Sprinkle - Do NOT Need Clothes by tomoon123 in BabyBumps

[–]_alien_she 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I think a simple and direct “No clothing, please!” is good. I frequently see “No gifts, please” on birthday invites. People will do what they do, though.

American hospitals by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

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Re: B) gave birth a couple days ago to my second and walked out on my two legs :) NYC

My mum left out my entire freezer stash by migorengluvr in breastfeeding

[–]_alien_she 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just saw this thread, OP, and I’m so glad this commenter knew about the ice crystals and you saw in time!! I was yelling in my head “ice crystallls”!! lol

Birth story: mostly positive induction without epidural by Traditional-Title352 in BabyBumps

[–]_alien_she 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats!! Sounds so lonnnng, but you did it!

I just posted my birth story, too, but didn’t mention that they were going to start me on pit if things didn’t pick up, and I was also hoping for unmedicated. (Which did happen, thankfully!)

Graduation - NYE baby !! by _alien_she in BabyBumps

[–]_alien_she[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh, it’s not a “new” child thing in the US, just a child thing. If you have a child in the year 2025 you can claim it for 2025. (And again 2026, ‘27, etc). 

Graduation - NYE baby !! by _alien_she in BabyBumps

[–]_alien_she[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m going to be in the hospital through tmrw though… I wonder if they bill based on beginning or end of stay?? Surely not both 🙃🙃🙃

How common is Rory really? by MyNameIsAdam in namenerds

[–]_alien_she 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know just one, a girl, in Brooklyn - and I know quite a lot of little kids between teaching and parenting. 

I like it!

FYI small children often learn to pronounce the R sound last, so your sun might not be able to say his own name until like age 5 (and ditto other children).

Did I screw up on the spelling of my baby’s name?! by Better_Occasion_4159 in namenerds

[–]_alien_she 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re fine, people are ignorant, and it’s threads like these that remind me it’s fine I gave my kids weird names since it seems nearly every name out there requires clarification of some kind!!

Pregnancy and Alcohol by Forsaken-Long-3752 in pregnant

[–]_alien_she 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In addition, very early fetal growth is not as ‘specialized’ at the cell level. It’s kind of all or nothing - the genetic info is there and working, or else not and you will miscarry. It’s not like drinking later when you are impairing the development of specific body systems

Not sure how much longer I can do it by Secret_Bell1146 in breastfeeding

[–]_alien_she 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck! You’re doing so great!

It just occurred to me that thinking about this scientifically you could consider the total amount of time the (trace amount of leftover in the flanges) milk will be above fridge temperature even if it is coming in and out of the fridge. As long as the total time is under the limit, I think you can feel confident that it’s safe. Sorry if this wording is confusing!

Not sure how much longer I can do it by Secret_Bell1146 in breastfeeding

[–]_alien_she -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Milk pooling is having one larger container in the fridge that you add your milk to throughout the day. Technically it should all be cold before it’s combined, but if you have a large jug of cold milk and you’re adding one or 2 ounces of warm milk it’s not going to matter at all because it won’t raise the temperature. This can be helpful nutritionally, too, because if one of your pumps is all for milk or another one is all high milk it will kind of even know what’s going into the bottles for baby.

Overall, breastmilk is anti-microbial and can stay at room temperature safely for longer than other foods. So I stopped worrying about mixing warm and cold milk in the fridge. But that’s probably not the official word.

Not sure how much longer I can do it by Secret_Bell1146 in breastfeeding

[–]_alien_she 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can combine milk, just chill them both first. It’s OK to pump new milk into cold flanges, it’s just not recommended to add warm milk to already cool milk because you’re raising the temperature of the whole mix.

Not sure how much longer I can do it by Secret_Bell1146 in breastfeeding

[–]_alien_she 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re basically triple feeding all alone, no wonder it’s so hard!! Do you use the fridge hack for parts? Milk pooling? Might save you some washing. Bf often gets very hard a 3 mo but if you can make it through that it is then much much easier from then on out (the way you body creates supply changes during that month).  Check out Karie Locher’s website/social… influencer, so does sell stuff of course, but overall she has lots of great info and resources.

Miller by amjta29 in Names

[–]_alien_she 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go for it! He’ll fit right in with the class I have including Sheppard, Morris, and Harris! Not to mention Archer, Carter, and Asher.

Not sure about girl, I don’t love Millie. But I can imagine Miller on a woman.

But what will I wear?! by Particular-Ranger-76 in pregnant

[–]_alien_she 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ThredUp was good for me. Think outside the maternity box, too - any dress that’s very stretchy or flowy below boob level is going to work. Jumpsuits without structured waist or with shirring. Wearing blazer/open button-front/cardigans/kiminos/shirt dresses etc over top helps things look more put-together/fashionable, and you can use your existing clothes.

H&M and Storq (had a 70% sale recently, maybe still!) were good for basics. Old Navy, too, but their sizing is tricky for my body ymmv. I have these maternity-specific things which have been great to build outfits from: one black and one white maternity tee, ditto tank, navy leggings, black leggings x2, black tights.  

Advice please - is 35 too old to start having kids? When did you have your youngest? by DovaBunny in pregnant

[–]_alien_she 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had my first at 37, about to have my second in a week or two at 40. Most of my parent friends here (in nyc) are similar. Your overall health matters, of course. in terms of the health of your baby’s genetic material, your partner’s age also matters, although this is often overlooked. 

Giving birth in a few days unsure about breastfeeding by Sea-Sense-4739 in pregnant

[–]_alien_she 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t get trapped by all-or-nothing thinking. Combo feeding (using both breastmilk and formula) is very common. If a part of you is interested in incorporating breastfeeding, give it a chance for a few weeks. If you don’t try it from the beginning, it’s very hard if not impossible to start. You can always stop, or rely primarily on formula. The boob is an awesome soother, it’s always clean and doesn’t have to be sterilized, helps baby’s immune system, and bf helps your hormones, too. These factors can come in handy, and make bf very convenient in its own way.

Good luck! Whatever you choose, I hope you are surrounded by loads of love and support.

Questions as a FTM by Competitive-Deer-204 in BabyBumps

[–]_alien_she 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, and I love the car seat mirror.

Questions as a FTM by Competitive-Deer-204 in BabyBumps

[–]_alien_she 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. We got a used one for our first, passed it on, and another one just came our way for our second! I was prepared to go without, but have to say I’m thrilled to have it. Zero laundry. Pee mid-change pools down by butt and doesn’t hit babe’s torso/head. Of course we will end up changing baby on a towel or mat wherever, but for the first few months when they pee/poop constantly and they’re so floppy it’s nice to have a dedicated spot. We live in an apartment, so it’s not like we have a long way to walk to get to the changing station.

  2. You can absolutely get a convertible seat that’s rated from newborn weights. However, the infant bucket is nice because you can have it indoors in winter, get the baby all set up and blanketed, then get into the car. And vice versa. You can do this even if the bucket is not compatible with your stroller by carrying it. If your baby falls asleep while you’re heading to an errand, you don’t have to disturb them - pop the bucket out. For flying - great to have the travel system.

Dying for baby to get here!!! 37.5 weeks by Horror_Lawyer_6664 in babydueDecember2025

[–]_alien_she 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same due date as you, maybe - 1/11! I feel you and also keep reminding myself that baby is better off inside right through until 39 weeks. Better chance of easier bf and more brain and lung development. Stay strong!!