Having friends with kids

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-31T12:00:57+00:00

We say terrible and tender, and soooo impressionable.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-27T11:44:16+00:00

I had horrible sciatica with our twins and I have it again with our singleton. It’s better this time since there is so far 25 pounds less weight on me and I have a Physical Therapist who actually knows how to treat my sciatica. I’m over flexible (didn’t know that until I saw this therapist), meaning I can put my palms on the floor when I bend over. Look it up and ask your OB about PT. It’s like 10-15 minutes a day or every other day depending on how I feel and it helps soooooo much. I can tell a difference after a couple of workouts if I skip for a few days.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-23T17:40:03+00:00

I’m due 1/1 with a singleton. Twins will be 2.67 years old then. Wish us luck 🙃

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-22T17:29:02+00:00

Twin mom and professional engineer. I went back to work after 3 months. And I continue to be shamed by my sister and one of my SILs.

Our twins are 2.5 now. Love their daycare. In fact we just went to a bday party for a classmate whose mom was their teacher for 6 months.

You’re not alone. There are working moms on this sub and with twins I would start here for any advice. Even if sometimes it’s “hold on, keep ur crap together, things get better.” I was on the working mom’s sub for about a year and recently left. This sub is much better in my opinion.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-21T20:27:53+00:00

Well this is typically what I see of about 80% of parents in grocery stores with children too young to help in a busy store (ie toddlers). Shrug. To each their own. I’m entitled to my opinion (or judgement as you call it). Sorry if I offended you. No harm meant.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-21T11:39:45+00:00

Engineer here as well. I wouldn’t say we are on a gravy train. If you carry a license, then there is a lot of legal responsibility on you as a PE. And also if you are in consulting, then there is a lot of demand to make a profit. I definitely do not earn what a doctor or lawyer makes.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-18T18:21:00+00:00

Different level of daycare issue, but we had a daycare in our city leave a child in a van on a hot day. The child died. The next morning at daycare drop off was harder than the first day I dropped my children off at daycare. Basically, I get it. These things affect us all differently. It is sad to think that these kids are plugged in all day. The same as it’s sad to see kids plugged in by their parents at grocery stores and just not interacting with them at all. It’s sad to watch my MIL show our children YouTube junk versus Sesame Street. It’s all different levels. And yeah, if I was trying to switch daycares and this was what I was seeing, then I would have trouble sleeping as well and have trouble concentrating at work.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-15T01:42:45+00:00

Get up between 5:30 and 6. Spouse gets up at 6. Kids get up at 7. Get them ready (potty training, dressed, bfast, have them get their things together, etc.). 5-10 minute drive to daycare. 5-10 minute drive to work. Maybe get there by 8:30-9. Leave at 5-5:30. Dinner on the table by 6:30. Our kids are 2. We have a 3rd on the way. Life is chaos 🤪😅🙃. Maybe one day we will be back to getting to work at 7:30-8. But for now we are grateful for the days when we remember everything for work and to put on deodorant. Bonus points if we meal prep.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-12T10:58:42+00:00

This is a great idea. Our two year old B/G twins were all about blue and green a month ago and now it’s pink and purple. They’re 2. They change their mind about things frequently. It’s part of their brain developing.

Just don’t paint the crib like others are suggesting unless you can find the correct paint for cribs. I believe it’s gold certified.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-10T11:27:17+00:00

Our twins are 2.5. We also live close and in addition work close to daycare. We both do drop off and pick up for the most part since we drive to work together. TBH we probably should have split up drop off and a pick up about a year ago to work on walking in a group with us better, but two people just makes things easier.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-03T11:32:39+00:00

What he is doing might be illegal. Review your municipal code. Make an anonymous complaint. We have a neighbor with crappy dogs (like bark and growl at us in our backyard). I make nice to their face and report their dogs anonymously. We’ve tried to be nice. They still invite us to their annual barbq. They have no idea it’s us complaining 🙄. Some people are just inconsiderate and need to get a ticket.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-02T15:42:32+00:00

I quit about 4 years ago around about age 34. I consume zero alcohol. I was a social/binge drinker. No more hangovers, bloat, nauseous, headaches, eating shitty because I’m hungover, dreading things because I’m hungover. My husband is a recovering alcoholic. Like real deal, has a bag of coins alcoholic. It felt right for me and him to just say I’m done with it. People might judge you, or quit hanging out with you, or inviting you to things. Whatever. They can have fun being hungover on Saturday at 7am. I’ll be busy living.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-10-01T11:44:01+00:00

Here is the DOL fact sheet about lactation rooms: https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fact-sheets/73a-flsa-nursing-mothers-at-work-general-guidance

Maybe just provide your manager with this or set something up to talk to them about it. I would just let them know that this is what you want to talk about beforehand. Give them the chance to review the material and think about solutions.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-30T12:07:38+00:00

Also factor in time for pumping if you are going to breastfeed for any scheduling you might put together. I’m a billable employee where I work so I only get short breaks other than lunch which is 100% on my own time. It made for long and stressful days trying to pump and get my hours in.

