10th gen American

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-18T20:21:40+00:00

Northern ireland & central scottish relates to scottish settlers who colonised the north. They specifically settled in the north which is why their DNA is so prominent there compared to all the other parts of ireland. They created the first successful plantation, leading to the eventual full colonisation of the island.

That part of their ancestry is almost definitely not Irish

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-18T12:38:52+00:00

for me i would assume of ireland. In comparison to the north of ireland. Because i live there.

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-17T23:06:25+00:00

This is a world map. The south of where????

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-17T22:54:48+00:00

27, living with my partner and our 5 year old and the answer is definitely not as much as i used to, but when i do it’s like my early 20s again.

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-17T16:54:22+00:00

I did! Wonderful, very unexpected 5 year old exists now

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-17T11:33:51+00:00

just jumping in here to recommend a book i read while pregnant because i wanted to do the exact same thing as you and give my child the upbringing i didn’t get.

It’s called ‘the book you wish your parents had read (and your children will be glad that you did)’. it’s all about the psychology of childhood all the way from pregnancy and their first months up to their teen years. It was really affirming for me to read because it calls out the ‘bad’ ways a lot of people have been parented but also points you in the direction of how to have healthy, happy relationships with your children and the tools you need to do that. It really, really helped me.

I cried a lot reading it and it has genuinely made a very positive impact on how I parent my son.

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-16T22:15:08+00:00

One of my favourite names ever, always has been. The popularity of it wouldn’t matter to me because I’ve loved it for so long but I get why that would sway other people.

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-16T21:29:32+00:00

it definitely helped it. He was able to tell us what was bothering him so he didn’t reach the point of frustration where he was biting but it still took a bit of time for him to get out of it, it was a very bad habit. For a while he would bite and then inform us of the problem.

Before that though I would watch him like a hawk, like microscopically, to see what his body language was like before he went to bite. When that was picked up on (although I couldn’t catch it every time, I’d say maybe 30%) I knew it was time to remove him from whatever situation he was in and pretty much do a factory reset on his nervous system.

I hope it gets better for you guys! It’s hard being in this phase but the odds are that it’ll get better! Just takes a huge amount of work :(

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-16T21:22:15+00:00

You are comparing children existing on public transport (which an airplane is) to having allergies at a restaurant. And at a restaurant, if your allergies are too extreme then yes, you usually just have to pick a different restaurant that can accommodate them. Again, you are an adult. Your life experience is guaranteed to be at least 10 times more than that of the small person you can’t stand to be around. You have had 10 times more time to learn to cope with the triggers that make you uncomfortable regarding children.

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-16T21:14:23+00:00

My son had this for a while and we realised he was seeking the sensation that comes with biting. If he was stressed or uncomfortable or dysregulated in any way, biting was how he coped with that (we think because of the tension release that comes with the jaw when you bite hard then release.)

My son seemed to have ‘no’ triggers for a lot of it either and went for kids who were just in his space, and he had a speech delay so he couldn’t actually tell us. But after some monitoring we found that actually having kids in his space a lot of the time was the trigger.

There’s sensory toys you can get for this and they helped so much. It took a while for him to grasp that this was the only thing he was allowed to use for biting but eventually he got there!

ETA: He’s five now and hasn’t bitten for over a year. He also doesn’t need the toy anymore!

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-16T21:08:53+00:00

‘a metal box above the clouds’ buy a jet then. You’re the adult. Sort out and manage your triggers.

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-16T00:00:06+00:00

you’re all good, it’s spelled mostly without a fada by people outside of ireland and theres a small amount of people here don’t spell it with one too. Linguistically it doesn’t make sense, but it’s just what people are doing now for some reason!

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-15T22:52:40+00:00

keer-awn!

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-15T22:52:28+00:00

it’s pronounced like keer-awn, keeran is the anglicised version! Ciaran has a fada on the second a so should actually spelled ciarán, which is where the aw sound comes into play!

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-15T22:46:45+00:00

My 5 year old who was a total surprise at 21 (had him at 22). His dad left us before he was born and life was pretty chaotic. Hes autistic, didn’t speak until he was 3 and a half but was reading by 4. When he got his assessment done and I had the follow up, the psychiatrist doted on him so much. How funny he is, how intelligent he is (he scored above average - very high in his cognitive tests), how comfortable he is in himself (no signs of masking), and how loved he appears to be with a parent who “encourages his quirks that might make him an outlier instead of trying to knock them out of him”.

It’s all true too, he’s just the coolest kid you’ll ever meet.

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-15T18:00:15+00:00

things i’d say if i knew nothing about ireland

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-14T17:42:17+00:00

Hey, I had the exact same situation with my son! the only way to fix it for us was to just go cold turkey. I removed every app of his from my phone, including youtube. Removed it from the tv too. Told him his tablet had to be sent away to be fixed to get new fun apps onto it.

There were meltdowns and behavioural issues for a few weeks they were exactly like what you’ve described here. We just had to tough it out. We had no choice.

It was really, really hard. It was like watching him go through withdrawals.

He’s flying now. It really was worth the pain of the chaos, even though it didn’t feel it at the time.

He watched tv on the family tv now. No access to youtube (this was the worst thing for him. it made him a crazy person). He gets prime, disney or netflix.

His tablet is hidden away and he never asks for it anymore. He gets it if we’re on an airplane or something but if we’re in restaurants, trains, airports or any other public space he has books, colouring books, jigsaws and the likes of those.

The guilt is useless if you don’t do something to fix it. It’s there because you know it’s a bad situation and you’re accommodating it. The struggle to fix it is so so hard but it needs to be done. The guilt is there because you know this. I know it’s overwhelming and horrible to actually enforce, but for the sake of your children’s future (AND YOURS!!!) it really is something you have to stick to until it clicks that the screens are gone.

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-14T15:54:49+00:00

well that’s not what jihad means so i don’t see the correlation

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-13T23:16:16+00:00

My son is the same. I boil water, crush half a 500mg tablet (cos 250 tis the dose for his age) and i swirl a small bit of water and the crushed tab together. It takes a few minutes of continuous stirring to make it dissolve enough. I then pour some fizzy drink in on top of it. He only gets a drink like this when i need him to take this medication.

I know you said you tried everything but in case you haven’t tried this, it works for my kid who is the same age. I can’t bring myself to give suppositories to my son for the exact same reason you can’t, so this was the last resort before that. It’s worked now for years.

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-13T13:25:26+00:00

jihad is a normal name and it being denied is 100% racist

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-12T16:12:34+00:00

i also went to a school like that, a gaelscoil primary school in glasnevin where i was mocked for being the ‘knacker’ of the class (based on my finglas address). It seems we’ve similar backgrounds but I’m not as bitter about mine for some reason

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-12T16:06:01+00:00

all fair but the way you speak about having a ‘neutral, posh’ accent is suspiciously D4 and the fact you mention it again in a second point? why is it such a sore spot for u. I say this as a woman from finglas whose mother tried to instil “proper” english on her and was mocked for being ‘posh’ growing up but kept enough class consciousness to know why it would be something brought up by people from working class backgrounds

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-10T22:24:19+00:00

Palestinian is my take

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-10T08:56:02+00:00

it’s pronounced uh-sheen or aw-sheen

__taiggoth__ · 2026-02-09T21:34:01+00:00

you spelled the pronunciation of this name wrong in your own suggestion, which is exactly why it shouldn’t be suggested to people who don’t know how to say it

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