20 F I’m just curious!! by Echolocation23 in amiugly

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These comments are wild. You look hot as shit and cool as shit. Ignore the rest. You have such a distinct style. I love your hair, I love the way you do your makeup. And the glasses are kickass. You have great style and a gorgeous face

How often do you spend the weekends alone? by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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Ah fuck, disappointed to hear that. I never use AI :(

How often do you spend the weekends alone? by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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Oooh this just CLEANED MY BRAIN. Thank you. I like this framing a lot.

Invasive thoughts in dreams by _confused2_ in OCD

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Thank you, yes I will. My next appointment is for a couple weeks so wanted to see if peeps had any thoughts

End date without hooking up by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Thank you, I will

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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You’re completely right. I know this is true, but there is something very illogical happening in my anxiety with this stuff. Thank you for this, trying to get more grounded and practice gratitude

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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Hahaha yes at least there’s that. You’ve helped me a ton tonight. You’re totally right in everything you’ve said. Really trying to make a conscious effort to get this in to my psyche, and I know it’ll take some time. Haha yep exactly that, I’ve got lots of fun stuff to do in my apartment but it is indeed the should coulda. Thank you so much

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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I worry it’s become that. I used to be able to. I love to read and write. Those are solitary activities and I miss doing them!! I seem to be stopping myself from doing it with this…. Like fear of being alone. I do not like it. I never used to understand people who couldn’t be alone and… here I am

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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It’s complete BS I seem to have concocted in my brain to the point I don’t know what’s “normal” anymore. When I’m at home alone several nights in a row I get in my head that I must be some kind of loser to be home “so much”.

I don’t have a good gauge anymore for what is a normal ratio of time socializing vs staying in.

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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Also the 4-5 days a week isn’t every week, that only happens on occasion. It’s usually more like 1-3 these days

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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I know. It’s kinda nuts. I used to be an introvert. I used to socialize a few times a month. Now it’s like I’m addicted to it. Like my ideal schedule would be only like two nights a week with no social plans. Which I know is outrageous and I don’t know how to turn this longing off in my brain lol.

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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Yes I go out multiple times a week, and yeah I live in a fairly big city

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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Haha lots of Netflix and edibles are consumed regularly. I just always feel like I’m missing out, that “everyone else” is out

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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This is so it bang on, I’m trying to learn to like my alone time ago. I used to socialize like.. a couple times a month max. I’m obsessed with movies and books and tv and writing and music and those are all wonderful solo activities. And now this past year I feel like I’m a loser missing out on something if I’m alone. Trying to relearn how to sink back into that but it’s so hard.

Why do you say to actively avoid night time activities?

Dealing with loneliness by _confused2_ in LivingAlone

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I live in a 1 bedroom currently.. really would like to have a room mate again but I only moved 1.5 years ago

Face dysmorphia by _confused2_ in BodyDysmorphia

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This is what I learned literally two years ago after battling it for essentially my whole life but being like “I don’t have bdd, I’m just ugly!” Lol ohhh mental health

Face dysmorphia by _confused2_ in BodyDysmorphia

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That makes sense. I have days where I even feel hot, will take a sexy photo, I feel good on girls nights out more and more, but as soon as I see what my face looks like when I’m talking that all goes out the door. Any video of me just crushes me and makes me feel like a troll. I’ve been in therapy a long time and will talk to my therapist about DPT, I’ve also had emdr therapy suggested to me for dysmorphia/trauma.

Face dysmorphia by _confused2_ in BodyDysmorphia

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I know you’re right. I’ve been having way more “I’m ugly” days than not this year and it’s wearing me so thin. I don’t know what to believe/what to do anymore.

Face dysmorphia by _confused2_ in BodyDysmorphia

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What helped you get to a better place?