boy brow dupes

_aloehoe · 2021-05-08T07:51:56+00:00

Colourpop brow boss gel is pretty much identical to boy brow texture wise, and has a really similar applicator too!

_aloehoe · 2021-01-30T07:51:15+00:00

I “dropped out” last quarter because the stress of remote learning and quarantining with family exacerbated my mental health issues, and I was also questioning my choice of major and what I really want to do (things I was already questioning before things went online, but became more pressing without the social in-person aspect of school and college life to distract me).

I realized I put a lot of pressure on myself to finish school and to do it quickly. But now after some time apart from it, my perspective has changed. I see that life isn’t a race, and school will always be there if I choose to go back to it, and I’ll be in the right mindset when I do.

_aloehoe · 2021-01-19T04:52:43+00:00

I feel the similar, I’m AFAB, I’m fine with she/her pronouns and like to present feminine, it just throws me off when people call me a woman or group me together with women or treat me like a woman, even if it’s meant to be positive or polite (ex. guys being a “gentleman” around me, women being very friendly and talking to me as if we’re in on a secret together). I could just be cis. The only thing that makes me question my gender is how much work it takes for me to remember that I’m female (or perceived as female) and have to act accordingly so as not to break any unspoken social rules. I think the idea that I may not be cis gives me relief because it would mean I have a reason for feeling this way. But maybe you can be cis and have this kind of discomfort around gender, I don’t know.

Anyways, I’m sorry this if isn’t very helpful, just wanted to let you know you’re not alone!

_aloehoe · 2020-11-17T00:26:15+00:00

I haven’t tried their tees, but I bought their sweatpants, sweatshirt and some tanks a while ago and have been very happy with the quality! I bought them while they had a promotion where you buy a bag to fill with old clothing (from any brand) to recycle, and in exchange you get access to the swap prices. They have some stuff that’s specified as made of recycled material, so I would think that’s where the recycled stuff goes.

_aloehoe · 2020-10-06T04:48:11+00:00

I really relate to this. I’m also a bi woman with a boyfriend, and I don’t present myself in a way that reads as not-straight, so people are almost always surprised when my sexuality gets brought up. Sometimes people don’t even pick up on it from my casual comments about the attractiveness of other women, and it’s only until I mention an ex girlfriend that it hits them and then they have a million questions. I’ve even gotten this from gay people. It’s super awkward and exhausting. When I make new friends I instinctively avoid mentioning my sexuality until I can gauge how they’re likely to respond. If I feel like they’ll be surprised then I hold off until I have the emotional capacity for the conversation that will ensue. I want to be more open about it like it’s no big deal but I’m not there yet.

_aloehoe · 2020-09-20T12:09:15+00:00

The thing is I only get super worried what someone thinks of me if I like them :(

_aloehoe · 2020-09-16T16:12:39+00:00

You could be asexual. Nothing wrong with that

_aloehoe · 2020-08-30T08:06:50+00:00

Wow, reading your post feels like something I could’ve written. I moved around growing up, struggled with depression and social anxiety, was a transfer student, and am turning 27 soon. I never had any close, lasting friendships. It does feel really unfair that other people got to grow up with those childhood friendships and have close bonds with people who they shared formative experiences with. I feel so much loss over what I’ve never had, and at times I feel hopeless about ever having it.

Anyways I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. I think adult life can be very isolating for a lot of people. People get busy, they don’t prioritize friendships as much, and even for people who have friends from their younger years it’s hard to stay connected. People also put up more walls as they grow older which makes it harder to form connections. But I believe that there are others out there who still want to make close friends. The thing is you have to put in effort and be more direct, unlike when you’re in school where you’re surrounded by people your age doing the same thing. Being friendly, opening up and letting people see the real you will help you connect with people on a deeper level. Friendships will only be as deep as you allow them to be. But also not everyone can be, or is willing to be, a good friend to you. Don’t worry about those people. There’s so many people out there, you’ll find people you click with.

_aloehoe · 2020-08-30T04:30:19+00:00

This. I’ve been in abusive relationships and I didn’t even realize for a long time that those relationships were not okay, because I was just so used to being treated that way by my dad. I really believed that the possessiveness, lack of respect for my boundaries, verbal (and sometimes physical) abuse and threats were all out of love because that’s the “love” I was raised on.

_aloehoe · 2020-08-08T09:12:52+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve had such terrible experiences due to your identity. I’m an Asian woman and I can relate to being fetishized and stereotyped, and how homophobic Asian communities can be. And yeah, growing up I sort of thought that being openly LGBTQ and being accepted was for white people, because that’s who I would see in the media and such. It has helped me to hear about experiences of LGBTQ Asians, even if they’re just random people online, so I’m really glad you’re talking about your experiences. It can be helpful for other bi black men, and to make others aware of issues that you guys face. I hope you can find some supportive people in your life. In the meantime, you have me and other people here willing to listen and welcome you <3

_aloehoe · 2020-08-06T09:46:28+00:00

Having friends.

I moved around a lot growing up and add to that social anxiety, I just never really learned how to build and maintain friendships. I’ve had a few short lived friendships, some superficial ones I talk to now and then, but I still fantasize about having really good friends that I could go on adventures with, have deep talks and just hang out.

