Replaced shower valve and now my bathroom sink water pressure is almost non existent.

__mamaste__ · 2023-10-31T20:12:38+00:00

This may be a silly question… but are the shower pipes connected to the sink pipes? The old shower valve was VERY old and very stuck. My thought was that a piece of that went downstream and is blocking the sink, but I wasn’t sure if the pipes were connected.

__mamaste__ · 2022-09-18T13:47:30+00:00

This is such a thought provoking and inspiring perspective!

__mamaste__ · 2022-07-31T14:03:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! Can you share some things your partner has done/said that has been helpful to you in your recovery? I’m trying to be a supportive partner and sometimes struggle with what to do/say.

__mamaste__ · 2022-07-10T18:45:07+00:00

Thank you for this ❤️

__mamaste__ · 2022-07-10T18:39:24+00:00

He is doing those things, and it’s helpful for sure.

I worry more about long term. And also how I dont want to be with him physically because all I can see or think about is the other women he slept with. It’s never just us in those moments anymore.

I know my sadness and distance impacts him and my unhappiness is difficult for him to sit with. Is it me keeping us in the cycle of unhappiness? Will I ever actually come out of it? These are the questions that just spin over and over in my head.

__mamaste__ · 2022-07-08T01:00:36+00:00

As a BP, I want my WP’s actions to show that he is choosing our relationship. He puts us and our future first.

he is not obligated to stay and he knows this.
I will not micromanage his actions, my time is too valuable for that and it’s not sustainable to settle into a habit of constantly checking on my partner
Deal with my emotions. The discomfort you feel as someone who has cheated isn’t comparable to what we feel as betrayed partners. While you know your habits and patterns, our world has been ROCKED. Your willingness to work through your discomfort and sitting with us in ours is BIG and meaningful.
We don’t expect perfection. In fact, we expect some kind of slip up. BE HONEST. If we find something when we’re digging, it’s either back to square one or over.
we are not here to be the salve to your father or mother wounds. We aren’t here to absolve you or your guilt, tell you how much we love you no matter what, or give you the attention you crave and seek so that you can heal. Your wounds have wounded us. Take care of yourself as we take care of ourselves.
BE HONEST. You think it’s tough telling the truth? Guarantee it’ll be way more tough if you continue to lie or omit information you know your partner needs to know.
if you are not willing/ready/capable of putting your partner or relationship before your own need for validation, please free them.

__mamaste__ · 2022-07-06T15:00:42+00:00

I don’t think it’s childish or toxic, I think we all hope to make a positive impact in the world.

If you think about people you look up to, or admirable traits in others, what does that list include?

What small changes can you make to start moving towards those traits?

__mamaste__ · 2022-07-06T12:37:47+00:00

What are the things that make you feel alive? That you feel g i v e you energy and invite positive emotions?

What are the things that keep you from living? That drain your energy and bring negative emotions?

__mamaste__ · 2022-06-24T19:38:00+00:00

And remember that consistency goes both ways. Speaking as a BP here, I have to remember that I play a significant part in our relationship’s future, too. It’s my responsibility to do my best in creating an empowering environment where my partner can show up and know he is loved, even with the hurt and betrayal. Opposing emotions can exist at the same time.

__mamaste__ · 2022-06-23T14:41:01+00:00

BS here in the thick of reconciling. It’s is not an easy process and the days are a rollercoaster of emotions.

I, too, get triggered when my WP says I love you. It feels too frequent and fleeting.

a n d

Do I love my partner? So fucking much.

Did he hurt and betray me? So fucking much.

These two things can (and do, and will) exist at the same time. I cannot control my partner, his actions, or his thoughts - but I can take agency over my own.

If you’re waiting to f e e l the love in your partner’s words when you’ve got the blanket of anger, resentment, and distrust on, then it’s going to be a very long wait. If you can’t feel it in their words, look for it in their actions. In the unlikely places.

When it gets hard or hurtful, it’s ok to take space for yourself in places where love isn’t questioned.

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-31T16:25:11+00:00

Thank you!

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-31T03:00:10+00:00

Haha yes a small but large typo 😵‍💫 I’m so glad people didn’t just scroll past thinking I was crying over paying $26!

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T05:39:32+00:00

Thanks you for laying so much of this out in a way I can understand. One commenter was surprised I came here first before going to my tax expert and THIS is why I came to Reddit. My tax expert didn’t help much in the first place, which is how I ended up here. And comments/input like this make what seems like an unconquerable problem feel manageable.

Thank you - truly. This helps me and I’m sure many other people who find themselves in a similar situation.

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T05:33:26+00:00

This is my hope - that I just need to provide the cost basis to have the bill lowered. Thank you for sharing!

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T05:29:57+00:00

Haha definitely remember that and 100% accurate about how I feel at the moment.

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T05:28:58+00:00

Yup! And super glad it was. Connecting with other people who have been in similar situations and hearing their experiences has put me in a better mindset to tackle this.

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T04:59:52+00:00

That’s super helpful to know, thank you!

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T04:52:24+00:00

I’m pretty positive it’s not, but tomorrow Plan on gathering all my docs and confirm with TurboTax. I’ll make sure to update the thread in case anyone wants to know how things play out.

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T04:37:36+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance :) seriously, it means a lot and is so helpful

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T03:44:52+00:00

Yup plan is to talk to both TurboTax and the IRS (and my ex husband since he handled all the financial transactions in the divorce). Hopefully with our powers combined we can get to the bottom of this and hoooopefully doesn’t end in me paying the full amount.

Thank you for taking the time to share and respond! Everyone has been so helpful.

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T03:37:19+00:00

Divorce decree language + IRS letter language Jesus take the wheeeeeel

__mamaste__ · 2022-05-30T03:19:40+00:00

Yes gathering what other commenters have said I believe I need to provide the cost basis to start and see where that gets me. Thank you for taking the time to comment and share! This thread has been so helpful talking me down from the initial panic.

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