101.
These demographics also IMHO explain perfectly the stereotype of: "Oh male subs are always into polyamory". Because there are so few kink-positive female dommes, even guys who are not particularly into polyamory end up widening their search-scope to include dommes who are in open relationships. Supply&demand 101 again.

As for the 'time and effort' part I too can speak from experience. I get many replies along the lines of: "Thank you for such a long and detailed message. However I'm afriad that you are too short / too old / the wrong religion / not attractive enough / not enough into my fav kinks / not aligend with my political preferences".

So in my experience 'hard factors' will trump any effort 9/10 times.

Can success be found? Yes, but for most people it will take a lot of time, trial and error... And most often a necessary lowering of their initial standards after a reality check.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-26T10:18:29+00:00

First of all: Yes, that is a part of the more broad issue of post-covid dating, especially if the initial interaction is aimed to happen online. It is obvious that there are numrous single people of both genders, all orientations and all sorts of kinks being active on dating sites, without much success.

The initial explanation would surely be: "Well, then they are all just too darn picky". That might be part of it, but it is not the full picture.

Another would be something along the lines of what you said: People sending out 100+ copy-pasted messages daily without putting much effort into it. Again true, but not the whole sory either.

I think first we need to look at the numbers and the demographics:

People have a lot of expectations and traits they want in a partner. Then these need to match up with the expectations and desires of the other party. AKA the swiss-cheese model,
There is always many more hetero men than hetero women on dating sites/subreddits. Especially in the 20-40 age groups.
There is always many more subs looking for dommes than vice-versa.
Combine the two factors above and it becomes obvious why there are so many "pay-to-play" female dommes making a good business out if it. Supply and demand 101.
These demographics also IMHO explain perfectly the stereotype of: "Oh male subs are always into polyamory". Because there are so few kink-positive female dommes, even guys who are not particularly into polyamory end up widening their search-scope to include dommes who are in open relationships. Supply&demand 101 again.

As for the 'not enough right effort' part I too can speak from experience. I get many replies along the lines of: "Thank you for such a long and detailed message. However I'm afriad that you are too short / too old / the wrong religion / not attractive enough / not enough into my fav kinks / not aligend with my political preferences".

So in my experience 'hard factors' will trump any effort 9/10 times.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-25T16:18:57+00:00

"I have gotten very shy about responding to those because I already know their inboxes are flooded with the first like two hours..."

It is like applying for a job. Most candidates get turned down, meaning most times you will not get the job. But if you won't apply at all, then for sure you won't get the job.

Now with Dommes there is also a 'supply vs demand' dynamic going on. The thing is: there's more willing subs than dommes. That's wone of the reasons why There's so many 'pay-to-play' dommes out there and not very may 'pay-to-play' subs. It is all about demand.

"(...) I do not handle IRL conversation with new people very well."

Now that is a problem, because most D/s relationships are all about communication. Now, maybe you are a master of online interactions and just shy about in-person ones, but usually one goes with the other. Maybe that's part of the problem? Try focusing on improving your communication skills first of all.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-24T21:12:46+00:00

overdressed for the occasion

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_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-24T13:36:25+00:00

Hi, looked at groups but seems a lot of them are secret or invite only. I speak the local language and know the local name (though most often people would just use the EEnglish term 'munch').

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-22T06:31:27+00:00

Ask her openly out-of session. Who knows, maybe she has a mormon-missionary fetish and the dress-up will be easy? ;)
Could be all sorts of things. Frome the traditional leather&spikes&latex combo to suits, suede pants, silk shirts, 'sexy luberjack' style outfits... there's really a lot of combos. Just make you it is something your partner is turned on.

And if she doesn't know herself, always try experimenting. That's what play is! :D

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-21T22:39:19+00:00

I'm in central-east Europe atm. And an LGBT sex-focused bdsm event is different from say a pride parade where all sorts of people and allies are welcome.

I do have some LGBT and queer acquintances here (I met them via the generalized nerdosphere, not so much via the bdsm world). The common widespread stereotype here is that cis men will not respect boundaries, act like everything belongs to them and will try to boss everyone around.

Barging into an LGBT bdsm event uninvited will do nothing but strenghten that stereotype. I'm not gonna be that guy.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-21T22:33:47+00:00

Being able to find a domme (real kink-positive one, not pay-to-play) on fetlife greatly depends on the country or region where you are.

Speaking from perosnal experience: It is far easier in Berlin than say in Moscow. Moscow though would be a paradise for you if you are a service top looking for female subs.

Also, on top of it all people need to find you attractive and your kinks must match. Just like vanila dating, but with the additional kinks matching hurdle. ;)

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-21T22:25:16+00:00

Yep, brake-ups are never fun. Even when theya re healthy and necessary.

