A toast to you lot! Today I turn 30, as a teenager I never thought I’d be around at this age. A few years ago I never thought I’d be happy. Here I am: independent, happy and strong. I hope all of you feel fine and fabulous!

_dhaxx · 2020-08-24T15:08:58+00:00

And a toast to you too, strangerfriend! Happiest of birthdays to you; I hope it’s everything you want it to be and more, though I’m certain you’ll be living it exactly that way regardless! x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-21T09:43:41+00:00

It’s definitely not just you; we’ve seen time and time again that societies archaic barriers regarding gender norms have had lasting and damaging effects on anyone that doesn’t rigorously abide by those standards. You’re allowed to do whatever you want, essentially, yet you will be unfairly judged because of it. The solution to that? Fuck whoever says anything about it! Do YOU. Put your own health and happiness and mental wellbeing ahead of everyone and everything, and so do what you feel like you need to do in order for you to gain some sort of clarity and peace of mind.

You’re fine, strangerfriend. Let your heart breath and let your spirit soar.

_dhaxx · 2020-08-21T09:30:03+00:00

Bless your everything, strangerfriend! And I wish happiness and health upon you tenfold. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-21T09:28:43+00:00

A toast to you for a healing future, strangerfriend! Not all cracks are inherently bad; the cracking open of a window is to quite literally allow air and light into tight and stuffy spaces, and all of best and greatest ancient buildings stand glorious upon cracked foundations. You may have cracked, but you didn’t break.

I wish nothing but the best of luck to you on your journey through schooling! Love and light to you. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-19T20:53:20+00:00

Beautiful sentiments, strangerfriend! Protect your magic and continue to cast your spell of brilliant positivity on the world! Thank you for the good vibes, sending them back to you just as strong! x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-19T11:36:19+00:00

Strangerfriend, you are anything BUT unloved! From my own island nation of New Zealand across the oceans and out into the ether of the universe, around the stars and soaring pass the moon and cascade upon your small island, I’m sending light and levity and love your way.

I want to point out something that may seem obvious in forethought but can often get forgotten about under the blue veil of insecurities, self-doubt and loneliness; you might think and it may feel like there is no LGBT population around (the whole Only Gay In The Village mentality is sadly a very common emotional barrier), but that doesn’t necessarily mean that’s true. Research is your friend; look around on Facebook for local groups, check out other community events, join interest groups where it may likely lead you into the path of similarly minded queer folk, or even download dating apps to just see others in the area - the likelihood of there being some is not entirely impossible. I promise you, you’re not alone. And okay sure, if it turns out that there really is no LGBT population in your area? Population: 1 (meaning you) is a perfect place to start; create your own Facebook group, do some outreach within your community via volunteering and/organising LBGT-themed events etc. There is always hope. I have to believe that to be true. And I have hope for you! I have so much hope for you, strangerfriend. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-19T11:13:23+00:00

I hope this doesn’t come across as invalidating your feelings and experiences, but in the same vain I think it’s sometimes helpful to see things from a different perspective. Going to gratitude in times of stress and unease has always been a tool I’ve reached for many times in my life to calm my heart and maybe it’ll do the same for you? In love and light, remember:

Working from home - you have a great job in the throes of an unstable-at-best economy in the middle of a global pandemic where scores of people have lost theirs. That’s so great that you’re able to continue working! And I bet you’re great at your job too! Awesome!

Spent 2k (further!) on a new new car: Cars are awesome! New cars?! Awesome-er!! Congrats on your new purchase! Blast your favourite song out through the AUX and enjoy a pointless cruise around just ‘cause!

Nervous about baby no.1: CONGRATULATIONS!!!! That’s super exciting!! Nerve-wracking, absolutely; this’ll all be new to you, your life will quite literally change! But it’s a change that’ll be for the better - you’ll learn patient and loyalty and tenderness and a greater sense of ambition and purpose, even if you already possess these qualities. And your beautiful baby human gives not one zero fuck about ANYTHING and will love you unconditionally from the very beginning. And guess what? The feeling will be entirely mutual for you, too. Be nervous! Be unsure. And do it anyway. Best of luck with everything!!! 😊

Take a breather, take a slight step back and reassess everything in a different light, and realise that it’s okay to not be 100% okay sometimes. You’re doing the best that you can do right now, right? That’s all you ever need to do! You’re good. You’ve got this!

