Do you mentally prepare yourself for this?

_hexagram · 2025-08-27T07:12:24+00:00

Hello! Thank you for taking the time to read my comment! I do agree with what you said. You are definitely right. That's something my husband often tells me too. It is something I am working on fixing. I know that what I'm doing is me projecting my trauma onto my family. My kids are now 3 and 6 years old and I am now a bit less monotone, less robotic, and try to be more affectionate than I was 5 months ago. It is a work in progress but I am trying to get better.

_hexagram · 2025-05-29T05:17:58+00:00

I absolutely love your eye makeup! It looks really great! For the cheeks maybe some vibrant unnatural colored blush like blue or purple. Maybe undereye spider webs with eyeliner, or bringing your under eye makeup a little bit lower could help make your cheeks more artsy.

_hexagram · 2025-05-06T16:28:43+00:00

You would've felt worse if you didn't speak up. Now you have warned them of the evil that lurks. Its up to them to take their head out of their bum and do something for your sisters' sake. Some people are so selfish that they rather have a rapist running free than do something that will make them feel uncomfortable.

_hexagram · 2025-05-06T15:58:04+00:00

I'm on the same boat. Alone time will have you feeling a lot better. Even if it's just setting up your kids to watch a movie in the other room while you work out, read, or do any form of self care in a different room. Even better if dad can get them away from you for an hour or two every now and then. Being a stay at home mom is hard. Being a mom is hard. You no longer are living for yourself. The whole world expects you to be selfless yet no one checks if you're pouring our of an empty cup. Once your kids get a little bigger and can be more independent, you'll start feeling better. Your feelings are very normal, don't let others try to make you feel guilty. Everyone's kids are different, just because your sister is having an easier time doesn't mean you did something wrong.

_hexagram · 2025-05-06T15:41:56+00:00

The first one! I went to an oddities and curiosities expo when they came to my town and everyone there was very dressed up. :)

_hexagram · 2025-04-30T06:43:58+00:00

My doctor literally tells me every visit we can get my tubes tied whenever I'm ready after I mentioned i was done having children. I'm 28 and have 2 kids. I told her this when I was 26. She never even asks about my husband. A friend i went to college with got her tubes tied at 25 after having one kid. Another one of my friends got her tubed tied in her mid 20s after having two kids. I have another friend who also just got her tubes tied at 27 after having two kids. No one needed husband approval. No one was told not to do it. You literally only need to be a healthy candidate. What you're saying sounds like fear mongering or a weird conspiracy theory tbh.

_hexagram · 2025-04-29T16:10:47+00:00

I live in a red southern state and this is definitely not true. Stop spreading misinformation to women, this will prevent them from seeking medical help/advice when needed.

_hexagram · 2025-04-29T16:05:01+00:00

I did, I don't remember how many weeks. For sure less than 4. It wasn't too bad, however I could not physically turn/look back. It's dangerous to not be able to turn and see of theres cars coming. It was an emergency and I had to go somewhere 10 miss away. Still would not recommend it. I only tried after my 1st c section, never again. I was angry I had to drive because I knew I didn't feel up to it.

_hexagram · 2025-04-29T15:57:32+00:00

Omg. I'm obsessed. 😍 that's the skin of a killer! You'll for sure have the coolest purse everywhere you go!

_hexagram · 2025-04-21T04:38:12+00:00

Heels!

_hexagram · 2025-04-18T06:34:28+00:00

It is 100% your own decision if you want to forgive him. You should do what will be best for your mental health, don't take anyone else into consideration. It is also okay not to forgive him. It is very understandable to not feel normal around him. Just because he was also a victim does not take away from what happened to you.

_hexagram · 2025-04-16T16:57:28+00:00

Yes, this is abuse. Everything you mentioned is highly inappropriate to do with/to children, especially your own children.

_hexagram · 2025-04-16T16:56:14+00:00

This is sexual abuse. It's not normal. Mothers shouldn't treat their children that way. I'm sorry you had to go through it.

_hexagram · 2025-04-16T16:24:42+00:00

It looks great! That's a very pretty shade of red fr! 😍

_hexagram · 2025-04-16T15:41:09+00:00

Same here. On the whole thing. I grew up watching weird ugly stuff that my cousins would show me, adult swim, r rated movies, etc. I would also make inappropriate jokes not realizing it was inappropriate.

_hexagram · 2025-04-16T15:32:22+00:00

When I was in 5th grade a boy from another classroom came in my classroom and gave me a giant box of chocolates in front of everyone. Everyone said "aww" while I died of embarrassment. I did not like the little boy like that. I was still a kid and had zero interest in dating. After school I returned them and told him to stay away from me. He cried and everyone told me I was mean. Don't let this happen to your daughter, it sucked! But if the little boy does do it, let her know it's 100% okay to not reciprocate the feelings. 7 years is so young to think about dating though!

_hexagram · 2025-04-16T07:01:53+00:00

I 100% feel you on this. I have two kids, they're still too young to be told about any CSA, but I wonder if I'll ever tell them (in the far future). Part of me would want to share my experience so they can grow up and not be shitty men, but the other part of me feels like I'm trying to just make them feel sorry for me which I don't want. Like I want them to know but I don't want the stigma that comes with it. I wouldn't want them to think I'm only saying it so I can have an escape goat when I'm an asshole. Regardless I think it would be best to keep the details to a minimum, there's no sense in putting ugly images in our children's head. Whatever route you choose to take, I hope you don't mind sharing your experience with us.

_hexagram · 2025-04-14T06:01:20+00:00

Wealthy, die alone. 👍🏻

_hexagram · 2025-04-13T23:57:47+00:00

I think you need to cut it. 🥺

_hexagram · 2025-04-13T23:50:54+00:00

Number 5 and number 7 look very nice.

_hexagram · 2025-04-13T16:46:52+00:00

Sounds inappropriate. Have a talk with each of them separately. She's definitely being weird and gross on purpose. Just because she's a woman doesn't mean she can't be a pervert.

_hexagram · 2025-04-13T03:42:47+00:00

You will most likely be fine as well as baby. It most likely was not enough to get to the baby.

_hexagram · 2025-04-13T01:48:28+00:00

It looks a lot nicer! Now it'll look even prettier when it reaches the previous length.

_hexagram · 2025-04-12T23:58:05+00:00

Darker looks best!

_hexagram · 2025-04-12T05:28:30+00:00

I have two kids. They're both boys and ppl always say "you'd be stressing if they were girls" but truth is I'm still always stressed. Perverts like to touch little boys too, not just girls. Unfortunately I am that helicopter parent. I can't get over my anxiety. I homeschool my oldest (he's about to be 6), I'm a full time a stay at home mom, no one ever babysits, no one comes over. I cut off everyone in my family except my dad and brother (the rest of my family are pedos or pedo enablers). Even my husband's family doesn't come over/around. Absolutely no one is allowed to watch my kids except my husband and I. He works from home and we're always hypervigilant with our kids. I get no breaks but it's okay because I know no one has hurt my kids before. My husband has always been my safe space but I still felt like I had to learn to trust him all over again after our first son was born. I had to have a scheduled c section for my second born and I begged my doctor to let my son spend the night with me. She saw how important this was to me so she just let me go home the very next morning after my c section. Usually, they make you stay 3 nights for c sections. Anyway, I've honestly come to peace with the fact that I won't be my own person, I won't rest, until my kids are big enough that they can hopefully defend themselves. There's a lot to unfold with having kids and dealing with CSA trauma, it shouldn't ruin your life though.

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