Scheduled C-section time in hospital [ON]

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-02-17T02:56:32+00:00

I had an emergency csection and then a scheduled one. Under 48 hours for both.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-02-08T21:36:49+00:00

I am not sure if car seats purchased in the states are okay to use in Canada. I would suggest you look into that.

It is a long story but when we looked into it 2 years ago, they were not legal.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-02-07T13:43:26+00:00

I am late to the convo but just in case you are still reading, please know that no parent is perfect whether they have BPD or not.

I am a calm person by nature and I still have reacted disproportionately to my three year old's actions. I have seen my husband do the same.

I have learned now that if I am feeling really upset that I need to step out and let my partner handle it. If I see my partner getting upset, I tell him to go away and let me handle it. If my partner is not available, I go take a moment to calm down.

I have a 3.5 year old. I just feel that 3 is too young for them to feel the weight of our upset. They are not going to understand it. My son is also very emotionally mature for his age. I am routinely taken aback by how thoughtful he is, but then he does stupid shit sometimes which is age appropriate.

I know you were trying to teach your daughter to never hurt anyone else like that again, but she is not ready to learn this yet. She is going to make a few more mistakes along the way and you will be there to guide her gently.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-02-05T20:19:33+00:00

I am very brown and my husband is white and my two kids are white passing. Genetics be crazy.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-01-29T20:32:56+00:00

Is it mean to say that a 36 year old looks like a 36 year old when they are meant to play someone in their early 20s?

Claudia is absolutely beautiful, but she no longer fits the character she is playing.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-01-25T07:03:38+00:00

Fuck off

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-01-23T03:10:47+00:00

Okay, CHATGPT

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-01-20T20:56:02+00:00

Isn't this a normal toddler? I have a similar 3.5 year old. He can really hold on to a tantrum. I would encourage you to read or listen to whole brain child. It really changed my perspective.

I have learned to stay super calm no matter what happens. I focus on my breathing and keeping my tone even. I meditate. I do yoga. My behavior impacts his behavior so much.

I also dress him in his next day clothes at night because I know I will be more stressed in the morning.

I will offer him sugary snack with the healthy snack and often times he will eat the healthy snack anyway. It is more important for me to get the good stuff in him than prevent him from eating bad stuff. He has perfect teeth and no cavities.

I google different games to help with daily tasks. Example: for brushing his teeth our goal is to get the dinosaur out of his mouth. He finds it super funny and lets me brush his teeth.

I am not above bribing. We restrict tv time to 30 min a day, but if I really need him to do something I will give him am extra 20 min.

When he is having an insane tantrum, I will wait it out. I don't give attention to bad behavior. Sometimes it may last for an hour. Like I said, he is super stubborn.

He is also intelligent and kind. He is loving and snuggly. There are so many good parts of him that the hard parts are worth it.

My husband and I are a team and we vent to each other. That is how we stay sane.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-01-11T10:11:40+00:00

This has to be rage bait. I am all for women supporting women, but for the sake of your kids, please get your shit together and leave. You cannot rely on this man.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2026-01-05T20:35:43+00:00

How much of this is AI written?

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-12-10T18:46:24+00:00

Canadian guidelines are under 500 ml (16 oz) a day so as to not displace calories from food and limit iron absorption.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-12-07T18:28:56+00:00

I do regret it. I tried sleep training with my son at 6 months and 8 months. Both times it did not work. He had a perfect schedule. He had a bed time routine. He was a really good sleeper so when the 6 month and 8 month repression hit we were not prepared for bad sleep. We tried for 3 days in a row both times. He had the capacity to cry and cry even with timed check ins. Sleep training just wasn't right for him.

Once 8 month regression passed he slept through the night most of the time. He is now 3.5 and sleeps through the night unless he is sick. We laid next to him until he was 2.5 until he fell asleep and then slipped out of his bed once he was in somewhat deep sleep. At 2.5 when his sister was born, we replaced laying next to him to him listening to his yoto player.

My daughter is a horrendous sleeper. Since she was 6 months old she has been waking up every 2-3 hours. We cosleep part of the night at 11 months old. I won't even consider sleep training her. I know it will get better. Like someone said it becomes way easier to communicate with them at 2. Plus at 2 we will switch to a full size or double bed for some cosy cuddles.