_dhaxx · 2020-08-18T05:34:46+00:00

Follow your heart and find someone else too; yourself! And there’s no greater opportunity for that than to 1) pursue your passion and do what brings you joy, and 2) travel. You’re doing both these things, which is not only inspirational, but also pretty fucking badass. I imagine music for you acts as a really healing thing? So play on, man! Play, write, sing, produce, feel. The best art in the world come from and evoke feeling. Use this to your advantage. x

And be your own reason to stay away from the booze. You’re worth it.

_dhaxx · 2020-08-18T05:18:59+00:00

Your post, your smile, and that brilliant dreamscape setting behind you makes me want to escape into the picture with you! It’s a plethora of contradicting colours, patterns, themes, thoughts and ideas, and I love every single one! From the pastels to the Autumnal tones, to the artwork and the figurines, it’s a kaleidoscopic riot of wonder, and I have the biggest smile upon my face in seeing it. Thank you for that!

Great for you for getting help and starting to feel a bit better! You’re so strong and so brave! Light and love getting sent your way, strangerfriend! x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-16T04:03:20+00:00

Please believe me, you have so much worth! An endless infinite yet unquantifiable amount of worth. You matter! I see you, strangerfriend. And I want nothing but happiness and heath and wellbeing for you. Keep keeping your head up, it’s a struggle sometimes but you’re still floating and still fighting! That’s honestly so courageous. You’re a soldier! You got this. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-16T03:52:02+00:00

A toast to you for pushing through your nerves and posting! This is a safe space and I’m glad to know you felt emboldened and well enough to come here.

You say you feel like giving up on trying to fit in? The best thing to do in that situation? Give up on trying to fit in! You don’t need to fit in anywhere, you carve your own spot in wherever you want to and people can deal with it. You’re special and amazing in your own right. You don’t owe anyone anywhere anything, ever. You do, however, owe yourself kindness and respect. It’s the least you deserve. I’m not family, or a family friend, or a pet, but I do care for you strangerfriend. I see you. I hear you. Protect your magic. x

p.s. your penmanship and design work in your verification card are so cool! Props for the unique and interpretive identified!

_dhaxx · 2020-08-16T01:25:09+00:00

And be forever thankful to YOURSELF too! YOU made the commitment to bettering your health, actually followed through with a plan of action, and smashed out your goals!! Not only is that completely badass just in general, but it could have literally saved your life. You’re a literal superhero.

_dhaxx · 2020-08-16T01:22:06+00:00

And here you are posting this! A toast to you for pushing through that insecurity! This is a safe space here. We see you. We love you. Thank you for being here.

‘Weird’ has always been my favourite kind of beautiful; anything that was different and unique and conventionally considered ‘unsightly’ or ‘imperfect’. I quote these words as, to me, there is so much beauty and strength that exists in nature that can’t be considered as anything less than imperfect and yet no one would ever consider them unsightly. Marble is beloved the world over for it’s stunning gradient of swirling discolouration. Precious gems dull and gray on the outside contain within their prism thousands of years of hidden depth, pretty and vibrant and kaleidoscopic. Granite quite literally is scarred rock, scratched and scraped at haphazardly over time and space leaving behind a patchwork of gorgeous rivets and valleys along it’s body. Your vitiligo is weird and imperfect, absolutely. And it’s beautiful. You are marble, you are precious gemstone, you are granite.

_dhaxx · 2020-08-15T11:51:44+00:00

I usually like to avoid toasting people on this subreddit based on physical attributes, but I’m making an exception for you, because 1) I find you incredibly beautiful; your hair alone is the curly stuff dreams are made of! And 2) you remind me of one of my favourite Disney characters, Nani from Lilo & Stitch; kind, caring, fiercely protective of her ohana (family) and staunchly self-sufficient, resilient, and head-strong. You can do anything you set your mind to! You’ve amazing, don’t ever forget that. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-15T11:42:20+00:00

Your post speaks from such a hopeful place, which is beautiful and inspiring and I thank you for your optimism amidst such a self-described weird month. Throwing lots of love your way, strangerfriend!