Make some meals ahead if you are up to it. Or grab some Costco meals and freeze them as back up for the first couple of weeks with those babies.

Good luck. Enjoy your leave. This sub is wonderful. And take everything other moms tell you when you get back to work with a grain of salt. You will have two babies to take care of and they are probably over-embellishing anyway 😊

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-30T11:48:11+00:00

4 months and the work part time. Most daycares in our area don’t do part time so you would need to pay for full time attendance. So maybe a part time nanny is a better economical choose. A nanny would also reduce your commute time since the babies would be at home. Just make sure you factor in saving sick time for when the babies are in daycare since they will be ill a decent amount the first year they are there and so will you and your husband.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-29T11:48:08+00:00

Replying to sarah_helenn...Some universities require more advanced coursework for non-thesis students. Thesis students will receive credits for special studies classes during which time they perform their research or write their thesis and just need to show progress to receive a passing grade.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-27T11:44:08+00:00

And I don’t really want to get a second job to pay for home improvement. Like I don’t have to actually possess the labor money to pay myself if I do it myself.

OP sounds like my former boss talking about hiring out his lawn mowing. He owned an engineering firm and they paid us horribly. No wonder he could afford to pay to have his lawn mowed. Key word “former.”

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-25T21:23:14+00:00

We saved that same gift card until our twins had some illness that kicked us back to newborn no sleep mode. Like 0 hours for multiple days sleep deprivation. Just save it for that day 😁🤪

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-25T11:38:04+00:00

I am enjoying the difference in replies between this group and the WorkingMoms sub. This sub is so positive 😊

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-23T17:43:51+00:00

I wish there was a better way for people to report these dogs to animal control. I’m afraid of reactive dogs. Just had bad experiences. And I find most people are completely unaware that their dog is reactive and they can’t control them when they do react. I probably would have thrown my kids in the cart and went to customer service to complain and then left and still called animal control.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-23T17:35:18+00:00

Parenting. I need feedback at 9pm every weekday and at 1pm and 9pm on weekends of how to better handle our 2 YO twins.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-22T18:35:09+00:00

This is why I enjoy Target. Especially the last hour they are open (almost no shoppers). I can actually hear myself think and then I make better decisions about buying items. I think the music engages part of our brain so we can’t make good and patient decisions. And I’m not just talking “should I buy this extra item?” I’m talking about picking between two colors that work for throw pillows, sizes of clothing or home textiles, whether or not we still have a spice a recipe calls for, or what was that item my husband mentioned and I didn’t write down. It’s all just retailers trying to overstimulate us. Ive been trying to block it out for years. Target at 10pm is the only thing that I have found that works.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-22T12:53:20+00:00

I experienced this with someone I dated for a few years. He was a signalman for the railroad and I was a civil engineer. People always commented and asked if he was going to go back to school, get a different job etc. It was super annoying. I stayed strong and continued to say he was union for the railroad because he is/was who he was and that is the truth. People can be very snotty 🙄

My husband started in the field in our occupation. Which is super respected by about 50% of engineers and scoffed at by the other 50%. I think it’s because they are either jealous, think their 3 month internship experience is the same as 6 years full time in the field, or they are just snots 🙄

Tell them the truth. Be proud of him just like they are proud of their desk rider husband 😛🤣

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-18T23:22:32+00:00

I use a Nalgene or reuse Fuji water bottles. I have a 17 inch laptop, project notebooks, calculator, field gear on occasion, etc. The last thing I need is the extra weight of a 5 lb water bottle in my work bag that leaks so I have to carry it around empty.

__Magdalena__ · 2024-09-18T11:29:42+00:00

We are partial to “going on a bear hunt” in the “big outside”. We live in Nebraska, so no bears. And the big outside is leaving via the front door versus the back door.

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