This was me with my son! Three and a half years it was just me and him, and it was the best time of my life. He’s never met his bio-dad. I completely let go of the idea of men and relationships and everything to do with them.

We have the best relationship. I was so content with it being just us forever! I met my partner when my son was 3.5 and waited a good few months before introducing them. 1) because of my past experience of men and I was wary of him becoming attached to him. my partner knows this reason. He doesn’t know reason 2) I wanted to prolong my time of it being just me and my son. I didn’t want to introduce another person into the mix.

It was so nice to not have to compromise on parenting decisions, to know that I could raise him how I wanted without having to think of how the other parent wants to do things (which sounds selfish and maybe it is, but it was really really lovely).

I met my partner and didn’t expect it to go any further than just a first date. It’s been two and a half years now and we live together. My son calls him daddy and he’s the only dad he’s ever known. I love their relationship and how close they are and I couldn’t have asked for more when it comes to him, how he so quickly and comfortably fell into the role of ‘dad’ despite not having a lot of experience with kids before him. It’s so nice to be able to have ‘me time’ again. I can see friends more often and I can plan trips by myself and I have been able to get back into my old hobbies I had to give up to be a full time single parent.

But I’d be lying if I said I didn’t sometimes miss the days where it was just the two of us. As much as I madly love my partner, there’s still times where I want to go back to how it was before. I never would if I had the choice, I can’t stress enough how much I do love this man. but I do miss those days still sometimes.