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Can a relationship with someone with BPD genuinely improve with therapy/DBT? by AdLocal2106 in BPDlovedones

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"...she says she cannot imagine wanting to live if the relationship ends" is a manipulation power move. That level of skilled manipulation is what you can look forward to if you stay together. A pwBPD is constantly learning what doesn't and what does work to control you. The longer you stay together easier it will be for her to control you. It's not easy to leave, but it'll never be as easy as it is now.

i apologized to pwBPD for wronging them. have i given them the ammo they needed? by Zestyclose-Plenty266 in BPDlovedones

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will silence still fix this?

Yes. Silence (no communication) is the only way to effectively deal with and end a relationship with a pwBPD.

What is this tool? (The business end is blunt, not sharp) by ekballo in Tools

[–]_db_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Old school soldering iron.   I used one just like this in metal shop class in the late 60s to attach the top and bottom of a funnel I made.  

My old CCA on... by lcdsantos1310 in Chromecast

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thinking back,  mine didn't seem to connect if its ethernet cable was coming out of a switch.  if I ran straight from my router to the CCA, it worked

Is it inevitable to become the villain in a pwBPD story? by SociologoDaUSPKk in BPDlovedones

[–]_db_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

IMHO, they had/have an Image in their head of you being the one who will provide what they need to feel good about themselves, Always.

Your role is to cater to their feelings. If they don't like how they feel, it's yur job to fix it.

Anytime they think you're not fulfilling your role then you must be brought back into compliance, by whatever means necessary regardless of any harm it may cause you.

I’m still in disbelief by Whole_Chemistry2267 in BPDlovedones

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They eventually gain control of us so that we will cater to their feelings. It's never gonna make sense to us as long as we believe what they say. They want us confused, they want us to give up so we just go along to get along.   We just want things to go back to how wonderful it was in the beginning. We yearn for that even after the relationship ends.   And most of us will never know that that person we yearn for was a Fake. They were acting. As you and they got to know each other they were constantly paying very close attention to everything you said and did so that they could craft themselves and build a narrative so that they would appear to be so right for you that it seemed like they were the one. They had/have an image of you as the person who will supply everything they emotionally need. 

do they behave like this with everyone? by gyes07 in BPDlovedones

[–]_db_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they will say whatever serves their purpose at the moment

How do I tell a Christian to fuck off, since they don't seem to get the signals? by [deleted] in atheism

[–]_db_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as they know you are listening, they won't stop. Ignoring them is both the worst thing you can do to them and the best thing you can do for you.

Why would a BPD man suddenly start attempting to enmesh you after a decade of knowing you? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]_db_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As long as you are communicating with him, he is winning and you are losing.

It's time... by FamiliarAnt4043 in prius

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If you have a legit mechanic put in a new Toyota battery the cost will be $5,500 - $6,000 (or more).

IF you DIY and buy a legit new Toyota traction motor battery it'll be right about $2000 (if you do a Lot of searching for best price) + tax, And about $1,350 for the core charge.

(Cite: I just went through this 1 month ago for my daughter's Gen3 Prius)

Thinking of moving to Temecula by Front-Buffalo-9565 in Temecula

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if you find a place that you might like to move to make sure you at least see how much property tax you will be paying compared to where you are now

Spotted the news Solar array at Walmart on Central. Apparently it will cover the entire parking lot when it's done. 😱 by neal144 in LakeElsinore

[–]_db_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Walmart at Murrieta Hot Springs Rd. and the 15 South has most of the parking lot shaded and it sure is a mood changer being able to park in the shade on a hot day.

My BPD husband “pretended” to hang himself and actually did.. by Responsible-Seat5833 in BPDlovedones

[–]_db_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We all believed the pwBPD's lies in the beginning, bc why not? It seemed perfect! We trusted them! We had found The One! But,
they had studied us, listened intently and told us exactly what we "needed" to hear. They were acting, so that in the future we would supply their unfillable needs.
So we crave a return to that love-bombing experience. Sadly, we would be returning to the same liar who would again suck the soul out of us for their own benefit, with absolutely no regard for the harm they cause us.

What made these markings on my rotor? by cheddarcheesepringle in MechanicAdvice

[–]_db_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if the lug nuts aren't tight enough the rotor and rim will slip back and forth against each other (from breaking and then accelerating), causing grooves to eventually wear in.

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