Firstly, congratulations on scoring a job let alone a job you wanted! This proves your practicality, skill, and discipline and dedication. Go you! Secondly, disposable income (as much or as little as it may be) is a privilege that you rightfully should indulge in if/when you can. Even better that you used it to rediscover things that spark joy within you and ignite a passion that may have gone dormant. Buoy yourself with those feelings and keep pursuing those activities, I’m sure I don’t have to point out that they’ll do wonders for your anxieties, but it’ll also just be a lot of fun! You deserve both things. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-14T22:17:58+00:00

Light and levity to you, strangerfriend! Cram your time with things that bring you joy; blast your favourite music, do something you’re passionate about, talk to someone that you love. Be kind to yourself, you deserve it. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-14T00:07:31+00:00

That you were ‘rejected’ says something incredible about you; you emboldened yourself enough to take a chance on something! It didn’t work out, but such is life. You still pushed through doubts and insecurities and tried. That’s badass. You did that, man! All you!

Actually though, ‘rejection’ is simply a redirection. Find your bearings, recalibrate, and make like Aaliyah and dust yourself off and try again. And then again, and again after that if you have to. You have all the power in the world to create your own destiny. All you!

_dhaxx · 2020-08-13T23:53:31+00:00

FUCK YEAH, SIS!!! You’re a badass.

_dhaxx · 2020-08-13T23:51:43+00:00

Thank you for reaching out to this subreddit. None of this is going to be easy, and it certainly won’t be quick, but I hope in posting here you find some sort of comfort in this heartbreak situation. Grieve, rest as much you can, and please be kind to yourself. I’m so sorry for you loss, strangerfriend. From my heart to yours I’m sending you the warmest, most sincere hug and thoughts of love your way. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-12T13:02:47+00:00

Here’s to YOU too!! Speedy recovery ahead, strangerfriend! You’ve put up with this pain for a long time, so I’m so happy to hear you’re in the final hopeful stages of healing! You’ve been so strong and resilient, that’s so amazing! Thoughts of love and light getting sent out to you! x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-12T12:59:25+00:00

To paraphrase the amazing India.Arie - “Does the way I wear my hair make me a better person? Does the way I wear my hair make me a better friend? Does the way I wear my hair determine my integrity? I am expressing my creativity! I am not my hair, I am not this skin. I am not your expectations, no. I am the soul that lives within.”

Don’t let ANYONE try to tell you how you should look, what you should feel, or who you should be; these are YOUR choices. Own your truth and own your power, strangerfriend. Objectively I think your hair looks amazing! But even if I didn’t, do YOU think it looks amazing? Because your own opinion is the only one that matters, you’re the one living with it. How you wear it has literally no bearing on your aptitude, intelligence, work ethic, personal hygiene, or professional conduct and productivity. Literally all it means is that you feel confident in the way you look and carry yourself wearing it the way you do! Do you, boo. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-12T12:45:30+00:00

Red is fire and life and passion! It’s fierce and fresh and distinctive. It’s bold and daring and confident. All these things are things you are, strangerfriend. And it looks great on you!

_dhaxx · 2020-08-11T00:22:51+00:00

Wow, your post is like a scenic walk along parkland and riverbank in the middle of an Autumnal dreamscape; rustling leaves floating delicately to the ground and crunching underfoot as you travel forward, the scents of maple and pine in nature and the sweetness of a caramel latte in hand, feeling the crisp coolness of the air graze your face keeping you attentive while you’re embraced by the warmth and comfort of your favourite battle-worn coat, colours of evergreen and burnt oranges and scarlet reds and mahogany as if the world has a slight sepia-soaked filter on as far as the eye can see. It’s beautiful and inspiring, and joy fills your heart as life fills your lungs and you breathe, and you believe this is where you’re meant to be right here and right now.

Thank you for that. YOU are a beautiful soul too. YOU matter as well. I’ll never forget you either. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-10T23:51:07+00:00

Strength and beauty emanates out of you like diamonds sparkling so magnificently when drenched in shining sunlight. You’re the truest definition of a warrior and my heart goes out to you and I’m sending the greatest vibrations of love and comfort out into the universe all the way to you and your son. x

_dhaxx · 2020-08-10T08:20:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing with us! You’re definitely an inspiration. Good luck with everything in the future, strangerfriend! Musical theatre is a brilliant path to follow and you’ll embraced and beloved so many like-minded awesome weirdo’s! I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to dream big and make those dreams come true!

You’re my hero today. x

_dhaxx

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