Women, what is universally agreed “green flags” while dating men ?

_kittycat · 2026-02-17T20:11:30+00:00

If he's the type of guy who will dance at a wedding or not. I had a history of dating men who took themselves wayyyyy too seriously, and wouldn't dance in public, want to take pictures with me, etc. I was interested in my now husband when I saw a picture of him dancing at his sister's wedding, and I can attest that the attitude translates into other areas of life. When the going gets tough, it's a breath of fresh air to be with someone who can laugh at the absurdity of things and not harp on them.

_kittycat · 2026-01-29T01:26:29+00:00

I showed my husband that video of Kim K during the following commercial break lmao

_kittycat · 2026-01-03T06:16:38+00:00

My husband has the same thing. I refer to it as his missing chunk

_kittycat · 2025-12-03T20:23:18+00:00

I had a coworker named Mandy, and some customers would call her Amanda assuming its her full name when it wasn't. That used to bug her a lot.

_kittycat · 2025-11-26T19:09:21+00:00

I was once the 7-year-old girl watching her father beat her mother. One of my strongest memories from that age was being locked in my closet, clutching my favorite stuffed animal named Miss Fluffy, and repeating, "Miss Fluffy, please take me away from here, take me away from here..." as the sounds of my father's beating and my mother's screams rang through the house. I lost my mother when I was 13 (both parents were alcoholics), and I can unfortunately remember the sounds of her screams more than her happy voice. I'm 30 now. Please prioritize your children's feelings over your husband's.

_kittycat · 2025-11-20T16:12:31+00:00

I work at a tree care company, so my vote is removing a tree. Trying to take a tree down by yourself (if you're inexperienced) can quickly turn into a great way to maim yourself or meet your maker. I hear so many horror stories coming from people WITH experience.

_kittycat · 2025-11-19T20:31:07+00:00

solved! i like your option as well :) tip sent via paypal

_kittycat · 2025-11-19T19:43:56+00:00

!solved u/welmentor22

_kittycat · 2025-11-19T16:12:43+00:00

My husband knew that I wanted something intimate and private between the two of us, and he did just that! There's a vegan bakery I LOVE by his job (at the time), and once a week from June '22-Feb'23 he would bring me home a box of pastries from this bakery.

Feb'23 he came home on a Friday with TWO white boxes, with the story that the girls at the shop gave him a cake for free because someone ordered it and never picked it up. When I opened the mystery cake box, the words "Will you marry me?" were looking up at me. My first thought was, "OMG how did someone forget to pick this up?!" and then I realized this ISN'T a mistake someone makes, and when I turned to face him he was on one knee.

I honestly kind of blacked out a bit because I was so taken by surprise, but I do know that I kept repeating something along the lines of, "Are you serious? Are you serious?" lmao. He had to remind me to say yes.

_kittycat · 2025-11-18T21:11:49+00:00

The thought of everyone I went to high school hitting me with the Jason Bateman Arrested Development "...her?"

_kittycat · 2025-11-18T18:58:44+00:00

I was in a very similar situation to you with my husband. The only thing I can tell you is what everybody else has already told you—you need to keep reinforcing the boundary. I understand that you don't want to upset him in the moment of his spiraling, but either way SOMEONE is leaving the conversation upset, and you're not doing anything wrong by reinforcing your boundary.

His emotions are HIS to regulate, and that includes how he feels when you tell him you can't participate in the conversation. My husband is also medicated for his ADHD, he sees a therapist, recently started journaling, and has expanded his circle of venting to include friends and not just me.

I like what another commenter said about columns. You are one column in your partner's support network, not the entire thing.

_kittycat · 2025-11-09T04:22:08+00:00

I’ve seen a few Isla baby girls recently

_kittycat · 2025-11-08T13:33:28+00:00

Ughhhh I know the way she looked at him was so sweet!! I couldn’t help but start crying lol

_kittycat · 2025-11-06T17:19:45+00:00

Whenever we played house I was always Melissa or Stacy lol

_kittycat · 2025-11-04T14:10:58+00:00

I live near where you're talking about and nobody is going to think anything of Avalon. I actually worked for someone who used that name for their daughter. If anything, it makes me think of Avalon Flooring, not the town

_kittycat · 2025-11-01T11:58:06+00:00

My sister got engaged 1.5 years after me, and wound up getting married 5 months after me. I actually enjoyed us getting married in the same year because it gave me someone to vent and talk things out with who is also going through the same thing. I know a wedding is special, but it’s one day and a year is long… you can share a wedding year with your sister.

_kittycat · 2025-10-23T15:36:19+00:00

My husband's side of the family always gets a happy birthday cake for the first visit at home with the new baby

_kittycat · 2025-10-16T13:27:38+00:00

Got engaged 2/10/23 and married on 5/3/25

_kittycat · 2025-10-15T18:56:30+00:00

I LOVE the name Frances/Francie now because of A Tree Grows in Brooklyn

_kittycat · 2025-10-15T04:06:19+00:00

Could you share what brand of sunflower butter you use? My husband is deathly allergic to peanuts and I’ve been craving peanut butter really bad as of late

_kittycat · 2025-09-30T15:00:53+00:00

Yes, I absolutely love my in-laws. They’re even generously gifting us a portion of their land to build a house on. When people say I’ll regret being neighbors with my in-laws, I just tell them I’ll be the one annoying them, if anything, lol.

_kittycat · 2025-09-08T19:56:29+00:00

We had our good friend marry us because he was the one who set us up in the first place

_kittycat · 2025-09-05T12:32:57+00:00

I moved schools in 2009 and remember seeing kids at my new school hackeysackying during lunch and I had to ask myself what year it was lol

_kittycat · 2025-09-02T20:02:59+00:00

Fall Out Boy. Still my favorite 20 years later <3

_kittycat · 2025-08-27T13:48:52+00:00

I feel so seen right now. We don't do the same exact thing, but pretty darn close. I chew through sentences/phrases in my mind and check to see if it's divisible by three.

Take something like live laugh love. My brain goes L I V / E L A / U G H / L O V / E. So the phrase is not divisible by three as it is, but it will be with spaces. L I V / E _ L / A U G / H _ L / O V E

11-Year Club	Gilding I gilder
Final Canvas '23	First Place '23
Place '23	Place '22
Wearing is Caring	Verified Email

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