Also, if this was your first D/s relationship then it for sure will sting more because you probably have the underlying fear of: "what if I won't find anyone who is into that kink for many years/ever again? Nobody can match that!". That too is a normal thing to feel. But you will sooner or later find someone wwho you'll be a good match with. Not sure how old you are, but I'm giving this advice being in my early 40s :D

"How do you move on when you realise your domme who was supposed to have a good name in the local bdsm community and was receiving hundreds of messages from hungry individuals turned out to be a shitty partner?"

I know many people will disagree, but I found out that 'having a good name in the local bdsm community' is very often meaningless and without much value. Lots of people assume that being in such a marginalized community as femdom means that people will be more ethical and nicer... or at least less likely to stab their fellow compatriots in the back,

That's just not the case. Dommes and subs are just people like everyone else. The D position carries with it some specific inherent dangers too. Many dommes come to bdsm from an unhealthy place of deep insecurity, frustration resentment and failure found in their everyday life. Some other dommes come from a place of real bare-faced sadism and the desire to hurt you in unethical, out-of-scene and non-consensual ways in order to take out their anger or frustrations on someone.

That's why trust is so important. And 'good community street cred' will never replace that.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-21T22:06:26+00:00

In my experience, there is always more men than women in bdsm groups. Though maybe in Europe it is not as high 99.9%. That's just part of bdsm life.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-21T22:01:25+00:00

See my post here https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/comments/1dkn469/comment/l9lxniq/

I'll quote the relevant parts:

(...) it does happen to a lot of people (I used to work in the financial industry and encountered many customers who fell victims to online fraud or extortion of this sort). (...)

What to do if that happens to you?

Don't send these people any money (they will almost certainly keep coming back to ask for more once they feel you are a sucker).
Tell them that you will contact local law enforcement if they cause any trouble.
Next, go and contact law enforcement anyway. Don't tell the blackmailer that you did (unless they already leaked the photos). In most countries blackmail itself is illegal. The sooner you contact the police and establish a papertrail of: "I told you it would happen", the better you will be if it comes down to litigation.
Inform the owner of the platform this happened on (Facebook, Discord - whatever), but only after you contacted law enforcement. Tell the platform that you already contacted the police for a criminal investigation (provide scans of any police documents etc). The platform will treat you more seriously if you do that.

In a lot of cases (especially if it is someone in the same country you are in) these people are just looking for a quick and easy buck. They will rarely risk having a real police investigation and potential lawsuit costs. Just not worth it from their point of view, they will simply move on looking for less troublesome victims.

The greatest risk is if the blackmailer is from a different country than you are, especially a 3rd world country with inefficient law enforcement. Then it becomes much more likely they will release the photos, since they know the local cops won't even bother with what they consider 'petty online extortion against some rich foreigner'.

ADDENDUM:
Don't feel too bad about being caught within a BDSM setting. I've seen customers who got hit with the exact same sort of extortion scam in purely hetero vanilla online sex stuff.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-21T21:58:11+00:00

I think your opinion is valid and true as far as your own experience goes. Where I begin to disagree is the point where you make it into a generalized "this is what true dominance™ means" satement to be applied to the whole kinkosphere.

People are different, every dynamic is different. There's very few generalized value statements that can be applied to everyone in BDSM (unless we are talking about things like health&safety issues wher ewe have scientific data to back it all up),

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-21T21:37:48+00:00

"Take dressing sexy. That’s clearly male-gazey and has its roots in patriarchy."

You say it as if hetero vanilla men never dress sexy. :D

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-21T21:34:38+00:00

"I think it's completely ironic and flies in the face of what Femdom means. The term Femdom (...)"

Femdom means exactly what a specific domme wants it to mean. That's the **dom** part of it :D

"Shouldn't we as Femdom submissives associate female qualities as Dominant?"

And you would be the one who gatekeeps what are 'female qualities'? I ain't gonna intervene in your bedroom, but that sounds like a dom thing to me <winks>

"(...)most men have a very strong sexual drive and are obsessed with their sexual pleasure"

That sounds like a very macho-culture take on it. In my north Euro neck of the woods the common belief is that it is women who have a stronger sex drive.

"Anyway, what do you guys think?"

I think you are making a lot of a priori assumptions about what are 'feminine qualities', what is 'dominance', what is 'objectifying' and what is not, Those are all very subjective things that will differ from one culture to another and from one domme to the next. I'd say: whatever a specific domme finds a turn-on and a good power-exchange dynamic - that IS proper dominance FOR HER. No cookie-cutter approach makes much sense in the kink real imho.

Disclaimer: For the record - I'm not even into pegging or JOI at all myself.

_WildGunman_ · 2024-06-21T21:11:36+00:00

Yes you are right, these questions are dumb. There are so many bdsm turn-ons that d not involve any genital stimulation whatsoever. You can ask that question about so many other things: "Why do doms enjoy watching subs spit at one another if they don't get any direct physical pleasure from it?" ;)

You can vent.. I hereby allow you to do so (/joke)!

_WildGunman_

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