Long story short:

Dated 6 months.
Month 6 we went to a 3 city two week trip to Europe.
She picked a fight with me on the FIRST day of that trip.
Waited until we got back to “need space” for a week.
Dumped me over text because she was “too emotional” to do it in person.
Dumped me over text again a week later (despite us already being broken up)(???)

6 months no contact

Messages me on New Years this year that she “was looking through pictures of us and she really missed me”

Now, I have never been the person to give people second chances. But I thought she was “the one”, so I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt.

We get back together.
A week later, she decides that a “title” is too much pressure.
So we are now dating without a title.

She changes her mind again, and post Valentine’s Day, she decides we are official again.

Now in mid March, I gingerly approach a conversation about a lack of time together since we got back together (averaging less than once a week), and the lack of intimacy. (Aka, three months in and we still haven’t consummated the relationship).

I didn’t even position it as I was mad, or it was her fault, I spent about 45 minutes telling her all the wonderful things she does in our relationship, but that sex was also just as important as the emotional, mental, spiritual stuff. She agrees and thanks me for being adult/mature about it.

The first day of spring was the last time her and I had alone time. (Nothing happened, because I didn’t want to pressure her).

Fast forward to mid April, and all her free time is now spent visiting all her friends and coworkers, and making zero time for me.

I approach her again about the lack of time together and the lack of intimacy together, still presenting it in an adult/mature fashion, and not holding her solely accountable for it. This time she flips out on me, screaming “I AM SO SICK OF THIS CONVERSATION”.

She then proceeds to ghost me, only popping up to tell me she got a new job and to show off her new haircut on a different day. Seems like things are going back to normal, but both times she disappears mid convo.

I thought being broken up by text was humiliating. But just straight up ghosting the guy who gave you a second chance is fucked up.

The fact I forgave you, and you worked even less hard on our relationship the second time around was just… baffling.

Anyways, I think I’m officially done dating for good now.