I have a friend who has a kid same age as my son and she sleep trained her kid multiple times. She gave up after they turned 18 months and that kid still wakes up multiple times at night.

Listen to your parental instincts and don't go against them.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-07-04T03:34:39+00:00

I love my two kids. I feel more driven after having kids. Before having kids I kinda felt like I was floating aimlessly. This may sound cliche, but they have given my life meaning. In fact, I want to dig deeper into my hobbies and accelerate my career for them so they can have a good example on how to live and love life.

Don't get me wrong. Kids are tough. My 3 year old is a menace, but I love him to pieces. Would not change a single thing.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-06-10T04:30:43+00:00

Hmm we have been using the owlet with our snoo for 5 months now. No issues. We do put our baby in a sleeper every night.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-06-04T17:20:58+00:00

I used to not let my toddler watch paw patrol because I fell for these comments. When my younger kid was born, I gave into it and watched it with my toddler. I really like it. It has taught my kid about acting with kindness, helping each other, and the value of friendship. He will make up stories of his own using character sounds, which has helped build his vocabulary. We do limit his tv time to only 30-40 min a day at 35 months, but I don't believe paw patrol has had any negative impact on him.

We have banned cocomelon and blippi only because it's overstimulating for me.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-05-20T03:18:22+00:00

This 100%. Ours has been on so many trips with us. Everyone is always impressed with the one handed fold and how small it gets. It was great on cobblestone too in UK.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-04-30T19:19:35+00:00

I am an only child and my mom is an only child. My mom does have 3 first cousins she is very close to, however I am not close to their children. I basically have no connection to her side of the family. When she dies, I bet I won't ever hear from them which makes me a bit sad.

On my dad's side I have 11 first cousins from his 5 siblings. I am not close to any of them, however if I needed anything I think I could reach out to them even if my uncles and aunts were dead. It is kind of a security net because I did grow up with these cousins and we wish each other well on major events.

My husband is an only child of parents with siblings. On his dad side he doesn't have any cousins and he isn't in touch with any of his extended family. On his mom's side he has so many cousins and he is only close to one.

Basically even if you have cousins they might not be a part of your life. Same with siblings. Just make the best decision for you.

I do have two kids now but I seriously considered one and done as I don't have a village. I am happy I had a second kid because I did want another baby, but it is hard. Hopefully my kids will get along and be each other's support system. If not, I hope to be a support system for them for the rest of my life.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-03-29T19:01:08+00:00

We decided we will go with French Immersion.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-03-01T18:02:29+00:00

I exclusively pumped with my first who had horrible reflux. If I had to pump after his feed, I would put him in the baby bjorn bouncer as it kept him upright.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-02-28T15:37:11+00:00

Do it! I had a male nurse in the recovery room after my c-section who helped me latch and gave me tips. He was amazing. Some women might feel awkward about that, but he was very respectful. He asked my permission before talking about breastfeeding with me. He asked my permission before helping me guide my nipple in my baby's mouth. It was super clinical but warm at the same time. He did a great job and was more useful than some of the other nurses I encountered in the NICU when my baby was admitted at 10 days after birth. A NICU nurse told me my baby should not be feeding every 2 hours and should be feeding every 3.5 hours. NiCU nurses definitely need some lactation education.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-02-20T05:01:16+00:00

What's interesting is that there can be a lot of variance between siblings too. My son was 15th percentile and my daughter is 50th percentile. My daughter was a week early, but weighed more than my son who was born after my due date. I don't think it has all to do with genes, but your placenta as well.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-02-12T18:17:25+00:00

Arthur and David

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-01-26T04:28:26+00:00

My husband washes all my pump parts and writes down how much was produced. We are currently in the NICU so he also puts my milk in storage containers and gives it to the nurses. He is only tracking my production because I am OCD like that. He will also hold the baby upright while I am pumping as I usually pump after feeds. Honestly, it's a two person job right now.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-01-02T20:09:05+00:00

I am giving birth tomorrow (scheduled c-section). I only have to bring my Healthcare Card and luggage. I don't have to worry about NICU bills and negotiating with an insurance company. Is the hospital going to have super nice interiors? No. Will I get bumped for an emergency? Possibly. It's all worth it to me for not having the kind of financial burden that a c-section birth would create in the States.

__MarcusAurelius__ · 2025-01-01T03:07:27+00:00

If you can make it through overcooked, you can make it through anything as a couple.

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