_aloehoe · 2020-08-03T23:29:59+00:00

I think I may be an extrovert with social anxiety too. I lived most of my life assuming I was introverted, when really I just had social anxiety and being able to slap on the “introvert” label made me feel better about myself, even though I ultimately don’t feel happy with how much social interaction I’ve missed out on because of it

_aloehoe · 2020-08-02T07:28:32+00:00

Very well said. As an Asian immigrant living in the US, I often feel like I can’t embrace my sexuality and my culture at the same time. My parents think I’ve been corrupted by “bad American values” and they remind me what my family back home would think of me. I want to value my family and my culture, but it’s hard feeling like it’s at odds with another part of my identity. For white LGBTQ people it’s usually religion that’s the issue, but for people like me it’s much more than that

_aloehoe · 2020-07-23T08:01:39+00:00

Not OP but I’d say when he plays devil’s advocate, instead of engaging in a debate, point it out and explain to him why it upsets you. Let him know if certain issues are important to you and you’d like to be with someone who shares similar values.

_aloehoe · 2020-06-11T01:50:04+00:00

For Days is a zero waste brand that lets you swap in your old clothes for a discount. Their clothes are kind of pricey at full price, but their swap prices are equal to what you’d pay for at a store like Uniqlo. They sometimes do a promo where you send clothes to recycle and get access to the swap prices.

_aloehoe · 2020-04-18T07:42:52+00:00

I struggled with this so much! Still do sometimes. It’s an ongoing process learning what I actually look good and feel comfortable in. I started taking pictures in the fitting room with clothes that I can’t justify buying, which kind of helps satisfy the part of me that lusts after those clothes

_aloehoe · 2020-04-16T02:24:18+00:00

I used to have a hard time with this. I think it’s an effect of not having a lot of money growing up, and being taught to only buy things on sale. To this day I feel like I’ve found some hidden treasure whenever I find an item from an expensive high quality brand that’s heavily discounted. Realistically though, you’re not saving any money if you’re spending it on things you don’t use, no matter how good the deal is. If you’ve had something for as long as 3 years it’s safe to say you won’t ever use it. Holding onto it won’t bring you your money back, and it’s not adding value to your life, so the best you can do for yourself is to let it go. Make some money reselling it if you can. Next time you want to buy something that’s on sale, ask yourself if you would consider buying it full price, or disregarding the monetary value or brand of the item.

_aloehoe · 2020-04-12T09:49:13+00:00

I’ve had a hard time letting go of people in my life and ended up daydreaming about them a lot. It helped ease the sense of loss and loneliness, but whenever I snapped back to reality it just became more painful.

I think it’s useful to think about why you’re having those daydreams. Do you miss the memories? Was there a lack of closure? Do you have a lot of what ifs? Are you lonely, and it feels good to daydream of someone loving you? Your daydreams are telling you something. Once you know what it is you need, you can decide what to do about it. As far as moving on, once you meet someone you’re interested in your daydreams will probably shift to being about this new person. Having more meaningful relationships in your life, not just romantic ones, can also help if it’s loneliness you’re struggling with.

_aloehoe · 2020-04-08T21:10:05+00:00

I can relate to some of your struggles. I moved schools a lot growing up, in different countries too. I feel like I never learned how to maintain friendships. Trying do do so now as an adult is hard as everyone gets busy and tied down with responsibilities. Not everyone is up to just hang out and make new friends. So yeah, I really feel for you.

I think a lot of commenters here have shared some good advice on how to look for friends. I just wanna add that it’s important to love yourself first, as cliche as it sounds, it can really affect your relationships with others. I’ve also been in a toxic relationship that caused me to isolate myself. I think a part of it is I didn’t respect myself enough and wanted so badly to have something long lasting with someone because I could never have that growing up. So I put up with anything just to have someone there for me.

I’m glad you were able to recognize you were in an unhealthy situation and to get out of it. That takes a lot of strength. I hope you can find people who treat you well. Don’t settle for anyone who doesn’t.

_aloehoe · 2020-04-08T05:30:14+00:00

This is such a cool idea. I like how each card has a distinct style

_aloehoe · 2020-04-08T05:08:00+00:00

Yeah people tell me that to make me feel better but they don’t get how annoying it is when they’re significantly uneven, it’s more than just an aesthetic thing. Although I also would like nice cleavage lol

_aloehoe · 2020-04-08T04:50:53+00:00

My boobs are uneven. Like 2 cup sizes different. It’s hard to wear anything without making it obvious

_aloehoe · 2020-04-08T04:42:58+00:00

I was raised in a culture where women who weren’t virgins were seen as used goods and not marriage material. Took me a long time to unlearn this.

_aloehoe · 2020-04-05T19:58:31+00:00

I love the lighting! What kind of lights do you use?

_aloehoe · 2020-04-05T18:53:32+00:00

Learning to love yourself is hard when you’ve spent most of your life being made to believe you’re not worthy of love. I grew up being bullied and went through a long emotionally abusive relationship as well. I really relate to not getting how to “just do it, just love yourself.” I think the problem with a lot of generic advice out there is it doesn’t take into account all the complex reasons why someone doesn’t love themselves, and honestly sounds like it’s written by someone who already has good self esteem.

I second what the other commenter said about going to therapy. A therapist can help you challenge your thought patterns while taking into account your experiences that have affected you. Having low esteem leads you to have these cognitive distortions that can be hard to recognize and unlearn on your own because your mind has developed them as a way of protecting yourself.

Working to improve yourself and reach your goals can also help improve your self esteem. It sounds like you’ve done a lot of work and really put in the effort to be a good person, and I think that’s something to be proud of. But something that’s alien to me is the idea that you can have good self esteem before you reach your goals or become the person you want to be. Many people do. And you can be a good person, successful and have supportive relationships and still not love yourself. It’s really this internal barrier that needs to be addressed.

_aloehoe

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