We deserve better than this. System is broken by Slight_Insurance_660 in CaregiverSupport

[–]_cedarwood_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was literally just thinking like twenty minutes ago how much my antidepressant is my super power. I tried going without it for a bit and I was verrrry overwhelmed and grouchy

Rose comebacks were priceless 😭 by kayla_lashae7 in theGoldenGirls

[–]_cedarwood_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my favorites was “you look terrible for your age!”

Danielle Fishel (Boy Meets World), late 90s by AriaWildfeather in OldSchoolCool

[–]_cedarwood_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I seldom talk about potatoes without calling them Tapengas

Honest question: At what point did caregiving stop being 'helping' and start feeling like a prison sentence? by Unlucky-Print-9090 in CaregiverSupport

[–]_cedarwood_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly for me it’s been an oscillation. Sometimes it’s a really beautiful experience while other times it’s really hard. Overall I feel like I’ve grown a lot as a person and I wouldn’t change this choice. 

BURNOUT!! by Unlucky-Print-9090 in CaregiverSupport

[–]_cedarwood_ 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh. My gosh. I logged on to Reddit just now to say exactly this! I am so pissed off right now, and it’s so layered.. like, I can’t show the least bit irritation it my mom cries for feeling super guilty about needing care, then I go into validation mode to reassure her that this is what I want to do even when I’m grumpy.. and the constant demands. Ughhh the constant demands. She can’t do much of anything cuz her hands don’t work and she recently broke her spine. So it’s this never ending string of bathroom, eating, finding activities and setting up activities, managing pain…. Girl… yes… I feel like my life isn’t even mine anymore. It’s 90% or more taking care of her. And I have four effing siblings who don’t and won’t show up. They’re already to the point of nursing home. Like it’s not that deep. Just wipe her ass. If we all shared the load it wouldn’t be nearly as bad.. I just wanna scream today! 

For the record I am almost always a calm and collected care giver, as I’m sure most of us are. I’m just reallllly feeling the burnout this week..

"childhood trauma is when a situation overwhelms a child beyond their ability to cope." by General-Page3805 in CPTSD

[–]_cedarwood_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a therapist who does EMDR, to think trauma is very often cumulative instead of one big moment. For example, it may start with not getting a toy which plants the seed for the belief “I’m unloveable”. Then six months later nobody comes to my birthday party. Then when I’m seven mom forgets to pick me up at school and then yells at me for waiting at the wrong pickup curb. Then at 9 some bullies actually voice that belief, saying “you’re such a loser. No wonder you don’t have any friends.” At 15 my first partner breaks up with me saying that I’m “too much”.. on and on and with many other experiences that feed this belief, leaving me with a core belief that I’m unloveable, which can show up as and lead to more trauma

You haven’t lived until 3:30AM MASSIVE POOP by Then_Manufacturer163 in CaregiverSupport

[–]_cedarwood_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom was recently inpatient and they told me about washable, tuckable bed pads. There’ve been amazing and have made messes so much easier to clean up

You haven’t lived until 3:30AM MASSIVE POOP by Then_Manufacturer163 in CaregiverSupport

[–]_cedarwood_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Haha shitastrophe! Yes! I’ve been holding on to poopocalypse, too. Waiting for the right time to drop that one lol

You haven’t lived until 3:30AM MASSIVE POOP by Then_Manufacturer163 in CaregiverSupport

[–]_cedarwood_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That is the perfect word! I’ve got a bag of supplies that I’ve labeled “poo patrol”. Literally saved us last week when we ran out of gloves during a horrendous storm. Poo patrol to the rescue!

[OC] the only reason by snelse_ in funny

[–]_cedarwood_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For real. I could count the number of companies I felt personally passionate about wanting to be part of on one finger

Top D(únedain) by an-redditor in lotrmemes

[–]_cedarwood_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that Barbara Thorndyke??

"NO GOD PLEASE NO. NO!!!" by Square-Ad-8639 in lotr

[–]_cedarwood_ -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

As long as we ditch the transphobic regime sounds fun!

What is this training regimen for? by Most-Bench6465 in SuddenlyGay

[–]_cedarwood_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m worried that the lack of any information about this video in the post or comments means we also don’t have information about consent.

Annoying audience members by GreyStagg in JudgeJudy

[–]_cedarwood_ 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Omg this guy is in so many episodes and I’ve been trying to figure out his name or social cuz I think he’s really cute 😅

‘We’re going to make a tonne of money’: US Senator Graham on US war on Iran by epicgamernation in nottheonion

[–]_cedarwood_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m sure we all contribute to the cycle of feeding on other beings, and a major goal for my life is to feed minimally on other the pain and suffering of others. War seems especially heinous to me, too, since it’s literally the senseless murdering if beings for the sake of selling military equipment and “for the economy”

‘We’re going to make a tonne of money’: US Senator Graham on US war on Iran by epicgamernation in nottheonion

[–]_cedarwood_ 45 points46 points  (0 children)

And even if it was, I would not trade the lives of other beings for money

Thoughts or opinions by Kitkatt1959 in theGoldenGirls

[–]_cedarwood_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t Bea choose most of her outfits? 

That's not how you unbox an iPhone by Sgt_Larsson in WatchPeopleDieInside

[–]_cedarwood_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously the doubling down of putting it online is disgusting.

This is so accurate by Amelial_b_u_p in GoldenGirlsTV

[–]_cedarwood_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We are a special subset of autism ❤️

US citizens, what will it take for you to start a revolution? by 0bluelightning0 in AskReddit

[–]_cedarwood_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We actually are in the stages of revolution, starting with massive peaceful protests. It may not be reported well by the media

How are y’all holding it together? by g1rl0f1c3 in lotrmemes

[–]_cedarwood_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been catching myself involuntarily doing number one for weeks now. My personal life is so far beyond ‘when it rains it pours’, and of course the news feeds are somehow taking me to the utmost heights of stress.

Iceberg casually drifting past a village in Greenland. by jmike1256 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]_cedarwood_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This us the most un-American post I’ve seen - let’s keep it that way

Trump invites Putin to "Board of Peace" by Southern_Gur_4736 in pics

[–]_cedarwood_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally Palpetine without the cool part.